Should You Forgive a Cheating Girlfriend?
If you discover your girlfriend is cheating on you, you will naturally have some things to deal with in your mind, namely anger, low self-esteem, depression and feelings of betrayal. Before you forgive her and begin any attempts at saving the relationship, you need to know the ways to distinguish between an unfaithful woman who will do it again and a woman who is truly sorry.
First, you need to examine what was wrong with your relationship in the first place. There are many reasons why women cheat. Determine her reason for cheating and consider whether you have anything to work on in the relationship that may have led to her cheating, like possibly lowering her interest level. If you love her and you feel that she truly does love you then both of you can work through it, even with the use of couples counseling, if necessary.
There is a big difference between a one time mistake and a long term affair. Make sure you know everything. When you ask her questions about it look her straight in the eyes and see if she is looking back into yours. If she isn't then there may be more she is not telling you.
If a significant amount of time has past since the incident then weigh what has been built since with what you would lose if you went your separate ways. Consider your physical health and emotional well-being. Could she be putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases? Can you deal with being one of many possible sexual partners that may be infected with something? Regardless if you can or not, consider getting an AIDS or other STD test.
You must also determine whether or not she came back to patch things up with you because she truly loves you or because things didn’t work out with the other guy she cheated with. If you decide to forgive her and take her back, make a list of "rules" never to be broken, go over them with your partner and tell her that she must do these things to remain in the relationship and regain your trust. If she agrees then this list will help in the following months.
As time passes images of the incident or thoughts of "is she cheating" could pop-up in your head. Consider whether you can actually continue in the relationship regardless of whether she will do it again or not and if so, separate yourselves from any bad influences or images that will remind you of the cheating and the bond of trust that was broken.
Remember that you are not the only one going through this, in fact you will come to find that many of your friends or family have been hurt by cheating. Take advice and listen carefully to your lady, but ultimately you have to do what you feel is best for yourself. Remember--it's how hard she is willing to work to regain your trust that really counts.
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ReBuilding When Your Relationship Ends
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
Ending a relationship is never easy. There can be some painful feelings that come when a relationship ends; however, there are some things you can do to speed up the healing process and to move on successfully.
First, you'll need a cooling off period. To recover from the break up quickly, stop feeling sorry for yourself and be determined and proactive in helping yourself get over her. Take all the time you need to get over her. For some men, dealing with a breakup may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. Remove objects that remind you of your past love and begin meeting new people.
Spend quality time with your family and friends. Talk about your relationship break up and feelings with the people who love you most and stick with you through the tough times. They will give you advice about relationships and encourage and help you to move on with your life.
Get out and try some new things. For examples, join some singles groups, try singles cruises or a singles vacation with some friends. This would also be the best time to exercise and look good. Getting your body back in shape and feeling comfortable will eventually give you the confidence to get back in the dating game, meet new women and rebuild your ego. In the meantime, enjoy being single for a while and resist meeting new women. A rebound relationship may ease some pain, but are usually doomed from the start
Ending a relationship is never easy. There can be some painful feelings that come when a relationship ends; however, there are some things you can do to speed up the healing process and to move on successfully.
First, you'll need a cooling off period. To recover from the break up quickly, stop feeling sorry for yourself and be determined and proactive in helping yourself get over her. Take all the time you need to get over her. For some men, dealing with a breakup may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. Remove objects that remind you of your past love and begin meeting new people.
Spend quality time with your family and friends. Talk about your relationship break up and feelings with the people who love you most and stick with you through the tough times. They will give you advice about relationships and encourage and help you to move on with your life.
Get out and try some new things. For examples, join some singles groups, try singles cruises or a singles vacation with some friends. This would also be the best time to exercise and look good. Getting your body back in shape and feeling comfortable will eventually give you the confidence to get back in the dating game, meet new women and rebuild your ego. In the meantime, enjoy being single for a while and resist meeting new women. A rebound relationship may ease some pain, but are usually doomed from the start
"Intimate Relationships"
Intimate Relationships
So you and your woman have reached a certain point in your relationship that allows you to get physical. The first sexual encounters in a new relationship can be both scary and exciting at the same time.
Between the two of you, you have the spark, the chemistry, the passion that it takes to build a good relationship. So how do you and your partner take your relationship to the next level?
Communication is one of the most important tools in relationship intimacy and should take place before the two of you are between the sheets. The two of you should have an open discussion about your intimate past. Things like the number of sexual encounters and sexual relationships you've both had and any risks for sexually-transmitted diseases should be discussed. Being honest can break down many barriers in your relationship.
Be patient and get to know your partner's body and physical features. You also need to tell your partner what kind of intimate wear you like to see and the very intimate pleasures you like. For example, If you like rose petals or to see her in skimpy thongs or you like foreplay, sensual massage techniques or certain love making positions, tell your partner. If your partner is really into you, then they won't force you to do anything that you don't like or not ready for. Remember, no means no.
Once your relationship has reached the intimate level, keeping your woman satisfied in bed is very important. Don't just lie there and let her do all of the work as doing this tells your partner that you want things to be rushed or that you're not really that into her for any reason other than sexual pleasure., e.g. "booty call".
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So you and your woman have reached a certain point in your relationship that allows you to get physical. The first sexual encounters in a new relationship can be both scary and exciting at the same time.
Between the two of you, you have the spark, the chemistry, the passion that it takes to build a good relationship. So how do you and your partner take your relationship to the next level?
Communication is one of the most important tools in relationship intimacy and should take place before the two of you are between the sheets. The two of you should have an open discussion about your intimate past. Things like the number of sexual encounters and sexual relationships you've both had and any risks for sexually-transmitted diseases should be discussed. Being honest can break down many barriers in your relationship.
Be patient and get to know your partner's body and physical features. You also need to tell your partner what kind of intimate wear you like to see and the very intimate pleasures you like. For example, If you like rose petals or to see her in skimpy thongs or you like foreplay, sensual massage techniques or certain love making positions, tell your partner. If your partner is really into you, then they won't force you to do anything that you don't like or not ready for. Remember, no means no.
Once your relationship has reached the intimate level, keeping your woman satisfied in bed is very important. Don't just lie there and let her do all of the work as doing this tells your partner that you want things to be rushed or that you're not really that into her for any reason other than sexual pleasure., e.g. "booty call".
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4 Signs Of A Controlling Woman
Signs of a Controlling Woman
Does your girlfriend control conversations, attempt to prove you wrong and constantly rewrite past events to make her point? Does she force you into agreeing with her and threaten to leave you if you don't do as she says? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? Does she break down your self-confidence little by little until you begin to believe you're nothing without her? If so, you might be dating a controlling woman.
These over-dominant women believe that men and relationships should run no way but their way and will even convince their men that it's for their own good. If your girlfriend exhibits any of these 4 tell-tale signs below, you may very well be in the hands of an overbearing, emotional bully and unless you like having your life steered for you and your opinions made by someone else, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
1. She makes your decisions for you
Controlling women will define you by telling you what you think and feel. They'll tell you when you can go out and when you can invite the guys over to watch the game. These manipulative women believe that they should be able to make every decision in your life and will explode into long tirades when you do not behave in line with their plans. They believe that they know what's best for their men and will even go as far as selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you'll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn't eat.
2. She always has to be right
Controlling women must be right at all times. These women are never wrong, and everything is always your fault. They constantly use lines such as "I didn’t do that," "I didn’t say that," "I don't know what you’re talking about," and "It wasn’t that bad." These women control men by shaming them for their thoughts, actions and every time they voice an opinion. They never try to understand your views and will constantly threaten to abandon you, end the relationship or give you the cold shoulder if you don’t play by their rules.
3. She tells you how to spend your money
A controlling woman will tell you that you're spending way too much money on things you enjoy, like drinks and eats with your pals, and suggests you save up for more important things, like her new wardrobe. Before you know it, she'll eventually become in complete control of your credit cards and your pay check.
4. She keeps constant tabs on you
A controlling woman will call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call. She also expects you to call her multiple times a day and demands to be by your side as often as possible.
Does your girlfriend control conversations, attempt to prove you wrong and constantly rewrite past events to make her point? Does she force you into agreeing with her and threaten to leave you if you don't do as she says? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? Does she break down your self-confidence little by little until you begin to believe you're nothing without her? If so, you might be dating a controlling woman.
These over-dominant women believe that men and relationships should run no way but their way and will even convince their men that it's for their own good. If your girlfriend exhibits any of these 4 tell-tale signs below, you may very well be in the hands of an overbearing, emotional bully and unless you like having your life steered for you and your opinions made by someone else, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
1. She makes your decisions for you
Controlling women will define you by telling you what you think and feel. They'll tell you when you can go out and when you can invite the guys over to watch the game. These manipulative women believe that they should be able to make every decision in your life and will explode into long tirades when you do not behave in line with their plans. They believe that they know what's best for their men and will even go as far as selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you'll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn't eat.
2. She always has to be right
Controlling women must be right at all times. These women are never wrong, and everything is always your fault. They constantly use lines such as "I didn’t do that," "I didn’t say that," "I don't know what you’re talking about," and "It wasn’t that bad." These women control men by shaming them for their thoughts, actions and every time they voice an opinion. They never try to understand your views and will constantly threaten to abandon you, end the relationship or give you the cold shoulder if you don’t play by their rules.
3. She tells you how to spend your money
A controlling woman will tell you that you're spending way too much money on things you enjoy, like drinks and eats with your pals, and suggests you save up for more important things, like her new wardrobe. Before you know it, she'll eventually become in complete control of your credit cards and your pay check.
4. She keeps constant tabs on you
A controlling woman will call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call. She also expects you to call her multiple times a day and demands to be by your side as often as possible.
7 Tips For Getting Over An EX
Getting over your ex is rarely a quick and easy process, and it’s often complicated by all the things that the two of you still have in common, like friends, favorite hangouts, etc.. One of the toughest parts about trying to get over an ex is that your mind will hardly let you think about anything else...especially if you really liked the girl. It’s never easy, but if you follow these 7 tips for getting over your ex, you can forget the past, focus on your future and be back in the saddle in no time.
1. Avoid the places she hangs out at
Don't go to all your old favorite places or where she hangs out at. The whole point right now is getting over her, so visiting old places where you used to go will only remind you of her, not to mention her friends might be there and could certainly make you feel unwelcome. It’s a small price to pay for peace of mind.
2. Exercise and stay active
Exercising and staying active can create a better self-image, lead to more confidence and is scientifically proven to make people happier. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem, improve your mood and alleviate depression, and the distraction will help keep your mind off your recent breakup. And don’t forget: The gym is also a great place to meet new women.
3. Get rid of items that remind you of her
After a break up, it's important that you get rid of all the things that remind you of your ex as soon as possible because these little reminders can keep you trapped in the clutches of heartbreak. Throw away all of the Christmas and birthday gifts she gave you, photos of the two of you and love letters that she wrote you. The sooner you get all that junk out of your home the sooner you’ll get over her emotionally.
4. Hang out with your friends
Now that you’re single, this is the perfect time to reconnect with the buddies you left behind while you were in that committed relationship with a girlfriend who was always greedy for all of your attention. Not only will it be fun, but it will also be therapeutic because interacting with your people who care about you is one of the most effective forms of therapy.
5. Avoid contacting her
This is probably the most important thing you should do when getting over an ex, and as hard is may be go to without seeing and hearing from her, you're going to need to grit your teeth and struggle through it. Even if she gave you the old line about trying to stay friends, forget it. Don't call her, email her, text her or contact her in any way. If you work or go to school with her, try to avoid her whenever possible. Furthermore, avoid people who you know would share personal details of your conversations with them with your ex.
6. Remember the bad times with her
When you find yourself missing your ex in a weak moment, one of the best tricks to help you stick to your resolve is to make a list of all the reasons she was not the one for you. Write down what happened and how it made you feel, being clear about the things you never want to feel again. Then tell yourself, "This is the reality of what it was like with her, so why would I want to go back and torture myself again with this woman?"
7. Enjoy your newfound freedom
After a breakup, don't underestimate the importance of taking the time to learn more about yourself, how to recognize bad relationship signs, how you relate to others and the problems you need to work on. A breakup can signify a new beginning, so keep yourself busy and treat your breakup as if you just got out of jail. Exercise this newfound freedom by meeting new people or doing things that your ex didn't approve of (within reason).
Stay out until three in the morning, hop on a plane to Vegas with your best friend, or just sit on your couch and watch football all day. Take pleasure in all of those things that you couldn’t do as a boyfriend. Take the opportunity after a breakup to explore new interests and activities as you begin looking forward to finding the woman of your dreams.
1. Avoid the places she hangs out at
Don't go to all your old favorite places or where she hangs out at. The whole point right now is getting over her, so visiting old places where you used to go will only remind you of her, not to mention her friends might be there and could certainly make you feel unwelcome. It’s a small price to pay for peace of mind.
2. Exercise and stay active
Exercising and staying active can create a better self-image, lead to more confidence and is scientifically proven to make people happier. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem, improve your mood and alleviate depression, and the distraction will help keep your mind off your recent breakup. And don’t forget: The gym is also a great place to meet new women.
3. Get rid of items that remind you of her
After a break up, it's important that you get rid of all the things that remind you of your ex as soon as possible because these little reminders can keep you trapped in the clutches of heartbreak. Throw away all of the Christmas and birthday gifts she gave you, photos of the two of you and love letters that she wrote you. The sooner you get all that junk out of your home the sooner you’ll get over her emotionally.
4. Hang out with your friends
Now that you’re single, this is the perfect time to reconnect with the buddies you left behind while you were in that committed relationship with a girlfriend who was always greedy for all of your attention. Not only will it be fun, but it will also be therapeutic because interacting with your people who care about you is one of the most effective forms of therapy.
5. Avoid contacting her
This is probably the most important thing you should do when getting over an ex, and as hard is may be go to without seeing and hearing from her, you're going to need to grit your teeth and struggle through it. Even if she gave you the old line about trying to stay friends, forget it. Don't call her, email her, text her or contact her in any way. If you work or go to school with her, try to avoid her whenever possible. Furthermore, avoid people who you know would share personal details of your conversations with them with your ex.
6. Remember the bad times with her
When you find yourself missing your ex in a weak moment, one of the best tricks to help you stick to your resolve is to make a list of all the reasons she was not the one for you. Write down what happened and how it made you feel, being clear about the things you never want to feel again. Then tell yourself, "This is the reality of what it was like with her, so why would I want to go back and torture myself again with this woman?"
7. Enjoy your newfound freedom
After a breakup, don't underestimate the importance of taking the time to learn more about yourself, how to recognize bad relationship signs, how you relate to others and the problems you need to work on. A breakup can signify a new beginning, so keep yourself busy and treat your breakup as if you just got out of jail. Exercise this newfound freedom by meeting new people or doing things that your ex didn't approve of (within reason).
Stay out until three in the morning, hop on a plane to Vegas with your best friend, or just sit on your couch and watch football all day. Take pleasure in all of those things that you couldn’t do as a boyfriend. Take the opportunity after a breakup to explore new interests and activities as you begin looking forward to finding the woman of your dreams.
Single Fathers and Dating
Single fathers and dating. Now, I personally wasn't so much craving for the attention of a Woman or companionship. I specifically was craving the want, love, passion, desire, romance and companionship of one woman, and one woman in particular. The Woman, was the mother of my son. That is the only person that I wanted in my life and wanted to give all of my love to.......
Most single fathers crave for the companionship of female company even more than single guys and having someone to share with, to laugh with, and to trust again. Although there's a void in your heart now that aches to be filled, prepare yourself and your kids before you become a dating single parent with the following steps:
1. Make taking care of yourself a priority
Doing this shows self-respect and it's a reflection of your personal boundaries.
2. Widen Your Circle of Friends
Make an effort to establish deeper friendships. Deeper relationships can enrich your life, and new friends will also introduce you to their friends, who might become great companions.
3. Get out of the house regularly
When your children are accustomed to your going out occasionally, and being a dating single parent won't seem like such a shock to them.
4. Be observant of relationships around you
As a dating single parent, you must pay attention to the relationships around you. Doing so can help you identify not only the type of woman you are looking for-but also the type of woman you're not.
5. Talk with your kids about dating
Take time to talk with your kids about your desire to date. Be honest with their questions and clue them in to your intentions. Make sure they know that you are looking for the right woman for you, not a replacement mother for your children.
Most single fathers crave for the companionship of female company even more than single guys and having someone to share with, to laugh with, and to trust again. Although there's a void in your heart now that aches to be filled, prepare yourself and your kids before you become a dating single parent with the following steps:
1. Make taking care of yourself a priority
Doing this shows self-respect and it's a reflection of your personal boundaries.
2. Widen Your Circle of Friends
Make an effort to establish deeper friendships. Deeper relationships can enrich your life, and new friends will also introduce you to their friends, who might become great companions.
3. Get out of the house regularly
When your children are accustomed to your going out occasionally, and being a dating single parent won't seem like such a shock to them.
4. Be observant of relationships around you
As a dating single parent, you must pay attention to the relationships around you. Doing so can help you identify not only the type of woman you are looking for-but also the type of woman you're not.
5. Talk with your kids about dating
Take time to talk with your kids about your desire to date. Be honest with their questions and clue them in to your intentions. Make sure they know that you are looking for the right woman for you, not a replacement mother for your children.
The Right Woman For A Single Dad
You’re a single dad now and that means that you have to carefully consider the qualities to look for in the woman who may one day be part of your child’s life. When jumping back into the dating scene, you must consider whether or not the woman that your dating has the ability to be a sufficient female role model for your children.
When dating as a single dad, the best woman for you is one who deeply and instinctively appreciates children. Being a single father, any woman you invite into your life will impact your child in some way. Keep in mind that there are women out there who have very little interest and/ or dislike children altogether. Finding out how a woman who feels about children before you even go on a first date will help you decide if this relationship is one worth pursuing. Remember, you are looking for a woman who is caring and treats your kids with a lot of love. The woman you are dating should have a soft spot for your kids and should show them plenty of affection because that is the only way they will bond and connect with her.
Any woman that wants to be a part of your life has to understand that when you are an active single father, your kids have to be your priority. The woman you're dating should be patient and understand that as a single dad, you always have to be prepared for the unexpected regardless of your child’s age, like those nights when you'll have to cancel that intimate date and rush your little one to the emergency room. A good woman will automatically understand that you have enough love in you to share with her as well. If she isn't flexible and throws tantrums when your kids dare to take your time away from her, you should stop seeing her.
A single father is a special guy, and a special guy needs to meet a special woman who will empathetic enough to love you and your kids. Juggling between drama-queen girlfriends and your kids just does not work out. Remember, trust your instincts and avoid any woman who gives you any wrong vibes. Chances are if your gut says no, this woman probably isn’t right for you or your children.
When dating as a single dad, the best woman for you is one who deeply and instinctively appreciates children. Being a single father, any woman you invite into your life will impact your child in some way. Keep in mind that there are women out there who have very little interest and/ or dislike children altogether. Finding out how a woman who feels about children before you even go on a first date will help you decide if this relationship is one worth pursuing. Remember, you are looking for a woman who is caring and treats your kids with a lot of love. The woman you are dating should have a soft spot for your kids and should show them plenty of affection because that is the only way they will bond and connect with her.
Any woman that wants to be a part of your life has to understand that when you are an active single father, your kids have to be your priority. The woman you're dating should be patient and understand that as a single dad, you always have to be prepared for the unexpected regardless of your child’s age, like those nights when you'll have to cancel that intimate date and rush your little one to the emergency room. A good woman will automatically understand that you have enough love in you to share with her as well. If she isn't flexible and throws tantrums when your kids dare to take your time away from her, you should stop seeing her.
A single father is a special guy, and a special guy needs to meet a special woman who will empathetic enough to love you and your kids. Juggling between drama-queen girlfriends and your kids just does not work out. Remember, trust your instincts and avoid any woman who gives you any wrong vibes. Chances are if your gut says no, this woman probably isn’t right for you or your children.
5 Signs That She Is Ready To Be "Kissed"
[Signs She's Ready to be Kissed] by The J RagTv NetWork
So it’s the end of your date, following a great dinner and good conversation. You want to kiss her good night. But how do you know if the timing is right? Many men fail to recognize the signs a woman is interested in them and also when a woman wants to be kissed. To know if she's ready to be kissed, here are 5 clues to look for:
1. The flow of conversation turns romantic
When you're talking to her and the conversation between the two of you moves from general to more intimate topics, it's because she has romance on the brain and it's a sure sign that she is just waiting to be kissed.
2. She looks you directly in the eyes and doesn't look away
Another good sign that she's ready to be kissed is when you're talking to her and she stares into your eyes for longer than normal duration and she scans you up and down, keeping her eyes locked on you and your lips while she talks or drinks. By this point, she’s comfortable being with you and has already made up her mind that she likes what she sees.
3. She’s very flirty and physical with you
When a woman enters your personal space and begins twirling her hair in her fingers and touching you more often in different places, she’s inviting a response and trying to become more intimate with you. If she wants you to kiss her, she'll also do things like smile at you more often and discreetly expose more skin to you.
4. She's comfortable with you touching her
If you reach up and brush her hair with your hand (especially the hair by the face) and she reacts well to it (ie: Doesn't pull away or look at you funny), then chances are - she's open to being kissed!
5. She draws attention to her mouth and lips
A woman's lips can be extremely seductive and there is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in them. If she is talking to you and she starts running her finger across her lips or leans her head toward you with her lips pouting and subtly puckered up, she's ready to be kissed. The more aroused she is, the more aware of her lips she becomes and that's when your kiss will be most welcome.
As a rule of thumb, when the girl falls into three of these signs, she’s done. All you need to do is move in and kiss her!
So it’s the end of your date, following a great dinner and good conversation. You want to kiss her good night. But how do you know if the timing is right? Many men fail to recognize the signs a woman is interested in them and also when a woman wants to be kissed. To know if she's ready to be kissed, here are 5 clues to look for:
1. The flow of conversation turns romantic
When you're talking to her and the conversation between the two of you moves from general to more intimate topics, it's because she has romance on the brain and it's a sure sign that she is just waiting to be kissed.
2. She looks you directly in the eyes and doesn't look away
Another good sign that she's ready to be kissed is when you're talking to her and she stares into your eyes for longer than normal duration and she scans you up and down, keeping her eyes locked on you and your lips while she talks or drinks. By this point, she’s comfortable being with you and has already made up her mind that she likes what she sees.
3. She’s very flirty and physical with you
When a woman enters your personal space and begins twirling her hair in her fingers and touching you more often in different places, she’s inviting a response and trying to become more intimate with you. If she wants you to kiss her, she'll also do things like smile at you more often and discreetly expose more skin to you.
4. She's comfortable with you touching her
If you reach up and brush her hair with your hand (especially the hair by the face) and she reacts well to it (ie: Doesn't pull away or look at you funny), then chances are - she's open to being kissed!
5. She draws attention to her mouth and lips
A woman's lips can be extremely seductive and there is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in them. If she is talking to you and she starts running her finger across her lips or leans her head toward you with her lips pouting and subtly puckered up, she's ready to be kissed. The more aroused she is, the more aware of her lips she becomes and that's when your kiss will be most welcome.
As a rule of thumb, when the girl falls into three of these signs, she’s done. All you need to do is move in and kiss her!
"Telling Your Child That You've Met Someone"
"Telling Your Child That You have met Someone"
Meeting someone when you’re a single parent is tough, but telling your child that you have met a new woman can be even harder. Along with your child’s fear of being replaced, you’ll also have to deal with his/her fear of potentially having an evil stepmother. Such fears are, from an adult’s perspective, unfounded, but to your child, they are completely legitimate and need to be addressed. So, how do you tell your child that you’ve met someone? Here are some suggestions.
When it comes to single parents and dating, the best thing is to be honest with your children upfront. Being a single father, the best time to tell them that you have met a new woman would ideally be after sufficient time has passed and you feel that they’ve completely adjusted to you not being with their mother. During the conversation, ask your child how he/she feels about you dating as a single dad and the fact you’ve met a new woman. Telling your child how you actually met your new woman and some of her characteristics upfront will prepare your child and make it emotionally easier for the time when they do meet the new woman in your life.
Once you have their blessing, remember--the most important step for a single father dating again is to remind your child that he/she is, and will always be, the most important person in your life and that no woman is going to come into your life and take you away from them. Give them that respect and chances are they will be happy for you......
Meeting someone when you’re a single parent is tough, but telling your child that you have met a new woman can be even harder. Along with your child’s fear of being replaced, you’ll also have to deal with his/her fear of potentially having an evil stepmother. Such fears are, from an adult’s perspective, unfounded, but to your child, they are completely legitimate and need to be addressed. So, how do you tell your child that you’ve met someone? Here are some suggestions.
When it comes to single parents and dating, the best thing is to be honest with your children upfront. Being a single father, the best time to tell them that you have met a new woman would ideally be after sufficient time has passed and you feel that they’ve completely adjusted to you not being with their mother. During the conversation, ask your child how he/she feels about you dating as a single dad and the fact you’ve met a new woman. Telling your child how you actually met your new woman and some of her characteristics upfront will prepare your child and make it emotionally easier for the time when they do meet the new woman in your life.
Once you have their blessing, remember--the most important step for a single father dating again is to remind your child that he/she is, and will always be, the most important person in your life and that no woman is going to come into your life and take you away from them. Give them that respect and chances are they will be happy for you......
Telling Your Child That You've Met SomeOne
Telling Your Child You Met Someone
Meeting someone when you’re a single parent is tough, but telling your child that you have met a new woman can be even harder. Along with your child’s fear of being replaced, you’ll also have to deal with his/her fear of potentially having an evil stepmother. Such fears are, from an adult’s perspective, unfounded, but to your child, they are completely legitimate and need to be addressed. So, how do you tell your child that you’ve met someone? Here are some suggestions.
When it comes to single parents and dating, the best thing is to be honest with your children upfront. Being a single father, the best time to tell them that you have met a new woman would ideally be after sufficient time has passed and you feel that they’ve completely adjusted to you not being with their mother. During the conversation, ask your child how he/she feels about you dating as a single dad and the fact you’ve met a new woman. Telling your child how you actually met your new woman and some of her characteristics upfront will prepare your child and make it emotionally easier for the time when they do meet the new woman in your life.
Once you have their blessing, remember--the most important step for a single father dating again is to remind your child that he/she is, and will always be, the most important person in your life and that no woman is going to come into your life and take you away from them. Give them that respect and chances are they will be happy for you.
Meeting someone when you’re a single parent is tough, but telling your child that you have met a new woman can be even harder. Along with your child’s fear of being replaced, you’ll also have to deal with his/her fear of potentially having an evil stepmother. Such fears are, from an adult’s perspective, unfounded, but to your child, they are completely legitimate and need to be addressed. So, how do you tell your child that you’ve met someone? Here are some suggestions.
When it comes to single parents and dating, the best thing is to be honest with your children upfront. Being a single father, the best time to tell them that you have met a new woman would ideally be after sufficient time has passed and you feel that they’ve completely adjusted to you not being with their mother. During the conversation, ask your child how he/she feels about you dating as a single dad and the fact you’ve met a new woman. Telling your child how you actually met your new woman and some of her characteristics upfront will prepare your child and make it emotionally easier for the time when they do meet the new woman in your life.
Once you have their blessing, remember--the most important step for a single father dating again is to remind your child that he/she is, and will always be, the most important person in your life and that no woman is going to come into your life and take you away from them. Give them that respect and chances are they will be happy for you.
Looking Oh So Official, In Your Suit, Grown & Sexy
We know how it is. You're young, maybe fresh out of college or biz school, have zero cash--yet--and you're expected to roll into work looking worthy of a 6-figure bonus. First, you need at least one dark suit that runs you north of five hundo, for interviews, client meetings, boss lunches, etc. Try Brooks Brothers. Crisp. Solid. A bargain. Next, swallow your snobby pride and hit the discount shops, like Syms and Men's Warehouse. To make sure no one ever knows you paid $180 for your workweek suits.. But if you can afford to play, there are some designers that still affordable, but top of the line, always Calvin Klein, Armani, Marc Jacobs, and many others... But, I Love Sean John and the fine Tailoring, it is modern, fly, fresh, sexy and they look great!! find a tailor and peep this:
1. Better than you think
These days, technology and synthetic fabric make it pretty damn hard for anyone to notice your garb came from the bargain bin. The only downside to downmarket: It will fall apart faster, but who cares, you¹ll be bankin' by then.
2. Join the dark side
The lighter the fabric, the more the shoddiness will shine through.
3. Size matters
Go a size shorter in the jacket. This applies to every guy, no matter his tax-bracket. Your jacket doesn't have to be hipster tight, but it should hug your body. The top front button on a two-button suit should close and be snug, but not uncomfortable. Bonus: Ratcheting down your fit will make you look thinner, taller.
4. Drop your shoulder
Many jacket shoulders are stuffed with thick-ass padding that makes you look like you're going to a zoot suit riot. This padding is a costly bitch for tailors to nix. Pick a jacket that has ultra-thin stuffing or none at all.
5. Stand up to your tailor
Most tailors are stuck in the 80s and 90s and will tell you need more room in your jacket, you need a bigger break in your pants, etc.--in short, that your suit should look just your dad's. Noooo! Don't back down. Be firm and tell him this: (A) You want your suit taken in so it hugs the middle. (B) You want your wide-legged pants narrowed, but not narrowed to the point where all of a sudden you're a grown man and wearing what is called, skinny-jeans.......And i am so sorry, but skinny jeans are not sexy and do not look good in any way shape or form......
1. Better than you think
These days, technology and synthetic fabric make it pretty damn hard for anyone to notice your garb came from the bargain bin. The only downside to downmarket: It will fall apart faster, but who cares, you¹ll be bankin' by then.
2. Join the dark side
The lighter the fabric, the more the shoddiness will shine through.
3. Size matters
Go a size shorter in the jacket. This applies to every guy, no matter his tax-bracket. Your jacket doesn't have to be hipster tight, but it should hug your body. The top front button on a two-button suit should close and be snug, but not uncomfortable. Bonus: Ratcheting down your fit will make you look thinner, taller.
4. Drop your shoulder
Many jacket shoulders are stuffed with thick-ass padding that makes you look like you're going to a zoot suit riot. This padding is a costly bitch for tailors to nix. Pick a jacket that has ultra-thin stuffing or none at all.
5. Stand up to your tailor
Most tailors are stuck in the 80s and 90s and will tell you need more room in your jacket, you need a bigger break in your pants, etc.--in short, that your suit should look just your dad's. Noooo! Don't back down. Be firm and tell him this: (A) You want your suit taken in so it hugs the middle. (B) You want your wide-legged pants narrowed, but not narrowed to the point where all of a sudden you're a grown man and wearing what is called, skinny-jeans.......And i am so sorry, but skinny jeans are not sexy and do not look good in any way shape or form......
J Rag's 11 Rules To Summer Fashion
Here are only 11 of my rules you can set for yourself to get you started and ready for the Summer Season and the Summer Fashion..... It will be here alot sooner than you think!!
Clothes..Tommy Hilfiger's 11 Rules for Summer Style
.By: Maxim Staff.Summer's coming, so get ready to show some ankle, gentlemen!
RULE 1: Never mix patterns.
You don't want to wear stripes with plaid, or checks with a print. So if you're wearing patchwork madras shorts, you want to wear them with something solid and not too bright.
RULE 2: Know your limits.
If you're wearing a pair of multicolored boat shoes, that should be the only pattern going on. That should be the eye-catching element to the outfit.
RULE 3: Comfort conquers.
Things like madras shorts are not only cool but also really comfortable. They're preppy, but with an edge.
RULE 4: Lose the socks.
From May to September, if you're wearing shorts...no socks. If you're wearing boat shoes...no socks.
RULE 5: Slim is in.
Whether it's a polo shirt, shorts, or pants, slim cuts are much more appealing. You don't want anything too oversize or baggy, but you also don't want it so tight that it's restricting.
RULE 6: Old is new.
Try to keep things weathered and comfortable. Anything too crisp and new looks, well, too crisp and new. If you have a bright bottom, wear a faded top.
RULE 7: Remember, it's sportswear.
All this stuff originally served an actual function. These clothes came from cricket, rowing, rugby, boating.
RULE 8: Four simple words.
I'd define American summer style as relaxed, cool, easy, and fun.
RULE 9: Oxford rules.
A washed, solid, untucked Oxford shirt goes great with anything from grass-green chinos to a pair of white jeans.
RULE 10: Preppy lives.
It's a distinct style, but it takes twists and turns. Right now slim silhouettes are in, but in a few years it may loosen up. Faded and washed is in, but next year it could be crisp and new.
RULE 11: When all else fails...
Be like JFK!!! Nah, fuck that, Be Like J Rag!! Stay Fresh to Death and Oh So Official!! Keep It Grown & Sexy!!
Clothes..Tommy Hilfiger's 11 Rules for Summer Style
.By: Maxim Staff.Summer's coming, so get ready to show some ankle, gentlemen!
RULE 1: Never mix patterns.
You don't want to wear stripes with plaid, or checks with a print. So if you're wearing patchwork madras shorts, you want to wear them with something solid and not too bright.
RULE 2: Know your limits.
If you're wearing a pair of multicolored boat shoes, that should be the only pattern going on. That should be the eye-catching element to the outfit.
RULE 3: Comfort conquers.
Things like madras shorts are not only cool but also really comfortable. They're preppy, but with an edge.
RULE 4: Lose the socks.
From May to September, if you're wearing shorts...no socks. If you're wearing boat shoes...no socks.
RULE 5: Slim is in.
Whether it's a polo shirt, shorts, or pants, slim cuts are much more appealing. You don't want anything too oversize or baggy, but you also don't want it so tight that it's restricting.
RULE 6: Old is new.
Try to keep things weathered and comfortable. Anything too crisp and new looks, well, too crisp and new. If you have a bright bottom, wear a faded top.
RULE 7: Remember, it's sportswear.
All this stuff originally served an actual function. These clothes came from cricket, rowing, rugby, boating.
RULE 8: Four simple words.
I'd define American summer style as relaxed, cool, easy, and fun.
RULE 9: Oxford rules.
A washed, solid, untucked Oxford shirt goes great with anything from grass-green chinos to a pair of white jeans.
RULE 10: Preppy lives.
It's a distinct style, but it takes twists and turns. Right now slim silhouettes are in, but in a few years it may loosen up. Faded and washed is in, but next year it could be crisp and new.
RULE 11: When all else fails...
Be like JFK!!! Nah, fuck that, Be Like J Rag!! Stay Fresh to Death and Oh So Official!! Keep It Grown & Sexy!!
Reboot Your LiFe
Sex & Relationships..Reboot Your Life: Sex
.By: Maxim Staff.
Next summer--when hot, sticky, weather causes you and your special lady to fight over every dumb thing going-- arm yourself with these news stories and emerge victorious every time!
FIGHT
You came home late from the bar.
Your argument: People were buying you drinks, so you couldn't leave!
News you can use: In March 2008, Richard Lee Thompson killed a fellow bar drinker with a pool cue over an argument that started when the victim refused Thompson's offer of a free beer.
Moral: Refusing free drinks can be deadly!
FIGHT
You left the toilet seat up.
Your argument: You're leaving it up for her safety!
News you can use: In November 2008, Kathleen Hewko fell into the bowl of a Starters sports bar toilet after the seat cracked, stranding her there for 20 minutes and permanently injuring her back.
Moral: Putting the toilet seat down can be deadly!
FIGHT
You won't ask for directions.
Your argument: It's safer to just look at the map. Even the wrong map!
News you can use: In October 2009, a 23-year-old New Zealand man was stabbed outside a bar after asking for directions back to his car, barely surviving the attack.
Moral: Asking for directions can be deadly!
FIGHT
You stupidly happened to agree that, sure, maybe you'd be OK with it if her boobs were a little bigger.
Your argument: It's for her protection!
News you can use: In July 2009, Lydia Carranza was shot point blank in the chest, surviving only because one of her size-D breast implants absorbed the bullet's impact.
Moral: Not having big boobs can be deadly!
.By: Maxim Staff.
Next summer--when hot, sticky, weather causes you and your special lady to fight over every dumb thing going-- arm yourself with these news stories and emerge victorious every time!
FIGHT
You came home late from the bar.
Your argument: People were buying you drinks, so you couldn't leave!
News you can use: In March 2008, Richard Lee Thompson killed a fellow bar drinker with a pool cue over an argument that started when the victim refused Thompson's offer of a free beer.
Moral: Refusing free drinks can be deadly!
FIGHT
You left the toilet seat up.
Your argument: You're leaving it up for her safety!
News you can use: In November 2008, Kathleen Hewko fell into the bowl of a Starters sports bar toilet after the seat cracked, stranding her there for 20 minutes and permanently injuring her back.
Moral: Putting the toilet seat down can be deadly!
FIGHT
You won't ask for directions.
Your argument: It's safer to just look at the map. Even the wrong map!
News you can use: In October 2009, a 23-year-old New Zealand man was stabbed outside a bar after asking for directions back to his car, barely surviving the attack.
Moral: Asking for directions can be deadly!
FIGHT
You stupidly happened to agree that, sure, maybe you'd be OK with it if her boobs were a little bigger.
Your argument: It's for her protection!
News you can use: In July 2009, Lydia Carranza was shot point blank in the chest, surviving only because one of her size-D breast implants absorbed the bullet's impact.
Moral: Not having big boobs can be deadly!
"The Rules Of Attraction"
Sex & Relationships..Rules of Attraction
.By: Laura Leu.
When a female emperor penguin is ready to mate, she approaches the male and lies flat on the ground waiting for him to impregnate her. If only getting laid were so easy for you. Unfortunately, the female human’s desire to hump is usually shrouded in mystery. Even when we do display affection, you’re faced with the difficult task of deciphering whether it means “I like you, let’s get
naked” or “I like you, let’s get sushi with your friend with the scruffy beard.”
But figuring out whether she’s into you isn’t actually that tough—if you know what signs to look for. To help you crack the code, we talked to women who were willing to divulge their biggest tells. All you have to do is pay attention.
Tell #1: She Brushes You Off
Plain and simple, a woman’s touch is a good sign. “If women are already connecting with you on the verbal level, a way to show that we want to connect more deeply comes from a touch,” says JamYe Waxman, sex educator and host of the DVD 101 Positions for Lovers. So if she rests her hand on your forearm mid-conversation, she likes you. If she brushes her knee against yours, she likes you. If she grabs your balls, she really likes you. Short of her being pushed into you by a fleeing purse snatcher, in fact, there’s no such thing as a “bad touch.” But there is subtle contact that you may need an even keener eye to catch.
Britney,* 22, used just such a stroke of genius during a dinner party, when she was swooning over the guy sitting next to her. “We were deep in conversation, and I reached over and brushed a crumb off his shirt,” she says. “Actually, there was nothing there, but I wanted to initiate physical contact without being awkward. Once we crossed the touch barrier, it was on—he thumbed the hem of my skirt, then we detoured to the coatroom.”
Tell #2: She Expands Her Mind
Not through psychedelic drug use but by giving in to the power of your suggestions. If you tell her your favorite restaurant serves delicious pig’s feet and bone marrow, and she says, “When can we go?” she wants you to know she’s game for whatever you have in mind. That enthusiasm and openness likely carry into other areas of life as well. “On our second date, my now-husband asked meif I’d ever go skydiving,” says 33-year-old Tori. “I was terrified but said yes because I was so into him. We went a few weeks later, and it was totally exhilarating. We were on such
a high that when we got back to his place we had crazy, every-room-in-the-house sex. That was our first hookup, too!”
Tell #3: She Gets Technical
When a girl sweats you, sometimes the writing’s on your wall. “I met this awesome guy at a party, and the first thing I did was friend him on Facebook,” says Erica, 26. “Then I waited a couple of days and crafted a posting that was equal parts flirty, funny, and aloof. It gave an air of ‘I’m into you, but I’m not a stalker,’ and opened the door to conversation, which led to a date and a very hot off-line make-out session.”
Beyond Facebook, any online communication with a lady—be it e-mails, IM chats, or tweets—can be used to gauge how willing she is to drop her drawers for you. Immediate replies, extra exclamation points, flirty tones, and any mention of her enormous appetite for sex are all good signs. Another indicator? When she barrages you with questions. “I had a serious crush on a work client, whom I had to e-mail often,” says 30-year-old Daisy. “To get him to see me less professionally, I would pepper in innocuous personal questions, asking about his weekend or what he had for lunch. As we corresponded, the questions got more and more personal until
it morphed into something very filthy. My efforts paid off when a ‘work’ dinner led to a very un-businesslike gropefest.”
Tell #4: She Gets Motherly
This may sound creepy, but girls who mom you likely want to bang you. We’re not talking about wiping jam off your face with spit. Rather, if she turns into a domestic goddess around you—offers to sew a loose shirt button, brings you a dish of homemade mac and cheese—take note. “From the beginning, men were hunters and women gatherers; men were out, women took care of things at home,” says Waxman. “These are stereotypes and not always true, but if our mothers brought comfort to our fathers through nurturing, we do the same thing instinctively.” It’s a method that worked for Ellen, 33, who lured her hot neighbor into her lair with…a washing machine. “I’d always run into him when he was en route to the Laundromat,” she says. “I was friendly with him, so I told him he was welcome to use my machine. He took me up on the offer, and I’d help sort his stuff whenever he came over. Soon I started mixing in my panties with his boxers, which led to some flirtatious folding sessions. Finally, he got the hint, and we got down and dirty on a pile of fresh duds.”
Tell #5: She’s nasty
Sometimes conversation with a lady who’s hot for you isn’t so agreeable. Watch out for the girl who gently mocks your outfit or criticizes your taste in TV. After all, teasing is an essential part of foreplay. Even if things take a nastier turn and she’s downright argumentative, she may just
be trying to show off her smarts or get under your skin. “A heated debate is a way to engage with a man and get his attention,” says Waxman. Tracey, 29, a bleeding-heart liberal, took this tack while talking politics with a buff, square-jawed Republican. “In a normal situation, I might change the subject,” she says. “But I put up my verbal dukes to prove I was up for a challenge—and it worked. We took our fight into the bedroom and hate-fucked for five months. We thought we were James Carville and Mary Matalin.”
Tell #6: She Fakes It
Imitation can be the sincerest form of fuckability. Meaning, if you notice that a gal pal has suddenly picked up your hobbies, she may be doing so just for the opportunity to be around you more often. Even more telling is a willingness to indulge you in something she’s openly not interested in. If she watches patiently as you enter hour two of combat in Halo 3, she wants to bone. Ditto if she hangs on every word you utter about the new financial data analysis systems at work.
Melinda, 23, sucked up her blasé attitude toward sports and watched hours upon hours of hockey with a housemate she wanted to pounce. “I didn’t care about the games. I just wanted to hang out with him,” she says. “After half a season—that’s four freaking months—he finally got the drift, because I never cheered for any of the teams or really gave a shit who won. I think that gave him the courage to make a move during a boring zero-zero showdown between the Dallas someones and the Chicago something elses.” See? She may never get what you’re into, but as long as she gets you, she’s happy........
"The Rules Of Attraction" MindScApe Entertainment(R).
.By: Laura Leu.
When a female emperor penguin is ready to mate, she approaches the male and lies flat on the ground waiting for him to impregnate her. If only getting laid were so easy for you. Unfortunately, the female human’s desire to hump is usually shrouded in mystery. Even when we do display affection, you’re faced with the difficult task of deciphering whether it means “I like you, let’s get
naked” or “I like you, let’s get sushi with your friend with the scruffy beard.”
But figuring out whether she’s into you isn’t actually that tough—if you know what signs to look for. To help you crack the code, we talked to women who were willing to divulge their biggest tells. All you have to do is pay attention.
Tell #1: She Brushes You Off
Plain and simple, a woman’s touch is a good sign. “If women are already connecting with you on the verbal level, a way to show that we want to connect more deeply comes from a touch,” says JamYe Waxman, sex educator and host of the DVD 101 Positions for Lovers. So if she rests her hand on your forearm mid-conversation, she likes you. If she brushes her knee against yours, she likes you. If she grabs your balls, she really likes you. Short of her being pushed into you by a fleeing purse snatcher, in fact, there’s no such thing as a “bad touch.” But there is subtle contact that you may need an even keener eye to catch.
Britney,* 22, used just such a stroke of genius during a dinner party, when she was swooning over the guy sitting next to her. “We were deep in conversation, and I reached over and brushed a crumb off his shirt,” she says. “Actually, there was nothing there, but I wanted to initiate physical contact without being awkward. Once we crossed the touch barrier, it was on—he thumbed the hem of my skirt, then we detoured to the coatroom.”
Tell #2: She Expands Her Mind
Not through psychedelic drug use but by giving in to the power of your suggestions. If you tell her your favorite restaurant serves delicious pig’s feet and bone marrow, and she says, “When can we go?” she wants you to know she’s game for whatever you have in mind. That enthusiasm and openness likely carry into other areas of life as well. “On our second date, my now-husband asked meif I’d ever go skydiving,” says 33-year-old Tori. “I was terrified but said yes because I was so into him. We went a few weeks later, and it was totally exhilarating. We were on such
a high that when we got back to his place we had crazy, every-room-in-the-house sex. That was our first hookup, too!”
Tell #3: She Gets Technical
When a girl sweats you, sometimes the writing’s on your wall. “I met this awesome guy at a party, and the first thing I did was friend him on Facebook,” says Erica, 26. “Then I waited a couple of days and crafted a posting that was equal parts flirty, funny, and aloof. It gave an air of ‘I’m into you, but I’m not a stalker,’ and opened the door to conversation, which led to a date and a very hot off-line make-out session.”
Beyond Facebook, any online communication with a lady—be it e-mails, IM chats, or tweets—can be used to gauge how willing she is to drop her drawers for you. Immediate replies, extra exclamation points, flirty tones, and any mention of her enormous appetite for sex are all good signs. Another indicator? When she barrages you with questions. “I had a serious crush on a work client, whom I had to e-mail often,” says 30-year-old Daisy. “To get him to see me less professionally, I would pepper in innocuous personal questions, asking about his weekend or what he had for lunch. As we corresponded, the questions got more and more personal until
it morphed into something very filthy. My efforts paid off when a ‘work’ dinner led to a very un-businesslike gropefest.”
Tell #4: She Gets Motherly
This may sound creepy, but girls who mom you likely want to bang you. We’re not talking about wiping jam off your face with spit. Rather, if she turns into a domestic goddess around you—offers to sew a loose shirt button, brings you a dish of homemade mac and cheese—take note. “From the beginning, men were hunters and women gatherers; men were out, women took care of things at home,” says Waxman. “These are stereotypes and not always true, but if our mothers brought comfort to our fathers through nurturing, we do the same thing instinctively.” It’s a method that worked for Ellen, 33, who lured her hot neighbor into her lair with…a washing machine. “I’d always run into him when he was en route to the Laundromat,” she says. “I was friendly with him, so I told him he was welcome to use my machine. He took me up on the offer, and I’d help sort his stuff whenever he came over. Soon I started mixing in my panties with his boxers, which led to some flirtatious folding sessions. Finally, he got the hint, and we got down and dirty on a pile of fresh duds.”
Tell #5: She’s nasty
Sometimes conversation with a lady who’s hot for you isn’t so agreeable. Watch out for the girl who gently mocks your outfit or criticizes your taste in TV. After all, teasing is an essential part of foreplay. Even if things take a nastier turn and she’s downright argumentative, she may just
be trying to show off her smarts or get under your skin. “A heated debate is a way to engage with a man and get his attention,” says Waxman. Tracey, 29, a bleeding-heart liberal, took this tack while talking politics with a buff, square-jawed Republican. “In a normal situation, I might change the subject,” she says. “But I put up my verbal dukes to prove I was up for a challenge—and it worked. We took our fight into the bedroom and hate-fucked for five months. We thought we were James Carville and Mary Matalin.”
Tell #6: She Fakes It
Imitation can be the sincerest form of fuckability. Meaning, if you notice that a gal pal has suddenly picked up your hobbies, she may be doing so just for the opportunity to be around you more often. Even more telling is a willingness to indulge you in something she’s openly not interested in. If she watches patiently as you enter hour two of combat in Halo 3, she wants to bone. Ditto if she hangs on every word you utter about the new financial data analysis systems at work.
Melinda, 23, sucked up her blasé attitude toward sports and watched hours upon hours of hockey with a housemate she wanted to pounce. “I didn’t care about the games. I just wanted to hang out with him,” she says. “After half a season—that’s four freaking months—he finally got the drift, because I never cheered for any of the teams or really gave a shit who won. I think that gave him the courage to make a move during a boring zero-zero showdown between the Dallas someones and the Chicago something elses.” See? She may never get what you’re into, but as long as she gets you, she’s happy........
"The Rules Of Attraction" MindScApe Entertainment(R).
The 3some Operators Manual
Sex & Relationships..Threesome Operator's Manual
I can tell you at some point during everyone's life, that two girls can always be better than one..... And it can be fun and very sexual in experience. It may be good to get it out of your system....... So talking with others as well.....
Anna, 23, knew she would have a threesome someday—she just didn’t know when. “I’m
pretty experimental,” she says. “I wanted to fool around with another woman but didn’t know how to go about it. I thought having a guy there would make it easier, because it’d be like putting on a show rather than some intense lesbian experience.”
When, over drinks one night, a female friend described a threesome she’d had, Anna knew she’d found her opportunity. “Late at night we ended up at a guy friend’s place with a small group of people, and she and I started getting touchy-feely on the couch, stroking each other’s hair,” Anna says. “That’s when the guy kicked his buddies out and turned around to find us undressing each other. He joined in, and the three of us were kissing and groping each other like crazy. It was even better than I’d expected.”
For guys a threesome may be the holy grail of sexual encounters, but you aren’t the only ones dying to get another body in the bedroom. Maybe it’s the increasing prevalence of girl-on-girl action in pop culture (see: cheerleaders Brittany and Santana lip-locking on Glee, or Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis’ make-out session in Black Swan). Or maybe more women, like Anna, are starting to make sexual “bucket lists” full of superhot fantasies they plan to tick off one by one. Whatever the reason, girls are more open than ever to the erotic joys of threesomes.
But moving to a three-party system is rarely complication-free. Love triangles—even ones that last only a few hours—can be hotbeds of jealousy, awkwardness, and confusion. That’s why, to pull off a threesome successfully, you have to know the most important rules of three.
The Naughtiest Number
For men the appeal of a threesome is a no-brainer: If two boobs are awesome, the thought of four at once is enough to give your erection an erection. For women the allure might not be so obvious. After all, how many girls would jump at the chance to see their guy pleasuring someone else?
More than you’d think. Surprisingly, some say the idea of helping a guy fulfill his ultimate fantasy is as titillating to them as it is to you. “Whenever we watched porn my boyfriend would comment on the threesomes,” says Jean, 27. “When I finally revealed that it was something I’d be into, I’d never seen a bigger smile on his face.” And it’s not just Jean’s boyfriend who doubles his pleasure when they bring another girl into the bedroom. “I think it’s so hot when another girl and I go down on him at the same time,” she says. “He gets this crazed look in his eye—you can tell it turns him on more than anything else.”
For other women the idea of getting attention from two people at once is its own incentive. Sara, 34, says that the fantasies she got off on the most when masturbating involved having multiple partners at once. She finally decided she had to act on the urge and so, on the advice of a threesome-experienced friend, changed her profile on the dating site OkCupid to “bisexual.”
Soon she was at a couple’s place across town, having a six-hour ménage à trois. “There are so many more things you can do in a threesome than in regular sex,” she says. “The other woman can have sex with the guy while you watch the expressions on her face—and then he can become the spectator while you go down on her, until he’s so turned on he’s ready to go again. My first one was so hot I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to go back to one-on-one sex afterward.”
There’s even a chance that women are better equipped to enjoy threesomes than men, biologically speaking, according to Deborah Anapol, Ph.D., author of Polyamory in the 21st Century: “Women are great multitaskers, excellent communicators, and have a ton of sexual endurance”—the combination of which, she says, adds up to sexual dynamite when a third partner joins the action.
Three’s a Crowd
Of course, a ménage à trois can come with its fair share of complications. Arguably the most lethal enemy of the threesome is jealousy—a natural risk whenever three people get together, especially if two of them are partners in a committed relationship.
“The first time I heard my boyfriend tell another woman how hot she was—while having sex with her—I was pretty upset,” says Sonya, 25. “I came up behind him and started kissing his neck to physically insert myself into the action. We talked about it afterward, and now we have a special tap that I’ll do if I don’t like the way things are going. That way the third person doesn’t even notice.”
Lauren, 27, put her foot down when her husband asked if they could have sex with one of his exes. “She was still hung up on him, and it was important to me that there be no emotional attachment,” she says. Still, Lauren preferred to experiment with friends—despite how sticky that could become—since it seemed safer than picking someone up at a bar. Eventually, the plan backfired. “Even though my husband and I were clear with this one woman and said we just wanted to have fun, it was challenging because we saw her a lot,” she says. “She began pursuing a more serious relationship with us, calling all the time and even showing up outside our house at strange hours. It got so bad we had to get a restraining order.”
At least Lauren and her husband were united in the experience. Worst-case scenario, a threesome can tear a couple apart. “At my boyfriend’s suggestion, we started hooking up regularly with one of his coworkers,” says Mary, 30, “and she’d often come over to spend time with us outside of the sex. Then, just after we moved into a new place and signed a lease, he broke up with me. I didn’t realize why until our threesome buddy moved in a few weeks later. Now they’re engaged. I will not be inviting a third person into my next relationship.”
Give It a Tri
So how can you pursue a threesome while avoiding the messy side effects? First off, according to Jean, it’s essential to gauge her interest in a casual way. “When my boyfriend wanted to see if
I was up for a threesome, he mentioned that he’d done it with a past girlfriend—and then let it go,” says Jean. “He never pressured me; he just planted the seed. That made me want to do it even more.” Bringing it up constantly will only make you look obsessed—which will make her think you’re desperate to sleep with someone new. And even if that’s true, it’s not going to get you what you want.
If you haven’t had any previous experience you can mention, Anapol recommends a casual remark about a movie or TV scene, along the lines of: “I didn’t realize there was a threesome
scene on Gossip Girl. I definitely would have watched with you if I’d known that.”
Once you’ve started a dialogue, you’ll know whether she’s open to the idea. But even if she is, your work isn’t done. To avoid hurt feelings or an encounter derailed by miscommunication, it’s essential to set ground rules—who can do what with whom—before any clothes come off. “Everyone should be clear about what’s cool and what’s off-limits,” Sara says. “I hook up with this one couple regularly, and once the guy had full sex with me while the girl stepped out of the room. I assumed she’d be OK with it, but when I mentioned it later, she was shocked—and pretty upset.”
Anapol recommends that all three people sit down first and agree what they want from the experience. “What are their boundaries?” she says. “Is there anything they definitely don’t want to do, anything they’re worried about?” Sure, it might be a buzz-kill if your girlfriend says you can’t have sex with the other woman. But it’s probably less of a buzz-kill than watching her storm out of the room crying mid-ménage. The bottom line: Agreeing to play by her rules will make her feel comfortable and erase any lingering doubts she might have. And maybe the next time she’ll make all your dreams come true.
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I can tell you at some point during everyone's life, that two girls can always be better than one..... And it can be fun and very sexual in experience. It may be good to get it out of your system....... So talking with others as well.....
Anna, 23, knew she would have a threesome someday—she just didn’t know when. “I’m
pretty experimental,” she says. “I wanted to fool around with another woman but didn’t know how to go about it. I thought having a guy there would make it easier, because it’d be like putting on a show rather than some intense lesbian experience.”
When, over drinks one night, a female friend described a threesome she’d had, Anna knew she’d found her opportunity. “Late at night we ended up at a guy friend’s place with a small group of people, and she and I started getting touchy-feely on the couch, stroking each other’s hair,” Anna says. “That’s when the guy kicked his buddies out and turned around to find us undressing each other. He joined in, and the three of us were kissing and groping each other like crazy. It was even better than I’d expected.”
For guys a threesome may be the holy grail of sexual encounters, but you aren’t the only ones dying to get another body in the bedroom. Maybe it’s the increasing prevalence of girl-on-girl action in pop culture (see: cheerleaders Brittany and Santana lip-locking on Glee, or Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis’ make-out session in Black Swan). Or maybe more women, like Anna, are starting to make sexual “bucket lists” full of superhot fantasies they plan to tick off one by one. Whatever the reason, girls are more open than ever to the erotic joys of threesomes.
But moving to a three-party system is rarely complication-free. Love triangles—even ones that last only a few hours—can be hotbeds of jealousy, awkwardness, and confusion. That’s why, to pull off a threesome successfully, you have to know the most important rules of three.
The Naughtiest Number
For men the appeal of a threesome is a no-brainer: If two boobs are awesome, the thought of four at once is enough to give your erection an erection. For women the allure might not be so obvious. After all, how many girls would jump at the chance to see their guy pleasuring someone else?
More than you’d think. Surprisingly, some say the idea of helping a guy fulfill his ultimate fantasy is as titillating to them as it is to you. “Whenever we watched porn my boyfriend would comment on the threesomes,” says Jean, 27. “When I finally revealed that it was something I’d be into, I’d never seen a bigger smile on his face.” And it’s not just Jean’s boyfriend who doubles his pleasure when they bring another girl into the bedroom. “I think it’s so hot when another girl and I go down on him at the same time,” she says. “He gets this crazed look in his eye—you can tell it turns him on more than anything else.”
For other women the idea of getting attention from two people at once is its own incentive. Sara, 34, says that the fantasies she got off on the most when masturbating involved having multiple partners at once. She finally decided she had to act on the urge and so, on the advice of a threesome-experienced friend, changed her profile on the dating site OkCupid to “bisexual.”
Soon she was at a couple’s place across town, having a six-hour ménage à trois. “There are so many more things you can do in a threesome than in regular sex,” she says. “The other woman can have sex with the guy while you watch the expressions on her face—and then he can become the spectator while you go down on her, until he’s so turned on he’s ready to go again. My first one was so hot I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to go back to one-on-one sex afterward.”
There’s even a chance that women are better equipped to enjoy threesomes than men, biologically speaking, according to Deborah Anapol, Ph.D., author of Polyamory in the 21st Century: “Women are great multitaskers, excellent communicators, and have a ton of sexual endurance”—the combination of which, she says, adds up to sexual dynamite when a third partner joins the action.
Three’s a Crowd
Of course, a ménage à trois can come with its fair share of complications. Arguably the most lethal enemy of the threesome is jealousy—a natural risk whenever three people get together, especially if two of them are partners in a committed relationship.
“The first time I heard my boyfriend tell another woman how hot she was—while having sex with her—I was pretty upset,” says Sonya, 25. “I came up behind him and started kissing his neck to physically insert myself into the action. We talked about it afterward, and now we have a special tap that I’ll do if I don’t like the way things are going. That way the third person doesn’t even notice.”
Lauren, 27, put her foot down when her husband asked if they could have sex with one of his exes. “She was still hung up on him, and it was important to me that there be no emotional attachment,” she says. Still, Lauren preferred to experiment with friends—despite how sticky that could become—since it seemed safer than picking someone up at a bar. Eventually, the plan backfired. “Even though my husband and I were clear with this one woman and said we just wanted to have fun, it was challenging because we saw her a lot,” she says. “She began pursuing a more serious relationship with us, calling all the time and even showing up outside our house at strange hours. It got so bad we had to get a restraining order.”
At least Lauren and her husband were united in the experience. Worst-case scenario, a threesome can tear a couple apart. “At my boyfriend’s suggestion, we started hooking up regularly with one of his coworkers,” says Mary, 30, “and she’d often come over to spend time with us outside of the sex. Then, just after we moved into a new place and signed a lease, he broke up with me. I didn’t realize why until our threesome buddy moved in a few weeks later. Now they’re engaged. I will not be inviting a third person into my next relationship.”
Give It a Tri
So how can you pursue a threesome while avoiding the messy side effects? First off, according to Jean, it’s essential to gauge her interest in a casual way. “When my boyfriend wanted to see if
I was up for a threesome, he mentioned that he’d done it with a past girlfriend—and then let it go,” says Jean. “He never pressured me; he just planted the seed. That made me want to do it even more.” Bringing it up constantly will only make you look obsessed—which will make her think you’re desperate to sleep with someone new. And even if that’s true, it’s not going to get you what you want.
If you haven’t had any previous experience you can mention, Anapol recommends a casual remark about a movie or TV scene, along the lines of: “I didn’t realize there was a threesome
scene on Gossip Girl. I definitely would have watched with you if I’d known that.”
Once you’ve started a dialogue, you’ll know whether she’s open to the idea. But even if she is, your work isn’t done. To avoid hurt feelings or an encounter derailed by miscommunication, it’s essential to set ground rules—who can do what with whom—before any clothes come off. “Everyone should be clear about what’s cool and what’s off-limits,” Sara says. “I hook up with this one couple regularly, and once the guy had full sex with me while the girl stepped out of the room. I assumed she’d be OK with it, but when I mentioned it later, she was shocked—and pretty upset.”
Anapol recommends that all three people sit down first and agree what they want from the experience. “What are their boundaries?” she says. “Is there anything they definitely don’t want to do, anything they’re worried about?” Sure, it might be a buzz-kill if your girlfriend says you can’t have sex with the other woman. But it’s probably less of a buzz-kill than watching her storm out of the room crying mid-ménage. The bottom line: Agreeing to play by her rules will make her feel comfortable and erase any lingering doubts she might have. And maybe the next time she’ll make all your dreams come true.
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The Ultimate Orgasm for Two
Yes, the female orgasm can be a tricky little beast, but make no mistake: When they cum, it’s freaking amazing...... It’s white lights and stars, an ecstatic, almost out-of-body experience. And if you’re the one who manages to get her there, they’ll be absolute putty in your hands. That’s why I am giving you a sneak peek into the nitty-gritty details of lady orgasms—the moves that make Her toes curl and Her insides shudder—so that you’ll never go to bed unprepared.....
It’s Like…Whoa
Just like we all take different routes to the big O, every woman experiences it a little bit differently. The one commonality? Awesomeness. Susie,* a 28-year-old event planner, says her orgasms are “better than any drug in the world. For me it’s like a wave of warmth that starts in my toes, then climbs over the rest of my body until I’m completely hot and shaking. I’ll feel like my genitals are trembling and I’m almost on fire.”
For some girls it’s not the orgasm itself but the moments immediately following that are the peak of ecstasy. “The best part for me is afterward, when I feel like I have this aura around me, this bright, warm glow of orgasm, and I feel so damn happy,” says Corinne, a 30-year-old physical therapist. “Sometimes I even want to cry.” And let’s not forget the lucky girl who can actually come over and over—the multiple orgasmer. “When I finish coming, I typically have about 30 seconds of downtime before the second wave begins,” says Mackenzie, a 26-year-old sales assistant, who feels a sensation of heat similar to that described by Susie when she comes. “Then the rush of blood and that kind of low-level electricity begin again and build to even more intensity the second time around. Multiple orgasms are without a doubt the best part of being a woman.”
The Road to O-Town, Part I
So what does it take to bring a girl to these body-shaking, earth-quaking highs? The good news is, for some women intercourse does the job…though maybe not as easily as it does for you. Since our bodies don’t come with an outward appendage that’s like a neon sign saying touch this, it can be a challenge to find the right spot to hit. And the vagina, by the way, usually isn’t it.
Most girls report that no matter the position they’re in for sex, simultaneous clitoral stimulation is key. During missionary sex, this can be a simple matter of lining your hips up with hers. “I can only come when the guy’s on top,” says Marni, a 33-year-old grad student. “I basically need his head to be past mine and our torsos in constant contact, so that with every thrust he’s pushing against my clit. I’ll grind my hips up into his, and after a few minutes, boom, I’m there.” A lot of girls prefer to be on top so they can control the pace, pressure, and location of all that friction. Erica, a 27-year-old nanny, says she needs to be straddling her guy, pelvis to pelvis, to come: “He feels amazing inside me, but just sliding in and out won’t work. My clit needs to rub against him at the same time.”
There are those special few women who don’t seem to need quite that much clitoral attention to come, such as 31-year-old Sabine, whose orgasm trigger is doggie-style sex. “I'm not sure what it is, but when I’m getting it from behind, I just lose control,” she says. “Sometimes the guy will reach around for my clit, but I’d rather have him fondle my nipples or put his fingers in my mouth for me to bite down on. Maybe I’m weird, but that gets me off, hard.”
The Road to O-Town, Part II
For those who need maximum stimulation, there’s one kind of sex that works like a charm: oral. “It’s failproof,” says Jenni, 25, a teacher. “I’ve never not gotten off from oral sex. Never.” Katie, a 26-year-old Web editor, concurs, though she prefers it with a couple of extra bells and whistles. “I love when a guy puts his fingers inside me while he’s licking me,” she says. “If he tickles my G-spot, it’s an incredible sensation. My eyes will roll back, and I’ll start moaning.” If she’s into what you’re doing, she’ll keep her hands on your head or shoulders and start rocking her hips—but pay attention to her movements. “The only thing that hinders me sometimes with oral is too much pressure,” says Jeanine, a 28-year-old pharmaceutical sales rep. “I might wiggle away to hint that I want his tongue flicking me rather than pushing. But if he goes lightly and firmly in the same pattern, over and over, I’m gone in two minutes.”
Don’t underestimate the power of hands, either—yours or hers. Suzanne, a 27-year-old PR specialist, says she likes to be on top, but with a catch. “I have to touch myself while I’m on top in order to get off,” she says. “And I like nipple stimulation, too. So I’ll have one hand on my clit, and I’ll lick my fingers on the other and rub them against my tits.” In fact, this, um, multipronged approach is the orgasm formula for lots of girls. “I prefer a guy to use his tongue on my breasts, flicking it against my nipples while his hand rubs my clit,” says Isabel, 32, a real estate agent. “And what really pushes me over the edge—but I’ll allow it only if I’m really comfortable with someone—is, at the same time, a finger on my back door. Not in it, just touching it.”
The fastest ticket to the big O for many women is the vibrator—particularly when they incorporate it into sex with you. “I always used mine with my ex,” says Lauren, 23, a marketing intern. “He was awesome in bed, really attentive; I just had a hard time finishing. He loved it because it guaranteed that I came, too, so he didn’t have to feel guilty. He liked to use it on me and watch me use it on myself.” Most women are shy about bringing a vibe into the bedroom, because they don’t want you to feel threatened. But as Jackie, a 25-year-old sales assistant, explains, “It’s a double whammy! It feels so amazing to have his dick and the vibration at the same time.”
Was it Good for Her?
There are some physical things that happen to all women when they orgasm (contractions of the vaginal walls being the main one). But there are plenty of other ways to tell when you’ve done right by her. “My guy always knows when I’ve had a real, intense orgasm because I fall right asleep afterward,” says Susie. “They really wipe you out!”
A lot of women also can’t help but, well, freak out when they’re climaxing—and not with the squeaky monkey noises you might hear from the ladies of porn; we’re talking filthy, almost Tourette’s-like outbursts. “I scream. I mean, things come out of my mouth that are insanely dirty and nasty,” says Corinne. “¿‘Fuck me harder! Fuck my pussy! Oh, my God, don’t stop, fuck me, fuck me, fuck me!’ That’s pretty much what I say every time.” Sarah, a 23-year-old dance instructor, says she also gets major potty mouth when she’s having an orgasm: “I get louder and louder and tell my boyfriend to fuck me as hard as he can so I can come all over his cock. That sets him off, too, so we can even come together sometimes.” Of course, moaning and gasping are good indicators, too. “I can hardly breathe when I’m coming,” says Anna, a 29-year-old graphic designer. “I gasp and gasp and sometimes even kind of unintentionally hold my breath until I’m finished and can heave that big sigh of relief.”
However they get there, whatever works for them, every woman loves the intense pleasure of an orgasm so much that most of them refuse to fake it once they’ve had one. After all, why do themselves a disservice by not getting the real deal? So if you see these signs, give yourself a pat on the back: You’ve just given her the ride of her life.......
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It’s Like…Whoa
Just like we all take different routes to the big O, every woman experiences it a little bit differently. The one commonality? Awesomeness. Susie,* a 28-year-old event planner, says her orgasms are “better than any drug in the world. For me it’s like a wave of warmth that starts in my toes, then climbs over the rest of my body until I’m completely hot and shaking. I’ll feel like my genitals are trembling and I’m almost on fire.”
For some girls it’s not the orgasm itself but the moments immediately following that are the peak of ecstasy. “The best part for me is afterward, when I feel like I have this aura around me, this bright, warm glow of orgasm, and I feel so damn happy,” says Corinne, a 30-year-old physical therapist. “Sometimes I even want to cry.” And let’s not forget the lucky girl who can actually come over and over—the multiple orgasmer. “When I finish coming, I typically have about 30 seconds of downtime before the second wave begins,” says Mackenzie, a 26-year-old sales assistant, who feels a sensation of heat similar to that described by Susie when she comes. “Then the rush of blood and that kind of low-level electricity begin again and build to even more intensity the second time around. Multiple orgasms are without a doubt the best part of being a woman.”
The Road to O-Town, Part I
So what does it take to bring a girl to these body-shaking, earth-quaking highs? The good news is, for some women intercourse does the job…though maybe not as easily as it does for you. Since our bodies don’t come with an outward appendage that’s like a neon sign saying touch this, it can be a challenge to find the right spot to hit. And the vagina, by the way, usually isn’t it.
Most girls report that no matter the position they’re in for sex, simultaneous clitoral stimulation is key. During missionary sex, this can be a simple matter of lining your hips up with hers. “I can only come when the guy’s on top,” says Marni, a 33-year-old grad student. “I basically need his head to be past mine and our torsos in constant contact, so that with every thrust he’s pushing against my clit. I’ll grind my hips up into his, and after a few minutes, boom, I’m there.” A lot of girls prefer to be on top so they can control the pace, pressure, and location of all that friction. Erica, a 27-year-old nanny, says she needs to be straddling her guy, pelvis to pelvis, to come: “He feels amazing inside me, but just sliding in and out won’t work. My clit needs to rub against him at the same time.”
There are those special few women who don’t seem to need quite that much clitoral attention to come, such as 31-year-old Sabine, whose orgasm trigger is doggie-style sex. “I'm not sure what it is, but when I’m getting it from behind, I just lose control,” she says. “Sometimes the guy will reach around for my clit, but I’d rather have him fondle my nipples or put his fingers in my mouth for me to bite down on. Maybe I’m weird, but that gets me off, hard.”
The Road to O-Town, Part II
For those who need maximum stimulation, there’s one kind of sex that works like a charm: oral. “It’s failproof,” says Jenni, 25, a teacher. “I’ve never not gotten off from oral sex. Never.” Katie, a 26-year-old Web editor, concurs, though she prefers it with a couple of extra bells and whistles. “I love when a guy puts his fingers inside me while he’s licking me,” she says. “If he tickles my G-spot, it’s an incredible sensation. My eyes will roll back, and I’ll start moaning.” If she’s into what you’re doing, she’ll keep her hands on your head or shoulders and start rocking her hips—but pay attention to her movements. “The only thing that hinders me sometimes with oral is too much pressure,” says Jeanine, a 28-year-old pharmaceutical sales rep. “I might wiggle away to hint that I want his tongue flicking me rather than pushing. But if he goes lightly and firmly in the same pattern, over and over, I’m gone in two minutes.”
Don’t underestimate the power of hands, either—yours or hers. Suzanne, a 27-year-old PR specialist, says she likes to be on top, but with a catch. “I have to touch myself while I’m on top in order to get off,” she says. “And I like nipple stimulation, too. So I’ll have one hand on my clit, and I’ll lick my fingers on the other and rub them against my tits.” In fact, this, um, multipronged approach is the orgasm formula for lots of girls. “I prefer a guy to use his tongue on my breasts, flicking it against my nipples while his hand rubs my clit,” says Isabel, 32, a real estate agent. “And what really pushes me over the edge—but I’ll allow it only if I’m really comfortable with someone—is, at the same time, a finger on my back door. Not in it, just touching it.”
The fastest ticket to the big O for many women is the vibrator—particularly when they incorporate it into sex with you. “I always used mine with my ex,” says Lauren, 23, a marketing intern. “He was awesome in bed, really attentive; I just had a hard time finishing. He loved it because it guaranteed that I came, too, so he didn’t have to feel guilty. He liked to use it on me and watch me use it on myself.” Most women are shy about bringing a vibe into the bedroom, because they don’t want you to feel threatened. But as Jackie, a 25-year-old sales assistant, explains, “It’s a double whammy! It feels so amazing to have his dick and the vibration at the same time.”
Was it Good for Her?
There are some physical things that happen to all women when they orgasm (contractions of the vaginal walls being the main one). But there are plenty of other ways to tell when you’ve done right by her. “My guy always knows when I’ve had a real, intense orgasm because I fall right asleep afterward,” says Susie. “They really wipe you out!”
A lot of women also can’t help but, well, freak out when they’re climaxing—and not with the squeaky monkey noises you might hear from the ladies of porn; we’re talking filthy, almost Tourette’s-like outbursts. “I scream. I mean, things come out of my mouth that are insanely dirty and nasty,” says Corinne. “¿‘Fuck me harder! Fuck my pussy! Oh, my God, don’t stop, fuck me, fuck me, fuck me!’ That’s pretty much what I say every time.” Sarah, a 23-year-old dance instructor, says she also gets major potty mouth when she’s having an orgasm: “I get louder and louder and tell my boyfriend to fuck me as hard as he can so I can come all over his cock. That sets him off, too, so we can even come together sometimes.” Of course, moaning and gasping are good indicators, too. “I can hardly breathe when I’m coming,” says Anna, a 29-year-old graphic designer. “I gasp and gasp and sometimes even kind of unintentionally hold my breath until I’m finished and can heave that big sigh of relief.”
However they get there, whatever works for them, every woman loves the intense pleasure of an orgasm so much that most of them refuse to fake it once they’ve had one. After all, why do themselves a disservice by not getting the real deal? So if you see these signs, give yourself a pat on the back: You’ve just given her the ride of her life.......
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Couples Keeping The Sex Going
Sex & Relationships..Sex Tips for Couples
.By: Maxim Staff.The first year of a relationship has its ups and downs. Here’s how to eliminate the downs and keep it up all year long.
Girlfriends come with a built-in sex guarantee, but what’s not guaranteed is whether she’ll want to do it as frequently or with the same fire (read: as slammed on tequila and Percocet) as you. Here’s how to navigate the highs, the lows, and the middles of you and your girl’s first year of getting it on.
Three Weeks: Turn to the Dark Side
After a few getting-to-know-you rolls in the hay, you’re probably dying to bump things up from PG-13 to an undisclosed number of X’s. Try taking it one X at a time by picking a single raunchy move from your arsenal of “sexual eclecticism” and asking her nicely if she’d be up for giving it a go. You may be surprised to discover she’s got a freaky side somewhere, so really all you’re doing her is the favor of letting it out.
“About a month after I started dating this one guy, he told me he was a spanker,” says Sasha,* 30. “Not like whips and flogs, but like manly, open-handed swats to my ass. I wasn’t certain that I wanted to play along, but when he gave me a couple of introductory wallops, the way he looked straight into my eyes while he was doing it was a huge turn-on. From then on my
ass—and the rest of me—was slightly reddened putty in his hands.”
Three Months: Crash the Pajama Party
Curse that inevitable night when sleeping together will mean…you know, sleeping. What started as wine-me, dine-me, screw-me-in-the-taxi-home dating has now, after a few short months, turned into TiVo and takeout. Time to negotiate a precoital contract! Like Kristyn, 27, who conquered sex-life doldrums by instituting a “sex every night” rule with her boyfriend.
“Honestly, it turned out to be one of the most erotic times in my life—just day in and day out of turning him on or getting turned on,” she says. “We didn’t want to get to the end of the day and realize that neither one of us was in the mood to do it, so we would tease each other mercilessly; the sexting and the hot voice mails were nearly constant. We also discovered about a half-dozen erotic zones—behind my knee, between his shoulder blades—that we still rely on to turn each other on, and our repertoire of where and when to fuck has become exponentially greater.”
Unfortunately, not every girl gets what’s so sexy about putting you on her to-do list.
Plan B: Remember that chores around the house count as foreplay…when you do them, that is. “Coming home from work, I’m thinking about having to make dinner and do laundry,” says Danette, 30. “Knowing this, my man has a plan. He’ll grab my favorite sandwich from the deli, then get to my place early and clean it. When I walk in the door, I don’t have any problems to solve, and I’m reminded how awesome my guy is. His shot at the trifecta means a slam dunk in the bedroom before I’ve even started on the sandwich.”
Your final line of offense: If you can’t beat her, join her. “Offer to fix her a dish of ice cream, but get a little creative with it,” says Jen, 25. “Spoon a scoop into her mouth, then lick a little mint chocolate chip off her lips. Show off your tongue’s cherry-stem-tying abilities and tell her where you’d really like to put that whipped cream. Jammies, ice cream, and your mouth all over her? That, I believe, is how a couple should get over the midweek, hump-day blues.”
Six Months: Fight Dirty, Apologize Dirtier
Your first real fight comes with a built-in silver lining: steaming-hot make-up sex!
The catch: She currently wishes you were trapped inside a vat of steaming-hot garbage juice. Some chicks do get off on despising your guts. Heed Pam, 27: “Am I the only one who likes hate sex? Don’t try to talk to me. Just fuck me in anger, please.” (And, no, you cannot have Pam’s e-mail address.) But most chicks require some slick maneuvering on your part to get from livid to horny. Here’s the bad news: Lust means always having to say you’re sorry.
As Clara, 28, says, “Even if you swear you did nothing wrong, nothing’s sexier than a guy willing to take the fall for a fight. And that gives him an incentive to get me in a compromising position later, when I’ll be dying to take it all back.”
Guys who are especially gifted in b.s. might even be able to pull off the sex without pleading guilty. “He’ll touch me on one of my hot spots, pulling my body into his with one hand firmly on the small of my back, and tell me that he’s sorry for what he said,” says Josephine, 24, of her boyfriend’s sneaky tactics. “By drawing me close, he’s got me looking at him eye to eye, and I’ll usually melt in a second and suggest we head to the bed. This worked on me probably a dozen times before I realized he never actually admits he was wrong in the first place—and that it’s always me who’s begging him to shut up so we can go and fuck.”
Nine Months: Get Your Flirt On
By now you know your girlfriend’s friends pretty well, especially “the hot one.” Likewise, your girl has probably figured out which of the guys in your entourage hit on their buddies’ girlfriends relentlessly. At this point wandering eyes and jealousies may start to develop, but resist a relationship bailout. What if these harmless little attractions could serve as your own personal stimulus package?
“I always tell my boyfriend about my silly crushes,” admits Tricia, 26. “Innocent crushes and flirtatious friendships make both of us feel attractive and wanted. The key is to bring that energy to bed and use it on each other rather than going out and fucking other people.”
However, there are two very important caveats on this point. One, let her go first. Aside from celebrity crushes, you can’t start telling a girl willy-nilly the names of all the real-life people you’ve got the hots for, unless she has already cracked open that door. Two, you can admit to crushing on any female except her BFF, who is strictly spank-bank-only material.
One Year: We Made It! Let’s Do It!
Congratulations, it’s time for the traditional first-anniversary gift: a weekend of marathon hotel sex! Now, she may be the type who wants to plan this in advance, or you might fare better by warming her up the night of, getting her so randy that she’ll agree to anything that won’t land her in a Turkish prison.
Either way, Darcy, 30, knows a guaranteed girl turn-on, perfect for a special occasion. “Big nights out for us usually start as hot nights in. My guy always catches me right after I’ve done my hair and makeup and slipped into a sexy outfit. Since I’m all gussied up already, we’ll do it on the kitchen counter or in the hallway against the wall—having sex upright prevents my hair from getting messy or my makeup smudged. We always wind up leaving for the restaurant later than we planned—and bringing a bigger appetite.”
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.By: Maxim Staff.The first year of a relationship has its ups and downs. Here’s how to eliminate the downs and keep it up all year long.
Girlfriends come with a built-in sex guarantee, but what’s not guaranteed is whether she’ll want to do it as frequently or with the same fire (read: as slammed on tequila and Percocet) as you. Here’s how to navigate the highs, the lows, and the middles of you and your girl’s first year of getting it on.
Three Weeks: Turn to the Dark Side
After a few getting-to-know-you rolls in the hay, you’re probably dying to bump things up from PG-13 to an undisclosed number of X’s. Try taking it one X at a time by picking a single raunchy move from your arsenal of “sexual eclecticism” and asking her nicely if she’d be up for giving it a go. You may be surprised to discover she’s got a freaky side somewhere, so really all you’re doing her is the favor of letting it out.
“About a month after I started dating this one guy, he told me he was a spanker,” says Sasha,* 30. “Not like whips and flogs, but like manly, open-handed swats to my ass. I wasn’t certain that I wanted to play along, but when he gave me a couple of introductory wallops, the way he looked straight into my eyes while he was doing it was a huge turn-on. From then on my
ass—and the rest of me—was slightly reddened putty in his hands.”
Three Months: Crash the Pajama Party
Curse that inevitable night when sleeping together will mean…you know, sleeping. What started as wine-me, dine-me, screw-me-in-the-taxi-home dating has now, after a few short months, turned into TiVo and takeout. Time to negotiate a precoital contract! Like Kristyn, 27, who conquered sex-life doldrums by instituting a “sex every night” rule with her boyfriend.
“Honestly, it turned out to be one of the most erotic times in my life—just day in and day out of turning him on or getting turned on,” she says. “We didn’t want to get to the end of the day and realize that neither one of us was in the mood to do it, so we would tease each other mercilessly; the sexting and the hot voice mails were nearly constant. We also discovered about a half-dozen erotic zones—behind my knee, between his shoulder blades—that we still rely on to turn each other on, and our repertoire of where and when to fuck has become exponentially greater.”
Unfortunately, not every girl gets what’s so sexy about putting you on her to-do list.
Plan B: Remember that chores around the house count as foreplay…when you do them, that is. “Coming home from work, I’m thinking about having to make dinner and do laundry,” says Danette, 30. “Knowing this, my man has a plan. He’ll grab my favorite sandwich from the deli, then get to my place early and clean it. When I walk in the door, I don’t have any problems to solve, and I’m reminded how awesome my guy is. His shot at the trifecta means a slam dunk in the bedroom before I’ve even started on the sandwich.”
Your final line of offense: If you can’t beat her, join her. “Offer to fix her a dish of ice cream, but get a little creative with it,” says Jen, 25. “Spoon a scoop into her mouth, then lick a little mint chocolate chip off her lips. Show off your tongue’s cherry-stem-tying abilities and tell her where you’d really like to put that whipped cream. Jammies, ice cream, and your mouth all over her? That, I believe, is how a couple should get over the midweek, hump-day blues.”
Six Months: Fight Dirty, Apologize Dirtier
Your first real fight comes with a built-in silver lining: steaming-hot make-up sex!
The catch: She currently wishes you were trapped inside a vat of steaming-hot garbage juice. Some chicks do get off on despising your guts. Heed Pam, 27: “Am I the only one who likes hate sex? Don’t try to talk to me. Just fuck me in anger, please.” (And, no, you cannot have Pam’s e-mail address.) But most chicks require some slick maneuvering on your part to get from livid to horny. Here’s the bad news: Lust means always having to say you’re sorry.
As Clara, 28, says, “Even if you swear you did nothing wrong, nothing’s sexier than a guy willing to take the fall for a fight. And that gives him an incentive to get me in a compromising position later, when I’ll be dying to take it all back.”
Guys who are especially gifted in b.s. might even be able to pull off the sex without pleading guilty. “He’ll touch me on one of my hot spots, pulling my body into his with one hand firmly on the small of my back, and tell me that he’s sorry for what he said,” says Josephine, 24, of her boyfriend’s sneaky tactics. “By drawing me close, he’s got me looking at him eye to eye, and I’ll usually melt in a second and suggest we head to the bed. This worked on me probably a dozen times before I realized he never actually admits he was wrong in the first place—and that it’s always me who’s begging him to shut up so we can go and fuck.”
Nine Months: Get Your Flirt On
By now you know your girlfriend’s friends pretty well, especially “the hot one.” Likewise, your girl has probably figured out which of the guys in your entourage hit on their buddies’ girlfriends relentlessly. At this point wandering eyes and jealousies may start to develop, but resist a relationship bailout. What if these harmless little attractions could serve as your own personal stimulus package?
“I always tell my boyfriend about my silly crushes,” admits Tricia, 26. “Innocent crushes and flirtatious friendships make both of us feel attractive and wanted. The key is to bring that energy to bed and use it on each other rather than going out and fucking other people.”
However, there are two very important caveats on this point. One, let her go first. Aside from celebrity crushes, you can’t start telling a girl willy-nilly the names of all the real-life people you’ve got the hots for, unless she has already cracked open that door. Two, you can admit to crushing on any female except her BFF, who is strictly spank-bank-only material.
One Year: We Made It! Let’s Do It!
Congratulations, it’s time for the traditional first-anniversary gift: a weekend of marathon hotel sex! Now, she may be the type who wants to plan this in advance, or you might fare better by warming her up the night of, getting her so randy that she’ll agree to anything that won’t land her in a Turkish prison.
Either way, Darcy, 30, knows a guaranteed girl turn-on, perfect for a special occasion. “Big nights out for us usually start as hot nights in. My guy always catches me right after I’ve done my hair and makeup and slipped into a sexy outfit. Since I’m all gussied up already, we’ll do it on the kitchen counter or in the hallway against the wall—having sex upright prevents my hair from getting messy or my makeup smudged. We always wind up leaving for the restaurant later than we planned—and bringing a bigger appetite.”
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Forbidden SeX Equals Super HoT SeX
It is always a rush and sexy to see if you can and how far you can push the limits. Example being maybe an attempt at public sex where there is a risk to getting caught. It makes the moment more intense and makes the endorphans pump along with the adrenaline wich is an aphrodesiac all in its self....
Sex & Relationships..Forbidden Sex Equals Super Hot Sex
.By: Maxim Staff.Thanks to their illicit nature, off-limits hookups are usually off-the-charts sexy.
Once on vacation I found myself seriously attracted to a man I definitely wasn’t supposed to be—a friend of my dad’s, whom he’d invited along. (Hey, I was 24. And he was only 30. OK, maybe 35.) After a day of sailing and a night of hotel bar karaoke, we ended up hooking up on the beach, and spent the rest of the week having a super-secret fling.
Why? Precisely because he was the one person I shouldn’t have gone anywhere near. At some point every girl has had a thing for someone in the “do not touch” category—her best friend’s brother, her sorority sister’s ex—and has, per the rules of polite society, done her best to stay away. But if you think there’s no way she’d cross that line, you’re probably wrong—I’m living proof. Thanks to their illicit nature, off-limits hookups are usually off-the-charts hot. And when played correctly, the reward can be worth the risk.
The girl: your roommate
I know four couples who started out as roommates—which shows this challenge can be met, but also stands as a warning: Things can go from zero to husband-and-wife-like very quickly. Still, if it’s easy sex you’re after, a coed roomie can be a jackpot.
When Margaret,* 33, got a new roommate, she said it was only a month before they were fucking on the couch. “One minute we were laughing at Modern Family, the next we had our hands in each other’s pants.” Even hotter: They had to keep things secret from a third roommate. “While we were all hanging out, he’d give me a look, and I’d count the minutes before I could sneak into his room.”
If you’re not social with your roommate, it’s still easy to get cozy after a night out. “The first time my roommate and I hooked up, we’d gotten in late around the same time,” says Erin, 25. “He asked if I wanted a nightcap, so we cracked some whiskey and stayed up talking, and one thing led to another. Now we do it every few weeks.”
The move: Adjust to her schedule so you can bond. Does she wake up at seven to do yoga? Get up to make coffee. She likes to watch American Idol? Make it your new show.
Danger factor: Any resulting awkwardness only lasts as long as your lease.
The girl: your GF’s sister
The guilt factor in destroying a blood bond could be major. The good news is, it’s tough to do. “I had sex with a guy my sister dated, only because she and I had a rivalry that made him seem like a prize,” says Stephanie, 30. “It was a few years after they’d gone out, so she was pissed when she found out, but not enough to stop talking to me.”
Younger siblings tend to have a chip on their shoulder from years of being compared to big sis, so tell her how smart, pretty, or funny she is and she might reward you. Or she just might be a psycho, in which case you won’t have much work to do at all. “My little sister boned my college boyfriend right under my nose,” says Kelly, 32. “He was visiting me on our winter break, and my parents made him sleep in the basement. She was still in high school and going through some party phase—pills, booze. Part of her ‘cry for help’ was to crawl on top of him in the middle of the night. The best part was that he fucked her but told me about it as though he’d been taken advantage of somehow. I dumped him immediately.”
The move: Siblings are notoriously competitive. Prey on that—and hope it’s worth the pure hell that may follow!
Danger factor: Upset the sisters and you might have to deal with the dad. Just sayin’.
The girl: your intern
Hooking up with a colleague isn’t that unusual these days, but it’s much riskier when she’s your subordinate. Still, in a way you’re in luck: Women are seriously attracted to men in a position of power.
“I had sex with my boss when I was a 20-year-old intern at a newspaper,” says Kat, 27. “He’d take me out for lunch and help me with my résumé. I made the first move, but the fact that he was willing to risk his job to do it with me made me feel irresistible.”
The potential for scandal is actually a turn-on for a lot of women. One girl said she wanted people to find out about her affair because it made her feel superior over other colleagues—that her boss had chosen her almost felt like approval for a job well done.
“I’ve hooked up with several superiors,” says Melissa, 28. “One was my HR director, so it was beyond wrong. Another guy was my direct boss, and he’d give me crappy tasks, like walking his dog at lunch. When I got
to his place, he’d be waiting for me. People at work had no idea we were fucking.”
The move: Make her feel like one of the gang: Invite her out with more established colleagues, and give her legit work to do. But look into company policy first—no one wants to be ID’d as a harassing sleazebag.
Danger factor: Smokin’ assistant versus ongoing employment. Hmm.
The girl: the out-of-your-league crush
She’s not strictly off-limits, but society still deems you can’t sleep with her. Why? Because, frankly, she’s a lot hotter than you. However, that doesn’t mean she won’t give you the goods.
“I hooked up with my nerdy lab partner in college,” says Colleen, 28, who was president of her sorority. “He was pock-marked, with an orange ’fro. But we spent long hours working together, and he was super-supportive when I’d get frustrated. One night I needed a stress reliever, and he suggested we blow off work. We snuck into an empty room, and he made a move. I was shocked—he was a great lay!”
The move: Give her the right kind of attention. When other dudes dote, be casual. If they treat her like a trophy, act like you’re on the same level. She’ll find it refreshing.
Danger factor: You may be embarrassed when people wonder why she’s with you. But who cares?
The girl: your best friend’s ex
Assuming you spent a lot of time with her, it was probably hard not to imagine her naked. The good news is, she likely had the same thought. And if she’s upset about being newly single, nothing says “screw you” to her ex like screwing his buddy.
“My current boyfriend used to be good friends with my ex,” says Alicia, 29. “After the breakup, we’d talk about what went wrong, and he’d say things like, ‘He’s crazy to let you go.’ Soon we were making out, half because he made me feel good and half because I just wanted to burn my ex. Eventually, we fell for each other for real—and they stayed friends.”
Not all endings are that tidy, but who cares when the sex is so good? “Once when my boyfriend and I were in a huge fight, I fucked his best friend,” says Diana, 23. “I ran into him at a bar right after the blowout and was so furious I pulled him into the bathroom and rode him like crazy. We kept it on the DL when my guy and I worked things out. But I still smile thinking about how hot it was.”
The move: When women are going through a breakup, they love nothing more than talking about it. So be her shoulder to cry on. He was selfish? You love giving foot rubs! Play his opposite and you’ll be the new boy in her bed in no time.
Danger factor: This is a terrible idea that will never, ever end well. Trust us.
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Sex & Relationships..Forbidden Sex Equals Super Hot Sex
.By: Maxim Staff.Thanks to their illicit nature, off-limits hookups are usually off-the-charts sexy.
Once on vacation I found myself seriously attracted to a man I definitely wasn’t supposed to be—a friend of my dad’s, whom he’d invited along. (Hey, I was 24. And he was only 30. OK, maybe 35.) After a day of sailing and a night of hotel bar karaoke, we ended up hooking up on the beach, and spent the rest of the week having a super-secret fling.
Why? Precisely because he was the one person I shouldn’t have gone anywhere near. At some point every girl has had a thing for someone in the “do not touch” category—her best friend’s brother, her sorority sister’s ex—and has, per the rules of polite society, done her best to stay away. But if you think there’s no way she’d cross that line, you’re probably wrong—I’m living proof. Thanks to their illicit nature, off-limits hookups are usually off-the-charts hot. And when played correctly, the reward can be worth the risk.
The girl: your roommate
I know four couples who started out as roommates—which shows this challenge can be met, but also stands as a warning: Things can go from zero to husband-and-wife-like very quickly. Still, if it’s easy sex you’re after, a coed roomie can be a jackpot.
When Margaret,* 33, got a new roommate, she said it was only a month before they were fucking on the couch. “One minute we were laughing at Modern Family, the next we had our hands in each other’s pants.” Even hotter: They had to keep things secret from a third roommate. “While we were all hanging out, he’d give me a look, and I’d count the minutes before I could sneak into his room.”
If you’re not social with your roommate, it’s still easy to get cozy after a night out. “The first time my roommate and I hooked up, we’d gotten in late around the same time,” says Erin, 25. “He asked if I wanted a nightcap, so we cracked some whiskey and stayed up talking, and one thing led to another. Now we do it every few weeks.”
The move: Adjust to her schedule so you can bond. Does she wake up at seven to do yoga? Get up to make coffee. She likes to watch American Idol? Make it your new show.
Danger factor: Any resulting awkwardness only lasts as long as your lease.
The girl: your GF’s sister
The guilt factor in destroying a blood bond could be major. The good news is, it’s tough to do. “I had sex with a guy my sister dated, only because she and I had a rivalry that made him seem like a prize,” says Stephanie, 30. “It was a few years after they’d gone out, so she was pissed when she found out, but not enough to stop talking to me.”
Younger siblings tend to have a chip on their shoulder from years of being compared to big sis, so tell her how smart, pretty, or funny she is and she might reward you. Or she just might be a psycho, in which case you won’t have much work to do at all. “My little sister boned my college boyfriend right under my nose,” says Kelly, 32. “He was visiting me on our winter break, and my parents made him sleep in the basement. She was still in high school and going through some party phase—pills, booze. Part of her ‘cry for help’ was to crawl on top of him in the middle of the night. The best part was that he fucked her but told me about it as though he’d been taken advantage of somehow. I dumped him immediately.”
The move: Siblings are notoriously competitive. Prey on that—and hope it’s worth the pure hell that may follow!
Danger factor: Upset the sisters and you might have to deal with the dad. Just sayin’.
The girl: your intern
Hooking up with a colleague isn’t that unusual these days, but it’s much riskier when she’s your subordinate. Still, in a way you’re in luck: Women are seriously attracted to men in a position of power.
“I had sex with my boss when I was a 20-year-old intern at a newspaper,” says Kat, 27. “He’d take me out for lunch and help me with my résumé. I made the first move, but the fact that he was willing to risk his job to do it with me made me feel irresistible.”
The potential for scandal is actually a turn-on for a lot of women. One girl said she wanted people to find out about her affair because it made her feel superior over other colleagues—that her boss had chosen her almost felt like approval for a job well done.
“I’ve hooked up with several superiors,” says Melissa, 28. “One was my HR director, so it was beyond wrong. Another guy was my direct boss, and he’d give me crappy tasks, like walking his dog at lunch. When I got
to his place, he’d be waiting for me. People at work had no idea we were fucking.”
The move: Make her feel like one of the gang: Invite her out with more established colleagues, and give her legit work to do. But look into company policy first—no one wants to be ID’d as a harassing sleazebag.
Danger factor: Smokin’ assistant versus ongoing employment. Hmm.
The girl: the out-of-your-league crush
She’s not strictly off-limits, but society still deems you can’t sleep with her. Why? Because, frankly, she’s a lot hotter than you. However, that doesn’t mean she won’t give you the goods.
“I hooked up with my nerdy lab partner in college,” says Colleen, 28, who was president of her sorority. “He was pock-marked, with an orange ’fro. But we spent long hours working together, and he was super-supportive when I’d get frustrated. One night I needed a stress reliever, and he suggested we blow off work. We snuck into an empty room, and he made a move. I was shocked—he was a great lay!”
The move: Give her the right kind of attention. When other dudes dote, be casual. If they treat her like a trophy, act like you’re on the same level. She’ll find it refreshing.
Danger factor: You may be embarrassed when people wonder why she’s with you. But who cares?
The girl: your best friend’s ex
Assuming you spent a lot of time with her, it was probably hard not to imagine her naked. The good news is, she likely had the same thought. And if she’s upset about being newly single, nothing says “screw you” to her ex like screwing his buddy.
“My current boyfriend used to be good friends with my ex,” says Alicia, 29. “After the breakup, we’d talk about what went wrong, and he’d say things like, ‘He’s crazy to let you go.’ Soon we were making out, half because he made me feel good and half because I just wanted to burn my ex. Eventually, we fell for each other for real—and they stayed friends.”
Not all endings are that tidy, but who cares when the sex is so good? “Once when my boyfriend and I were in a huge fight, I fucked his best friend,” says Diana, 23. “I ran into him at a bar right after the blowout and was so furious I pulled him into the bathroom and rode him like crazy. We kept it on the DL when my guy and I worked things out. But I still smile thinking about how hot it was.”
The move: When women are going through a breakup, they love nothing more than talking about it. So be her shoulder to cry on. He was selfish? You love giving foot rubs! Play his opposite and you’ll be the new boy in her bed in no time.
Danger factor: This is a terrible idea that will never, ever end well. Trust us.
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"Go Out With A Bang"
Sex & Relationships..Go Out With a Bang
.By: Laura Leu.With the apocalypse upon us, there’s only one thing left to do: everyone in sight!
According to some interpretations of the Mayan calendar and a terrible movie starring John Cusack, the world is
ending in 2012. If the prophecy is to be believed (and why shouldn’t it be?), you have only six months to say goodbye to loved ones, make amends, and, most important, have as much sex as possible. And not just regular sex. It’s the end of life as we know it, people: Let’s do this thing right.
To boost your chances of a freaky farewell, we asked women about their favorite kinks—the ones they’d recommend anyone try before they kick it. The result: a sexual bucket list that would make Morgan Freeman blush. Start checking them off now before we all turn to dust.
July: Visit a Sex Club
Sex clubs are like the infomercial products of debauchery, because you get three kinks in one: orgies, voyeurism, and exhibitionism. Engage in one or all three, depending on your comfort level. It’s the approach 28-year-old Linda* and her boyfriend took on their first visit to a club. “We decided we would just observe at first,” she says. “After watching a sexy couple go at it, we got super turned on, so we snuck off to a side room, where I gave him a killer blow job. By the time I was finished, there was a crowd of people watching, which had always been a fantasy of mine.”
Be aware that many sex clubs are couples- only, and those that do allow single guys jack up the price of solo admission. (A man going to an orgy by himself is a little creepy, not to mention impolite. Never arrive at a party empty-handed!) So bring a date with you, whether you’re currently sleeping with her or not. Samantha, 25, agreed to go with an ex. “He’d been bugging me about it, so on his birthday I relented. I ended up hooking up with a busty blonde while he enjoyed the show.”
August: Have Sex with a Celebrity
Realistically, you’re not going to spend your final nights with Mila Kunis. (Yes, we know she dated Macaulay Culkin. It’s still not happening.) But anyone would agree that you haven’t truly lived if you’ve never had a herpes scare from a C-list celeb—and that is in the realm of possibility.
The point? Sexual one-upmanship. After all, “I boned Liza Minnelli” will trump even the craziest of stories. “Am I proud I slept with a washed-up rock star? Not really,” admits Jen, 23, of a one-night stand with a drummer from a ’90s grunge band she met at a dive bar in L.A. “But it was pretty hilarious. He was thrilled to be recognized again and rewarded me in his residential hotel suite, where we played ‘follow the porn’ and poured champagne on each other in bed.”
You don’t need to be in L.A. or N.Y.C. to make it happen. These days there’s a fame-hungry reality star or “Web celebrity” in every suburb—and they thrive on attention. Marci, 23, used flattery to woo a small-town comedian on Twitter. “It was my mission to fuck him,” she says. “I’d re-tweet him all the time and add flirty remarks. Eventually, he took notice and invited me to drinks. I knew we were going to hook up before it happened—all I had to do was giggle nonstop.” Find the Bachelorette star nearest you and hop to it.
September: Tie or Be Tied
A lot of guys are scared to tie up a girl (“What if I hurt her?”) or be tied up (“What if she thinks I’m not manly?”), but many women say playing with power dynamics is their ultimate turn-on. It’s why Brenda, 34, a lawyer and self-proclaimed ball-buster, loves to get screwed with her arms bound behind her back. “I’m a control freak, so being restrained during sex is my way of letting go,” she says.
Natasha, 24, prefers being on the other side of the knot. And while her boyfriend was initially reluctant, once she showed him how she likes to take control, he started giving in. “One of my favorite moves is to strip him down, sit him in a chair, and then tie his arms and legs to it,” she says. “Then I tease him with a lap dance and go down on him until he begs to be untied so he can fuck me. Once I do that he’s like an unleashed animal.”
October: Have a Sex Marathon
Several women said their last act would be an all-day sexfest that would include just a few breaks for food, naps, and bathroom needs. For added effect, many recommended it on a weekday. “When my boyfriend and I were in our fuck-all-the-time stage, we called in sick one morning and had sex eight times, one for each hour of the workday,” says Eve, 27. “I was so sore later that night. We tried positions we’d never thought of and learned every inch of each other’s bodies.”
A 24-hour sex marathon may not seem feasible, but keep in mind there’s much more than penetration at your disposal. For 31-year-old Karen, who spends the first Sunday of every month in bed with her boyfriend, it’s all about variety. “ We incorporate a ton of oral sex, masturbating, and sex toy action,” she says. “He’ll go down on me until I come, then we’ll break, and then I’ll get him off. By the end we’re soaked with sweat, totally exhausted, and beyond satisfied.”
November: Do a Stranger
The clock is ticking, so if you aren’t hitched (or, hell, even if you are), it is time to pursue just about any attractive person you see. Trust us: More women are up for it than you’d think. Michaela, 33, travels often for work and enjoys seeking out anonymous sex. The first time, she’d gotten toasted in the hotel bar and let her inhibitions—and her pants—drop. “I was on my second cocktail when the hot bartender started chatting me up,” she says. “By my fourth drink I was asking him what time he got off.” Since she was staying right upstairs, it was an easy transition to the bedroom. “We had really raunchy sex. He was smacking my ass and calling me a dirty slut. It was so unlike me but also the best sex I’d ever had. Knowing I’d never see this guy again—I couldn’t even remember his name the next day!—made me feel I could go wild.”
That’s the thing about sex with a stranger: You can be anyone. For 28-year-old Allie, a timid writer and self-proclaimed prude, that someone became a very demanding, sexually confident man-eater when she accepted a sexy stranger’s midday proposal at a coffee shop where she was working on her laptop. “I was eyeing this guy, and after a while he approached me and simply said, ‘So, wanna get out of here?’ It was sort of cheesy, but I was into it,” she says. “I took him home and told him exactly how I wanted him to do me.”
December: Go All-Out on the Internet
Normally we wouldn’t recommend spending your last month on Earth online. But everyone knows there’s an army of horny people lurking there, and it would be a shame not to join their ranks before you die.
Cruise over to Craigslist’s “Casual Encounters” section and click on “w4m” (perv-speak for “women seeking men”) to find headlines like “I need a little slap and tickle.” All you have to do is respond. But note: “Don’t send a photo of your cock,” says Jane, 29, a frequent poster. Even though these women are looking for sex, they want to know who they’re screwing, and disembodied dicks don’t say much about you (other than whether you’re European or an aging NFL QB). Says Jane: “I’ve had seven sex adventures thanks to Craigslist, and they’ve all been with guys who were able to convince me via e-mail that they weren’t nut cases. A bonus was that each guy was into something different—one was obsessed with tits and gave me my first orgasm from nipple-touching. Another had never had anal, so I became his first. It was a sex buffet.”
Yes, the Internet provides a safe place to voice all your desires judgment-free and find someone who shares them. “I went through a phase where I was into sex that started as a wrestling match and ended with me being pinned and fucked at the same time,” says Krista, 23. “I wasn’t comfortable asking anyone I was dating to do it, so I searched ads from guys who asked for ‘rough sex.’ I had a lot of rug burns back then.” But who cares about burns? The end of the world is coming—so should you.....
Make the most out of your day, out of every moment. Make the days Great & Go Out With A Bang!!!
~~ Joe "J Rag" Rago
http://www.myspace.com/jragtv
.By: Laura Leu.With the apocalypse upon us, there’s only one thing left to do: everyone in sight!
According to some interpretations of the Mayan calendar and a terrible movie starring John Cusack, the world is
ending in 2012. If the prophecy is to be believed (and why shouldn’t it be?), you have only six months to say goodbye to loved ones, make amends, and, most important, have as much sex as possible. And not just regular sex. It’s the end of life as we know it, people: Let’s do this thing right.
To boost your chances of a freaky farewell, we asked women about their favorite kinks—the ones they’d recommend anyone try before they kick it. The result: a sexual bucket list that would make Morgan Freeman blush. Start checking them off now before we all turn to dust.
July: Visit a Sex Club
Sex clubs are like the infomercial products of debauchery, because you get three kinks in one: orgies, voyeurism, and exhibitionism. Engage in one or all three, depending on your comfort level. It’s the approach 28-year-old Linda* and her boyfriend took on their first visit to a club. “We decided we would just observe at first,” she says. “After watching a sexy couple go at it, we got super turned on, so we snuck off to a side room, where I gave him a killer blow job. By the time I was finished, there was a crowd of people watching, which had always been a fantasy of mine.”
Be aware that many sex clubs are couples- only, and those that do allow single guys jack up the price of solo admission. (A man going to an orgy by himself is a little creepy, not to mention impolite. Never arrive at a party empty-handed!) So bring a date with you, whether you’re currently sleeping with her or not. Samantha, 25, agreed to go with an ex. “He’d been bugging me about it, so on his birthday I relented. I ended up hooking up with a busty blonde while he enjoyed the show.”
August: Have Sex with a Celebrity
Realistically, you’re not going to spend your final nights with Mila Kunis. (Yes, we know she dated Macaulay Culkin. It’s still not happening.) But anyone would agree that you haven’t truly lived if you’ve never had a herpes scare from a C-list celeb—and that is in the realm of possibility.
The point? Sexual one-upmanship. After all, “I boned Liza Minnelli” will trump even the craziest of stories. “Am I proud I slept with a washed-up rock star? Not really,” admits Jen, 23, of a one-night stand with a drummer from a ’90s grunge band she met at a dive bar in L.A. “But it was pretty hilarious. He was thrilled to be recognized again and rewarded me in his residential hotel suite, where we played ‘follow the porn’ and poured champagne on each other in bed.”
You don’t need to be in L.A. or N.Y.C. to make it happen. These days there’s a fame-hungry reality star or “Web celebrity” in every suburb—and they thrive on attention. Marci, 23, used flattery to woo a small-town comedian on Twitter. “It was my mission to fuck him,” she says. “I’d re-tweet him all the time and add flirty remarks. Eventually, he took notice and invited me to drinks. I knew we were going to hook up before it happened—all I had to do was giggle nonstop.” Find the Bachelorette star nearest you and hop to it.
September: Tie or Be Tied
A lot of guys are scared to tie up a girl (“What if I hurt her?”) or be tied up (“What if she thinks I’m not manly?”), but many women say playing with power dynamics is their ultimate turn-on. It’s why Brenda, 34, a lawyer and self-proclaimed ball-buster, loves to get screwed with her arms bound behind her back. “I’m a control freak, so being restrained during sex is my way of letting go,” she says.
Natasha, 24, prefers being on the other side of the knot. And while her boyfriend was initially reluctant, once she showed him how she likes to take control, he started giving in. “One of my favorite moves is to strip him down, sit him in a chair, and then tie his arms and legs to it,” she says. “Then I tease him with a lap dance and go down on him until he begs to be untied so he can fuck me. Once I do that he’s like an unleashed animal.”
October: Have a Sex Marathon
Several women said their last act would be an all-day sexfest that would include just a few breaks for food, naps, and bathroom needs. For added effect, many recommended it on a weekday. “When my boyfriend and I were in our fuck-all-the-time stage, we called in sick one morning and had sex eight times, one for each hour of the workday,” says Eve, 27. “I was so sore later that night. We tried positions we’d never thought of and learned every inch of each other’s bodies.”
A 24-hour sex marathon may not seem feasible, but keep in mind there’s much more than penetration at your disposal. For 31-year-old Karen, who spends the first Sunday of every month in bed with her boyfriend, it’s all about variety. “ We incorporate a ton of oral sex, masturbating, and sex toy action,” she says. “He’ll go down on me until I come, then we’ll break, and then I’ll get him off. By the end we’re soaked with sweat, totally exhausted, and beyond satisfied.”
November: Do a Stranger
The clock is ticking, so if you aren’t hitched (or, hell, even if you are), it is time to pursue just about any attractive person you see. Trust us: More women are up for it than you’d think. Michaela, 33, travels often for work and enjoys seeking out anonymous sex. The first time, she’d gotten toasted in the hotel bar and let her inhibitions—and her pants—drop. “I was on my second cocktail when the hot bartender started chatting me up,” she says. “By my fourth drink I was asking him what time he got off.” Since she was staying right upstairs, it was an easy transition to the bedroom. “We had really raunchy sex. He was smacking my ass and calling me a dirty slut. It was so unlike me but also the best sex I’d ever had. Knowing I’d never see this guy again—I couldn’t even remember his name the next day!—made me feel I could go wild.”
That’s the thing about sex with a stranger: You can be anyone. For 28-year-old Allie, a timid writer and self-proclaimed prude, that someone became a very demanding, sexually confident man-eater when she accepted a sexy stranger’s midday proposal at a coffee shop where she was working on her laptop. “I was eyeing this guy, and after a while he approached me and simply said, ‘So, wanna get out of here?’ It was sort of cheesy, but I was into it,” she says. “I took him home and told him exactly how I wanted him to do me.”
December: Go All-Out on the Internet
Normally we wouldn’t recommend spending your last month on Earth online. But everyone knows there’s an army of horny people lurking there, and it would be a shame not to join their ranks before you die.
Cruise over to Craigslist’s “Casual Encounters” section and click on “w4m” (perv-speak for “women seeking men”) to find headlines like “I need a little slap and tickle.” All you have to do is respond. But note: “Don’t send a photo of your cock,” says Jane, 29, a frequent poster. Even though these women are looking for sex, they want to know who they’re screwing, and disembodied dicks don’t say much about you (other than whether you’re European or an aging NFL QB). Says Jane: “I’ve had seven sex adventures thanks to Craigslist, and they’ve all been with guys who were able to convince me via e-mail that they weren’t nut cases. A bonus was that each guy was into something different—one was obsessed with tits and gave me my first orgasm from nipple-touching. Another had never had anal, so I became his first. It was a sex buffet.”
Yes, the Internet provides a safe place to voice all your desires judgment-free and find someone who shares them. “I went through a phase where I was into sex that started as a wrestling match and ended with me being pinned and fucked at the same time,” says Krista, 23. “I wasn’t comfortable asking anyone I was dating to do it, so I searched ads from guys who asked for ‘rough sex.’ I had a lot of rug burns back then.” But who cares about burns? The end of the world is coming—so should you.....
Make the most out of your day, out of every moment. Make the days Great & Go Out With A Bang!!!
~~ Joe "J Rag" Rago
http://www.myspace.com/jragtv
The Rules Of Bringing Food In To SeX
Sex & Relationships..The Perils (and Rules) of Mixing Food and Sex
.By: John Prester.In the movies, there's little sexier than a naked woman armed with a bottle of chocolate syrup and a come-hither smile. But in reality, mixing food with sex usually ends with an argument over who has to clean up the mess, hours of chafing, and a permanent antipathy for the edible in question.
It doesn't have to be that. By following a few simple rules, you can avoid the worst of the wurst. Or strawberries, or dripped honey, or Brussels sprouts...
Rule 1: Check on your partner's food allergies. You'd be surprised how easy it is to forget this the cardinal rule of sexual experimentation ("Thou shalt not do anything that causes one of you to swell up and die.") And remember that food allergies often include even inhaling the tiniest bit of a trigger substance, so rubbing but not ingesting isn't always an acceptable substitute.
Rule 2: Don't break out the fancy sheets. Or, if you're doing it in the living room, roll away the antique Persian rug. Or, if you insist on incorporating furniture into your sex play, cover the couch (or whatever) with a plastic sheet and throw a comfortable but inexpensive blanket over that. The ideal place to have food-based sex would be the bathtub, but many people have a problem with eating next to toilets. Go figure.
Rule 3: Make sure she's into it. For some reason, nothing wilts someone's sex drive like overcooked asparagus faster than some dude popping up suddenly at their front door with a goofy grin and a jar of chunky peanut butter.
Rule 4: Some foods are messier than others. Licking honey off each other sounds like a great idea on the way to the bedroom, but it doesn't enhance the post-coital glow if you're literally stuck to each other in sensitive places. And orange marmalade may really key in to your mutual Paddington Bear fetish, but you won't be singing a happy tune when you're digging bits of zest out of the headboard a week later. Plan as much for the clean-up as you are for the fun, if not more.
Rule 5: Some foods are sexier than others. You're not going to do much for anyone's libido with a jar of marinated mushrooms. (Unless you're a real freak, in which case, have at it!) In general, go with sweet over savory, and room temperature, cool or cold (but not frostbite cold) over, say, a steaming-hot pot roast. Leave anything that you'd normally eat with a fork and knife back in the dining room.
Rule No. 6: Have fun! I know, I know, every list of bullshit rules ends with "Have fun!" but this time I really mean it. Honest.
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.By: John Prester.In the movies, there's little sexier than a naked woman armed with a bottle of chocolate syrup and a come-hither smile. But in reality, mixing food with sex usually ends with an argument over who has to clean up the mess, hours of chafing, and a permanent antipathy for the edible in question.
It doesn't have to be that. By following a few simple rules, you can avoid the worst of the wurst. Or strawberries, or dripped honey, or Brussels sprouts...
Rule 1: Check on your partner's food allergies. You'd be surprised how easy it is to forget this the cardinal rule of sexual experimentation ("Thou shalt not do anything that causes one of you to swell up and die.") And remember that food allergies often include even inhaling the tiniest bit of a trigger substance, so rubbing but not ingesting isn't always an acceptable substitute.
Rule 2: Don't break out the fancy sheets. Or, if you're doing it in the living room, roll away the antique Persian rug. Or, if you insist on incorporating furniture into your sex play, cover the couch (or whatever) with a plastic sheet and throw a comfortable but inexpensive blanket over that. The ideal place to have food-based sex would be the bathtub, but many people have a problem with eating next to toilets. Go figure.
Rule 3: Make sure she's into it. For some reason, nothing wilts someone's sex drive like overcooked asparagus faster than some dude popping up suddenly at their front door with a goofy grin and a jar of chunky peanut butter.
Rule 4: Some foods are messier than others. Licking honey off each other sounds like a great idea on the way to the bedroom, but it doesn't enhance the post-coital glow if you're literally stuck to each other in sensitive places. And orange marmalade may really key in to your mutual Paddington Bear fetish, but you won't be singing a happy tune when you're digging bits of zest out of the headboard a week later. Plan as much for the clean-up as you are for the fun, if not more.
Rule 5: Some foods are sexier than others. You're not going to do much for anyone's libido with a jar of marinated mushrooms. (Unless you're a real freak, in which case, have at it!) In general, go with sweet over savory, and room temperature, cool or cold (but not frostbite cold) over, say, a steaming-hot pot roast. Leave anything that you'd normally eat with a fork and knife back in the dining room.
Rule No. 6: Have fun! I know, I know, every list of bullshit rules ends with "Have fun!" but this time I really mean it. Honest.
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Monday, January 30, 2012
"In This Life" [The Thought Of The Day]
[The Thought Of The Day] "In This Life" with J Rag
"The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of each other."
Letting a good woman go is a mistake, not getting his back will be your regret, thinking "what if" will become your life. Decide wisely
If good things come to those who wait, I must be getting something amazing because I've waited forever
Love completely, give second chances and don't be afraid to make mistakes, We all do, Just learn from them as not to repeat them and move on....
Keys to a good relationship are to except each others faults, to discuss not argue, and always do your best to control your feelings when upset.
The best feeling in the world is knowing that you actually mean something to someone.
you can't wait for life to hand you things. It doesn't work like that. anything that's worth having is worth fighting for.
There are three types of people in this world:those who make things happen,those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened.....
2012 MindScApe Entertainment(R). (c)J Rag Publishing(ASCAP).
"The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of each other."
Letting a good woman go is a mistake, not getting his back will be your regret, thinking "what if" will become your life. Decide wisely
If good things come to those who wait, I must be getting something amazing because I've waited forever
Love completely, give second chances and don't be afraid to make mistakes, We all do, Just learn from them as not to repeat them and move on....
Keys to a good relationship are to except each others faults, to discuss not argue, and always do your best to control your feelings when upset.
The best feeling in the world is knowing that you actually mean something to someone.
you can't wait for life to hand you things. It doesn't work like that. anything that's worth having is worth fighting for.
There are three types of people in this world:those who make things happen,those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened.....
2012 MindScApe Entertainment(R). (c)J Rag Publishing(ASCAP).
Saturday, January 28, 2012
"It's All About You"
It's all about you tonight. lay down and let me rub your back. its your time girl, to be pampered. the oils are out now, and they're warmed up for you..... It's all about you tonight!!
"Tears Of An Angel"
Michael Jackson "Tears Of An Angel" Rest In Peace!!
Some people make your life better by walking into it, while other people will make your life better by simply walking out of it.
Some people make your life better by walking into it, while other people will make your life better by simply walking out of it.
Friday, January 27, 2012
Making Women Jealous
Jealousy causes women to do crazy things and feel very powerful emotions that range from love to hate. When it comes to dating, jealousy can make a woman buckle up, fight more and give more.
For a guy, knowing how to provoke this powerful emotion out of a beautiful woman can give you the upper hand in the dating game. The only aim of getting a woman jealous is to give her the impression that you are the prize and that there are others who would readily grab you if she messes up even the slightest bit. Women are very competitive and if they sense you are in high demand with other women, more than likely they’ll compete to win your attention.
So, how exactly do you use jealousy to attract women? Let's say you're in a bar and there are two women there. One is attractive and you like her; however, the other one is not so attractive. You approach both women, but the entire time you converse and flirt with the less attractive woman much more than with the attractive woman. Most of the time in this scenario, the more attractive woman will try and work harder for your attention.
In a similar scenario, let's say you're flirting with just one woman and she won't give you the time of day. Simply turn around and go chat up another girl in her vicinity, acting like you've forgotten she even exists. At this point, the first girl who paid no attention to you will definitely be observing your behavior, and the second girl's camaraderie with you can easily induce a fit of jealousy. In this situation, don't be surprised if the first girl (who didn't have any feelings for you until she saw you with the second one) makes her way toward your direction in a hurry.
Let's give you a third scenario. Say there's a girl that you like in your social circle. It's a good idea to start hanging out with her close female friend. This way, you have a greater chance of producing jealousy in her, which can lead to attraction. Also, you can try strategies like ignoring the girl you like the most when you are with a group of female friends. This way, she will wonder why are you talking with the other women more than with her.
Now that you've got the idea, you should be on your way to making women want you. While this is not a fool proof strategy, remember--women can be very competitive, and if a woman knows that you don't have any trouble meeting other women, it will often inspire her to feel even more attraction for you--whether she realizes it or not.
For a guy, knowing how to provoke this powerful emotion out of a beautiful woman can give you the upper hand in the dating game. The only aim of getting a woman jealous is to give her the impression that you are the prize and that there are others who would readily grab you if she messes up even the slightest bit. Women are very competitive and if they sense you are in high demand with other women, more than likely they’ll compete to win your attention.
So, how exactly do you use jealousy to attract women? Let's say you're in a bar and there are two women there. One is attractive and you like her; however, the other one is not so attractive. You approach both women, but the entire time you converse and flirt with the less attractive woman much more than with the attractive woman. Most of the time in this scenario, the more attractive woman will try and work harder for your attention.
In a similar scenario, let's say you're flirting with just one woman and she won't give you the time of day. Simply turn around and go chat up another girl in her vicinity, acting like you've forgotten she even exists. At this point, the first girl who paid no attention to you will definitely be observing your behavior, and the second girl's camaraderie with you can easily induce a fit of jealousy. In this situation, don't be surprised if the first girl (who didn't have any feelings for you until she saw you with the second one) makes her way toward your direction in a hurry.
Let's give you a third scenario. Say there's a girl that you like in your social circle. It's a good idea to start hanging out with her close female friend. This way, you have a greater chance of producing jealousy in her, which can lead to attraction. Also, you can try strategies like ignoring the girl you like the most when you are with a group of female friends. This way, she will wonder why are you talking with the other women more than with her.
Now that you've got the idea, you should be on your way to making women want you. While this is not a fool proof strategy, remember--women can be very competitive, and if a woman knows that you don't have any trouble meeting other women, it will often inspire her to feel even more attraction for you--whether she realizes it or not.
Has She Lost Interest?
8 Signs She's Lost Interest in You
Has your girlfriend suddenly started acting differently around you? Have you been trying to understand her actions but just can't seem to figure them out? Well, the reason she's been acting differently may be because she is losing interest in you.
In our article the 5 Signs She's Not Into You, we examined signs of a woman's low interest level in the early dating stages. But what about when you've been together for a while? If you see that your girlfriend exhibits any of the following warning signs, you have reason to be concerned.
1. She puts her girlfriends ahead of you
All women are entitled to a girl's night out here and there with their girlfriends, but if spending time with their girlfriends has begun to take priority over you and she consistently leaves you at home to gallivant in nightclubs, she is definitely losing interest in you.
2. She avoids public affection with you
If your girlfriend has allowed you to kiss her or hold her hand in public in the past and suddenly begins rejecting your advances or moves away from you without an obvious reason, you have reason to worry about her interest level in the relationship.
3. She's lost interest in sex (with you)
If she has suddenly become bored by your performance in bed and you're rarely hitting the sheets anymore, she may be wishing for someone else to rub her the right way.
4. She starts fights with you
If she has all of a sudden noticeably lowered her tolerance level for your little mistakes, constantly picks fights and turns every little thing into an argument or a disagreement, chances are her interest level has lowered and she is probably unhappy about the way your relationship is going.
5. She shows interest in other guys
If you notice your girlfriend openly checking out other guys and flirting with other men while you're right there beside her, it could be her way of sending you a subtle message that she's shopping around for another man.
6. She's put distance between you
A woman who is in a happy relationship always makes time for her partner. So if all of a sudden you don't see your girlfriend for a week or more and when she does answer your calls, she is busy and is always in a rush to get off the phone with you, something is definitely wrong.Take this as hint that she wants time apart to explore what it feels like to be away from you.
7. She's no longer affectionate toward you
If she just sits there and does nothing when you attempt to touch her and caress her or you're always the one who initiates the hand holding or hugs first, a breakup may be impending.
8. She begins saying “I” instead of “we”
If you feel like your girlfriend hardly talks, doesn’t contribute much to the conversations you have your and she starts to use “I” instead of “we” when talking about the future, this means that she does not see a future with you in it anymore.
Has your girlfriend suddenly started acting differently around you? Have you been trying to understand her actions but just can't seem to figure them out? Well, the reason she's been acting differently may be because she is losing interest in you.
In our article the 5 Signs She's Not Into You, we examined signs of a woman's low interest level in the early dating stages. But what about when you've been together for a while? If you see that your girlfriend exhibits any of the following warning signs, you have reason to be concerned.
1. She puts her girlfriends ahead of you
All women are entitled to a girl's night out here and there with their girlfriends, but if spending time with their girlfriends has begun to take priority over you and she consistently leaves you at home to gallivant in nightclubs, she is definitely losing interest in you.
2. She avoids public affection with you
If your girlfriend has allowed you to kiss her or hold her hand in public in the past and suddenly begins rejecting your advances or moves away from you without an obvious reason, you have reason to worry about her interest level in the relationship.
3. She's lost interest in sex (with you)
If she has suddenly become bored by your performance in bed and you're rarely hitting the sheets anymore, she may be wishing for someone else to rub her the right way.
4. She starts fights with you
If she has all of a sudden noticeably lowered her tolerance level for your little mistakes, constantly picks fights and turns every little thing into an argument or a disagreement, chances are her interest level has lowered and she is probably unhappy about the way your relationship is going.
5. She shows interest in other guys
If you notice your girlfriend openly checking out other guys and flirting with other men while you're right there beside her, it could be her way of sending you a subtle message that she's shopping around for another man.
6. She's put distance between you
A woman who is in a happy relationship always makes time for her partner. So if all of a sudden you don't see your girlfriend for a week or more and when she does answer your calls, she is busy and is always in a rush to get off the phone with you, something is definitely wrong.Take this as hint that she wants time apart to explore what it feels like to be away from you.
7. She's no longer affectionate toward you
If she just sits there and does nothing when you attempt to touch her and caress her or you're always the one who initiates the hand holding or hugs first, a breakup may be impending.
8. She begins saying “I” instead of “we”
If you feel like your girlfriend hardly talks, doesn’t contribute much to the conversations you have your and she starts to use “I” instead of “we” when talking about the future, this means that she does not see a future with you in it anymore.
Showing Your Ex That You Moved On
Showing Your Ex You've Moved On
If your ex-girlfriend has a habit of "bumping into" you a lot and showing signs that she wants you back, it's important to be able to demonstrate to her that you've moved on in positive ways and that seeing her again doesn't re-kindle your feeling for her anymore. Here are some tips for showing her you've moved on while being respectful:
1. Act like you didn't even know she was there!
If your ex tries to woo you in a crowded place despite you having made it clear that there's nowhere for this to go, act like you're too busy to notice her attempts to get your attention and go about your business. Don't show any signs that you care. The more confidence you gain in doing this, the easier it will be to deal with confrontations with your ex-girlfriend.
2. Flirt with another attractive woman.
If she insists on flirting with other guys in front of you, try a little flirting of your own with another woman. Nothing is more irritating to your ex-girlfriend than to know you're playing the field and not at home crying over her! You can also try bringing along a female friend who is in on this and pretend to be together. Show your ex that you've moved on in the relationship department.
3. Keep the conversation short and to the point.
If you just have to speak to her, keep the conversation short and sweet. Don't allow your ex to make you wander down memory lane and old times of love and tenderness. It's no secret that women want what's off limits, so stop her dead in her tracks with statements like "you know I've got a new woman in my life" and "Great to see you, but I've got to go!"
If your ex-girlfriend has a habit of "bumping into" you a lot and showing signs that she wants you back, it's important to be able to demonstrate to her that you've moved on in positive ways and that seeing her again doesn't re-kindle your feeling for her anymore. Here are some tips for showing her you've moved on while being respectful:
1. Act like you didn't even know she was there!
If your ex tries to woo you in a crowded place despite you having made it clear that there's nowhere for this to go, act like you're too busy to notice her attempts to get your attention and go about your business. Don't show any signs that you care. The more confidence you gain in doing this, the easier it will be to deal with confrontations with your ex-girlfriend.
2. Flirt with another attractive woman.
If she insists on flirting with other guys in front of you, try a little flirting of your own with another woman. Nothing is more irritating to your ex-girlfriend than to know you're playing the field and not at home crying over her! You can also try bringing along a female friend who is in on this and pretend to be together. Show your ex that you've moved on in the relationship department.
3. Keep the conversation short and to the point.
If you just have to speak to her, keep the conversation short and sweet. Don't allow your ex to make you wander down memory lane and old times of love and tenderness. It's no secret that women want what's off limits, so stop her dead in her tracks with statements like "you know I've got a new woman in my life" and "Great to see you, but I've got to go!"
Why Women Date Jerks
Reasons Why Women Date Jerks
Single women often say they want a good man although very few believe they can find one. Those who don’t have a good man usually insist that they do while many more women reject a truly good guy without a thought. It is not that women deliberately look for jerks, but rather, they're attracted to certain behaviors that satisfy their genetically programmed mating instincts. Here are 4 reasons why women keep kicking nice guys to the curb and welcoming in the jerks.
1. They have daddy issues
Although a lot of women who come from stable families date jerks, the most common reason a woman becomes addicted to and stays in an abusive relationship is because of the absence of her father from a very young age. Usually, this emotional void leads women to get involved with liars, mooches, criminals, drug addicts and cheaters to fulfill this void. And when they find men like this, they become so attached that they'll just take any abuse thrown at them.
2. Nice guys are boring to them
Nice guys are often seen as a pushover who can't say no to anyone and allows himself get walked on. Because the nice guy doesn't practice being a challenge and says yes all the time, women don't trust or respect them, become bored and eventually turn to the dominant, untamable jerk who can make them feel excited -- not bored.
3. Jerks are mysterious and spontaneous
Nice guys feel that the only way to impress a woman is by telling her everything about themselves within the first few dates. Some men even go as far as telling their whole life story within the initial ten minutes of their first date, scaring women away in the process. Jerks who are not accountable for their actions, their words or their time reveal only the essential information needed in order to keep a woman's interest level high, keeping women flocking to them in swarms.
4. They're emotionally immature
Emotionally immature women simply don't appreciate good men. Emotional suffering and drama are a lifestyle to them and they tend to attract and be attracted to jerks and remain in relationships that are destined to fail. Bad relationships, pain and disappointment is usually all they have known when dealing with the opposite sex and someone, at some point in their lives has imbedded the thought that this is all they deserve. These women with emotional baggage are more likely to act abusive, manipulative, and neglectful themselves the few times they are in good relationships with nice men.
Single women often say they want a good man although very few believe they can find one. Those who don’t have a good man usually insist that they do while many more women reject a truly good guy without a thought. It is not that women deliberately look for jerks, but rather, they're attracted to certain behaviors that satisfy their genetically programmed mating instincts. Here are 4 reasons why women keep kicking nice guys to the curb and welcoming in the jerks.
1. They have daddy issues
Although a lot of women who come from stable families date jerks, the most common reason a woman becomes addicted to and stays in an abusive relationship is because of the absence of her father from a very young age. Usually, this emotional void leads women to get involved with liars, mooches, criminals, drug addicts and cheaters to fulfill this void. And when they find men like this, they become so attached that they'll just take any abuse thrown at them.
2. Nice guys are boring to them
Nice guys are often seen as a pushover who can't say no to anyone and allows himself get walked on. Because the nice guy doesn't practice being a challenge and says yes all the time, women don't trust or respect them, become bored and eventually turn to the dominant, untamable jerk who can make them feel excited -- not bored.
3. Jerks are mysterious and spontaneous
Nice guys feel that the only way to impress a woman is by telling her everything about themselves within the first few dates. Some men even go as far as telling their whole life story within the initial ten minutes of their first date, scaring women away in the process. Jerks who are not accountable for their actions, their words or their time reveal only the essential information needed in order to keep a woman's interest level high, keeping women flocking to them in swarms.
4. They're emotionally immature
Emotionally immature women simply don't appreciate good men. Emotional suffering and drama are a lifestyle to them and they tend to attract and be attracted to jerks and remain in relationships that are destined to fail. Bad relationships, pain and disappointment is usually all they have known when dealing with the opposite sex and someone, at some point in their lives has imbedded the thought that this is all they deserve. These women with emotional baggage are more likely to act abusive, manipulative, and neglectful themselves the few times they are in good relationships with nice men.
If Your Ex Wants You Back
She Wants You Back
So what happens if your ex-girlfriend broke up with you and dated someone else, and now wants to get back with you? Should you eliminate her from your life or should you get back with your ex?
First, you have to decide if you actually want to take her back. If she's interested in coming back, she was probably the one who ended the relationship in the first place. Look past the fact that you still have feelings for her and decide if you still want things to work out.
Before you decide you want to take her back, figure out it the two of you can make things work. Sometimes it's easy to forgive, especially when you are lonely, but don't forget what she did to you and hurt you. If she left you because she was interested in someone else she's likely to do it again whenever someone else comes along she thinks is interesting. Examine all the possible signs of a bad relationship and decide whether you can truly forgive her and if you can trust her.
Get the whole story. Let your pride and ego aside and ask yourself if you did anything to cause her to leave. Is it possible you didn't realize you were neglecting her and making her feel like she was being taken for granted? If she left because of something you've done, examine if anything has changed that can make the relationship work. If you did, there maybe a chance you both can work things out if she's truly serious about committing to the relationship. If not, the relationship may fall apart again and you might be better off not getting involved with her again.
Not many people are that fortunate to get a second chance. If you do take her back, you must let the past go and work on the present and the future.
So what happens if your ex-girlfriend broke up with you and dated someone else, and now wants to get back with you? Should you eliminate her from your life or should you get back with your ex?
First, you have to decide if you actually want to take her back. If she's interested in coming back, she was probably the one who ended the relationship in the first place. Look past the fact that you still have feelings for her and decide if you still want things to work out.
Before you decide you want to take her back, figure out it the two of you can make things work. Sometimes it's easy to forgive, especially when you are lonely, but don't forget what she did to you and hurt you. If she left you because she was interested in someone else she's likely to do it again whenever someone else comes along she thinks is interesting. Examine all the possible signs of a bad relationship and decide whether you can truly forgive her and if you can trust her.
Get the whole story. Let your pride and ego aside and ask yourself if you did anything to cause her to leave. Is it possible you didn't realize you were neglecting her and making her feel like she was being taken for granted? If she left because of something you've done, examine if anything has changed that can make the relationship work. If you did, there maybe a chance you both can work things out if she's truly serious about committing to the relationship. If not, the relationship may fall apart again and you might be better off not getting involved with her again.
Not many people are that fortunate to get a second chance. If you do take her back, you must let the past go and work on the present and the future.
Sharing Fantasies
•Sharing verbal fantasies
•Watching pornography together
•Incorporating sex toys into sex
•Engaging in exhibitionist or voyeuristic sexual behavior together
•Having sex with a chance of being seen/heard
•Engaging in sexual roleplay with each other
•Exploring a fetish together
•Watching pornography together
•Incorporating sex toys into sex
•Engaging in exhibitionist or voyeuristic sexual behavior together
•Having sex with a chance of being seen/heard
•Engaging in sexual roleplay with each other
•Exploring a fetish together
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Look Inside for Answers
The solution to whatever issues we have are often directly in front of us..some are major, some minor..but either way, whatever stresses we have can, usually, be addressed internally..assess the situation and change ur movements accordingly..ur happiness, success, and destiny depends on it..Be Great!!
~~ Nino Breeze
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~~ Nino Breeze
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Check out J RagTv & Be A Part of The Entertainment!! Entertainment is Life!!
Be Spontaneous
Be spontaneous! Spontaneity tells your partner you think (s)he's worth putting everything else aside for & that nothing matters at that moment but her/him. Plus, it makes you all the more interesting so (s)he'll desire you all the more.
Kissing
Kissing Fact:
When kissing, do you tilt your head to the left or right? Two-thirds of us turn to the right, so when you're kissing someone for the first time, try this direction to lower your chances of bumping noses.....
When kissing, do you tilt your head to the left or right? Two-thirds of us turn to the right, so when you're kissing someone for the first time, try this direction to lower your chances of bumping noses.....
Don't Text or Play with your Phone!!
When on a date, turn off your cell phone. Talking on your cell while in the presence of your date makes it clear that you value the person on the other end more than your date. Make her feel special & she's more likely to say yes to a 2nd date. Gentlemen are sexy..... But just the same, it goes the other way as well..... Ladies!! No Phones!! No Texting!!
The Anticipation
Flirt Tip:
Play an intense game of footsie under the table while wearing sexy high heels. Run the side of your foot down the outside of his leg, lightly up the inside of his leg. Kick off your shoes. Massage his ankle. Run your bare foot up and down a little higher each time. Go as far as you dare. The anticipation will drive him wild ...
Play an intense game of footsie under the table while wearing sexy high heels. Run the side of your foot down the outside of his leg, lightly up the inside of his leg. Kick off your shoes. Massage his ankle. Run your bare foot up and down a little higher each time. Go as far as you dare. The anticipation will drive him wild ...
Interested?
Flirt Tip:
Not sure whether (s)he's interested? Initiate a seemingly casual touch. Sit closely & press your arm/shoulder, foot, or thigh against hers/his. If (s)he is interested, (s)he will remain close. If (s)he moves away, it's time to move on......·
Not sure whether (s)he's interested? Initiate a seemingly casual touch. Sit closely & press your arm/shoulder, foot, or thigh against hers/his. If (s)he is interested, (s)he will remain close. If (s)he moves away, it's time to move on......·
Failure Turns To Success
Failure isn't the end ... it's only the beginning. Whether it's when flirting, personal, or business, allow yourself to fail. It happens to everyone who eventually succeeds. Never failing only happens to those who never succeed.....
If you should fail. You figure out what you did wrong, make the adjustments and come right back again, and stay on your game and make sure the next time around that you are successful..... Never give up.....
If you should fail. You figure out what you did wrong, make the adjustments and come right back again, and stay on your game and make sure the next time around that you are successful..... Never give up.....
A Gentleman
Should a guy pay for the first date? Absolutely! Call it old-fashioned but it's also a sign of a gentleman when he insists on being chivalrous in all matters. When a guy pays, it says he wants to do something nice & make his date feel special. After the first couple of dates, it's nice for her to start offering the costs of the dates. He'll know he's appreciated when she does. But, she should still be turned down in my opinion. I believe that the Man should be able to pay and especially if he is taking the Woman out for dinner and on dates. It's the right thing to do..... Fellas be chivelrous, be a Gentleman, and keep it grown and sexy..... Gentlemen are sexy.
UnderCover Seduction
Flirt Tip:
Next time you're out in public with your guy, go undercover with your seduction. Whisper, "You look so hot in that shirt" or "I can't wait until we're alone". Brush up against him in unexpectedly sensual ways when no one is looking. He'll be putty in your hands.
Next time you're out in public with your guy, go undercover with your seduction. Whisper, "You look so hot in that shirt" or "I can't wait until we're alone". Brush up against him in unexpectedly sensual ways when no one is looking. He'll be putty in your hands.
A Simple Relationship Tip
A Simple but very important relationship tip......
Relationship Tip: If you are ignoring her/him, someone else may be begging for her/his attention. Always let your partner know (s)he's special.
Relationship Tip: If you are ignoring her/him, someone else may be begging for her/his attention. Always let your partner know (s)he's special.
Guys Tips to Stay Fresh
#Guy Tip: Keep your t-shirts looking fresh and new. Your t-shirts are doing double duty. They are a go-to casual item and look great under a formal shirt. Too often it's easy to overlook that they are turning yellow, fading, or stretching. A well dressed man is a sexy man.
Flirt Tip
Flirt Tip: In an unexpected moment, whisper softly in his/her ear, "You look so sexy sitting there"; "I have to have you tonight"; or simply "I love you". Lightly flick his/her ear w/your tongue & gently take his/her earlobe in your teeth. Irresistible.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Be Great
Most people wrong those who do them best..and break their backs for those who could care less..this has created a cycle of hurt, pain, and frustration for many..we can't take true love, devotion, dedication, and friendship for granted..those things aren't freely given often..appreciate and reciprocate..Be Great--Breezy
"In The Mirror"
"In The Mirror" from the UpComing Album Release "In This Life" [Open Eyes]
I've Done so much shady shit in my day... Tortured my-self because of the choices that I've made.... Every night I look in-to my eyes and I ask the question..... "Who's that Man staring back at me In The Mirror"....??
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