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Tuesday, December 31, 2013
Time Is Too Precious
This is your life, so don't settle for a cheap imitation. Live each moment of it with substance.Life is too precious to waste even a little bit of it on meaningless junk. Give your time, your attention, your efforts and your energy to what really matters. If something doesn't concern you, don't let it consume you. If something doesn't really matter, then let it go. There are only so many hours in this day. Choose to spend every one of those hours in the service of what truly matters. Your priorities are based not on what you say or intend, but on what you actually do with your time. Choose positive, meaningful priorities by spending your time in positive, meaningful ways. Devote yourself to what truly matters. And add more richness to your world with each passing moment.
Monday, December 30, 2013
5 Signs She is not over Her Ex
1. She constantly talks about her ex,
2. She makes comparisons
3. She looks for ways to bump into her ex
4. She openly remenices about there memories, things they did, old stories, things he did, etc....
5. You catch her researching her ex online...., facebook, twitter, etc......
2. She makes comparisons
3. She looks for ways to bump into her ex
4. She openly remenices about there memories, things they did, old stories, things he did, etc....
5. You catch her researching her ex online...., facebook, twitter, etc......
Right Where You Are
Right where you are
Start where you are, and do what you can. Make use of what you have, in the time available to you, and there's much you can get done.
Don't waste your time waiting for conditions to be perfect, for they will never be. Go ahead, with things as they are, and begin making real progress.
The place to aim is as high as you can imagine. Yet the place to start is right where you are.
Let go of any concerns about not having enough time, or money, resources or anything else. Focus instead on the great value and potential of what you do have and of what you can do right now.See the real treasure that exists in your opportunity and ability to make good, effective use of this moment.
Claim that treasure by going ahead and put~ting forth your very best effort. Today is your day to achieve and to make your world a better place. Start where you are, and get yourself solidly on the way to wherever you wish to do.....
Start where you are, and do what you can. Make use of what you have, in the time available to you, and there's much you can get done.
Don't waste your time waiting for conditions to be perfect, for they will never be. Go ahead, with things as they are, and begin making real progress.
The place to aim is as high as you can imagine. Yet the place to start is right where you are.
Let go of any concerns about not having enough time, or money, resources or anything else. Focus instead on the great value and potential of what you do have and of what you can do right now.See the real treasure that exists in your opportunity and ability to make good, effective use of this moment.
Claim that treasure by going ahead and put~ting forth your very best effort. Today is your day to achieve and to make your world a better place. Start where you are, and get yourself solidly on the way to wherever you wish to do.....
Saturday, December 28, 2013
Friday, December 27, 2013
Realize Who Really Matters
Eventually you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will
Strung Out On Love?
ometimes you keep your feelings to yourself because it's hard for someone else to understand them.Sometimes you need to be alone, in order to find out who you really are and what you really want.
Your life and time is too valuable to allow yourself to keep going through life settling for someone who DON'T appreciate you.
Some people will do a lot of stupid thing for love. When the other person may not really love them or be in love with them..... and they just love what they get from them...... that is not a relationship. That is not what love is about....
Dont allow yourself to be strung out on love....... Love is supposed to be a positive, joint emotion, giving and taking, but never to be taken advantage of......
Your life and time is too valuable to allow yourself to keep going through life settling for someone who DON'T appreciate you.
Some people will do a lot of stupid thing for love. When the other person may not really love them or be in love with them..... and they just love what they get from them...... that is not a relationship. That is not what love is about....
Dont allow yourself to be strung out on love....... Love is supposed to be a positive, joint emotion, giving and taking, but never to be taken advantage of......
Thursday, December 26, 2013
There Are No Limits
There is no limit to how much you can love. So give your love every opportunity you get.
There is no limit to how high you can aim. So aim for the highest, most meaningful goals, and your achievements will be amazing.
There is no limit to what you can imagine. So imagine and expect the very best for your life and your world, and let what you imagine inspire you to make it so.Limits are only for those who fear their own strength.
Let go of your fear, let go of the limits, and discover how truly strong and effective you can be.Step boldly outside the comfort of your self-imposed limitations.
You have many good and worthy things to do, so put all your focus on making them happen.Live your life without limits. And fulfill the beautiful, unique purpose that is you.
There is no limit to how high you can aim. So aim for the highest, most meaningful goals, and your achievements will be amazing.
There is no limit to what you can imagine. So imagine and expect the very best for your life and your world, and let what you imagine inspire you to make it so.Limits are only for those who fear their own strength.
Let go of your fear, let go of the limits, and discover how truly strong and effective you can be.Step boldly outside the comfort of your self-imposed limitations.
You have many good and worthy things to do, so put all your focus on making them happen.Live your life without limits. And fulfill the beautiful, unique purpose that is you.
Tuesday, December 24, 2013
Monday, December 23, 2013
I Guess That's Just The Motion
"I GUESS THAT'S JUST THE MOTION"
It's not me, it's you...... No, it's not me, it's you.....
For the record, I'm a say it, anybody would be so lucky, if they could be with you.....
And you say that you're not ready
so I should just move on.....
well, I guess that's just the motion.....
Yea, well, looking back on it, atleast my pride is still in tact....
Cause we said no strings attached....
and still I got all tied up in that.....
And lately, everything that I write is either for her or about her.....
So I'm with her even when I'm here without her and she know it....
The girl I want in my life is like a danger to my health....
Try being with somebody that wanna be somebody else....
I always thought that she was perfect when she was just being herself....
.
I dont even know how to help....
but I guess thats just the motion.....
She'll probably come around, soon as I settle down....
but thats the motion....
I guess thats just the motion......
It's not me, it's you...... No, it's not me, it's you.....
For the record, I'm a say it, anybody would be so lucky, if they could be with you.....
And you say that you're not ready
so I should just move on.....
well, I guess that's just the motion.....
Yea, well, looking back on it, atleast my pride is still in tact....
Cause we said no strings attached....
and still I got all tied up in that.....
And lately, everything that I write is either for her or about her.....
So I'm with her even when I'm here without her and she know it....
The girl I want in my life is like a danger to my health....
Try being with somebody that wanna be somebody else....
I always thought that she was perfect when she was just being herself....
.
I dont even know how to help....
but I guess thats just the motion.....
She'll probably come around, soon as I settle down....
but thats the motion....
I guess thats just the motion......
Sunday, December 22, 2013
Saturday, December 21, 2013
"One Sweet Day" (Live) by Nino Breeze & Kharisma
Tribute to Rudy Triccoli and Edward Gregory Sr. (R.I.P)
Friday, December 20, 2013
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Monday, December 16, 2013
"I Don't Know How It Feels To Be You"
I don't know......... I really just dont know..... How it feels to be you.... I dont know how it feels to be you..... though I try my best to understand what you arei going through.... I dont know how it feels to be you.....
And though I try to learn your steps, I dont know what makes you dance.... I dont always know what turns your gray skies back to blue..... Though I try to see your side and I swallow all of my pride..... There is no way that I can take a step in your shoes.....
Cause I dont know, how it feels to be you...... I will always try my best to understand what you are going through.... I just dont know how it feels to be you.....
But if you lay your cheeks up on my chest, and just tell me everything that haunts your mind....Now, I know that I may not have all of the answers.... but if you let me, I can just try baby......and when I start to think that I have had enough...... Something tells me that I should just wait a little while longer......and I want you to know that I am sorry, for being a little hard on you sometimes.....
But I dont know how it feels to be you..... though I try to understand the best I can..... I just dont know how it feels to be you...
But You know that I love you...... but sometimes I have to wonder, and everyday I ask myself, are we really even on the same page? And every day I wonder, is there something that I'm supposed to say? I wonder baby..... cause you and I are so in line, that sometimes I think that maybe I just pick the wrong lines.....
And I can feel it in my heart, you have to know how much I adore you...... and it seems sometimes, you cant even look me in my eyes..... and I really wish I knew all the answers why, but I dont.....
I dont know how it feels to be you..... but Ill do the best I can, to understand and be right here no matter what you are going through......
But I dont know how it feels to be you.......
And though I try to learn your steps, I dont know what makes you dance.... I dont always know what turns your gray skies back to blue..... Though I try to see your side and I swallow all of my pride..... There is no way that I can take a step in your shoes.....
Cause I dont know, how it feels to be you...... I will always try my best to understand what you are going through.... I just dont know how it feels to be you.....
But if you lay your cheeks up on my chest, and just tell me everything that haunts your mind....Now, I know that I may not have all of the answers.... but if you let me, I can just try baby......and when I start to think that I have had enough...... Something tells me that I should just wait a little while longer......and I want you to know that I am sorry, for being a little hard on you sometimes.....
But I dont know how it feels to be you..... though I try to understand the best I can..... I just dont know how it feels to be you...
But You know that I love you...... but sometimes I have to wonder, and everyday I ask myself, are we really even on the same page? And every day I wonder, is there something that I'm supposed to say? I wonder baby..... cause you and I are so in line, that sometimes I think that maybe I just pick the wrong lines.....
And I can feel it in my heart, you have to know how much I adore you...... and it seems sometimes, you cant even look me in my eyes..... and I really wish I knew all the answers why, but I dont.....
I dont know how it feels to be you..... but Ill do the best I can, to understand and be right here no matter what you are going through......
But I dont know how it feels to be you.......
Figuring Out What Love Is....
As we live, learn, love, and lose.... We figure out what love really is and how it can change your life and effect you......
But if you are always think about the what ifs.... or the thousand things that could go wrong, or why it wouldnt work.... you are gonna miss out on what is right in front of you, what is happening right in front of you......
When you findlm someone that when you see them, the entire world just stops.... time could stand still, when no matter what day it is, time it is, or how long its beeen, they still give you butterflies..... That's what makes love worth finding.....
When you can come up with a list of all the things that you love about someone, when you know its the first person you think of when you wake up and the last person you think of before you fall asleep.....
I want to tell you one thing, I love it when you fall asleep at night next tno me, you fall asleep with a smile on your face..... You do.....
When someone is there by yourside no matter what. Good, bad, up, down, confusion..... but you know that you can count on that person never walking away from you..... when they stop at nothing to find you, to tell you how they feel, when you know that this person would walk, walk around the world, no matter how long it took, to be able to get back to you..... When you can see that.....
That's when You are figuring out exactly what love really is......
Written by Joseph 'J Rag' Rago
"In This Life"
(c) J Rag Publishing (ASCAP).
But if you are always think about the what ifs.... or the thousand things that could go wrong, or why it wouldnt work.... you are gonna miss out on what is right in front of you, what is happening right in front of you......
When you findlm someone that when you see them, the entire world just stops.... time could stand still, when no matter what day it is, time it is, or how long its beeen, they still give you butterflies..... That's what makes love worth finding.....
When you can come up with a list of all the things that you love about someone, when you know its the first person you think of when you wake up and the last person you think of before you fall asleep.....
I want to tell you one thing, I love it when you fall asleep at night next tno me, you fall asleep with a smile on your face..... You do.....
When someone is there by yourside no matter what. Good, bad, up, down, confusion..... but you know that you can count on that person never walking away from you..... when they stop at nothing to find you, to tell you how they feel, when you know that this person would walk, walk around the world, no matter how long it took, to be able to get back to you..... When you can see that.....
That's when You are figuring out exactly what love really is......
Written by Joseph 'J Rag' Rago
"In This Life"
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"Don't Walk Away" (by Michael Jackson)
Please Don't Just Walk Away...... You mean the world to me......
Sunday, December 15, 2013
Looking Back In The Mirror
"In The Mirror"
When you reflect on your life, and decisions that you have made, there's always ups and downs.....
IF someone sticks by you through the confusion and ups and downs, and by you no matter what you are going through and stands right by your side, you should try not to let that person walk away from you and out of your life.......
If you have something worth fighting for....... then you fight for it.......
The Grass isnt always Greener..... Good chance is that they turn out not to be......
A good friend cant fix all of your problems...... but they can promise you that you dont and wont have to face them alone.....
The best and most successful relationship, is the one where the two of you were friends first. And then date and fall in love over time......
When you reflect on your life, and decisions that you have made, there's always ups and downs.....
IF someone sticks by you through the confusion and ups and downs, and by you no matter what you are going through and stands right by your side, you should try not to let that person walk away from you and out of your life.......
If you have something worth fighting for....... then you fight for it.......
The Grass isnt always Greener..... Good chance is that they turn out not to be......
A good friend cant fix all of your problems...... but they can promise you that you dont and wont have to face them alone.....
The best and most successful relationship, is the one where the two of you were friends first. And then date and fall in love over time......
Reflections of Love
Ladies & Gentlemen:
If someone sticks by your side through your worst of times, while your broke, don't have nobody to turn too, & you done lost everything you have....THEY ARE THE ONES WHO DESERVE TO BE WITH YOU WHEN YOU'RE HAVING THE BEST OF TIME OF YOUR LIFE......
If someone can stand with you and right by your side through ups and downs through all of the confusion...... They should be who you are there for when the times turn around..... Reflection of love and life......
Don't use your past ans an excuse..... and if you have have been faced with what decision to make and why..... its simple..... I am too busy working on my Grass to notice if yours is any greener.......
In Life, when you have another persons feelings to consider it can become complicated..... but it really doesnt have to......
If someone sticks by your side through your worst of times, while your broke, don't have nobody to turn too, & you done lost everything you have....THEY ARE THE ONES WHO DESERVE TO BE WITH YOU WHEN YOU'RE HAVING THE BEST OF TIME OF YOUR LIFE......
If someone can stand with you and right by your side through ups and downs through all of the confusion...... They should be who you are there for when the times turn around..... Reflection of love and life......
Don't use your past ans an excuse..... and if you have have been faced with what decision to make and why..... its simple..... I am too busy working on my Grass to notice if yours is any greener.......
In Life, when you have another persons feelings to consider it can become complicated..... but it really doesnt have to......
Should Love Be Confusing?
Sometimes when we think we have found the one thatwe are ready to let in, love and give love to, it feels like then there is a hold up. Wich starts to build confusion..... Loove is full of questions, but if you spend all the energy and time with what ifs and coming up with all the things that could go wrong, you are gonna miss everything tha t can go right and whats happening right in front of you.......
If you love someone you make sure that person knows that. Dont let them just walk away...... you do what you have to to keep them in your life.......
If you love someone you make sure that person knows that. Dont let them just walk away...... you do what you have to to keep them in your life.......
Saturday, December 14, 2013
Don't Lose Sight of What Means The Most In Life
You never really appreciate the true value of a moment, until it becomes a memory.....~ J Rag™Keep Your relationship private without keeping your partner a secret. There's a difference between privacy & being a secet......
There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't even jump puddles for you..... You gotta fall back and really evaluate the situation and come to terms with the fact that it may be holding you down.....
Too often we can lose sight of the things or people that are the most important to us..... We tend to become Comfortable and/or complacent and neglect them as well.... Forgetting all of the small things in life and missing the signs that it is changing. Or that something is going on or for that matter, going wrong. And we are losing them. And we realize it when it becomes far too late.......
-- J Rag
There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't even jump puddles for you..... You gotta fall back and really evaluate the situation and come to terms with the fact that it may be holding you down.....
Too often we can lose sight of the things or people that are the most important to us..... We tend to become Comfortable and/or complacent and neglect them as well.... Forgetting all of the small things in life and missing the signs that it is changing. Or that something is going on or for that matter, going wrong. And we are losing them. And we realize it when it becomes far too late.......
-- J Rag
Flip Your Negatives
Flip your negatives the best you can and always try to work them into a positive......
You have great plans, and yet life is always getting in the way. You intensely wish to move forward, but all sorts of things seem to constantly interrupt and impede that movement.But do those unexpected and unwelcome interruptions really have to hold you back? The fact is, you don't have to let them.Sure, you must regularly deal with the urgent, pressing matters that come your way. But that doesn't mean those unwelcome interruptions have to take over your life.Instead of seeing those interruptions as negative, distracting influences, you can just as realistically choose to see them as positive, empowering opportunities. Just because they weren't in your plans doesn't mean they have to upset your plans.Decide that there's something positive to be found, and you'll find something positive in anything. Decide that the interruptions won't really interrupt you, but will in fact provide you with additional ways to move forward, and that's exactly what will happen.Learn to welcome, embrace and empower yourself with the unexpected interruptions. They're always going to come, so make the choice to make them work in your favor.
Friday, December 13, 2013
Realize what you have before it's gone
Married or not… you should read this.......
Too many times we take what we have for granted.... lose sight of how much someone really means to us..... and we get comfortable and neglect the important things in life..... So in this is a story to give a vivid picture of how ones life, love, family, child, and marriage can be effected by this......
When I got home that night my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking about divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be alooknnoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of
Too many times we take what we have for granted.... lose sight of how much someone really means to us..... and we get comfortable and neglect the important things in life..... So in this is a story to give a vivid picture of how ones life, love, family, child, and marriage can be effected by this......
When I got home that night my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking about divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be alooknnoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of
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Sabatoge Relationships
Sometimes both Men and Women Sabatoge there relationships.... wether they do it being fully aware of it or sub-conciously, ... They carry the things they see in other relationships, parents relationships, or past relationships, and live through there insecurities......
Scents Play A Role In Memory
Perfume is a powerful memory maker.Our sense of smell plays a role in our relationships, our moods, and our sense of well-being. Your nose has the ability to remember 50,000 different scentsand is directly linked to the emotional center of your brain.That is the reason that we experience an emotional response before we are able to label the emotion, or even identify the scent.Indulge.For yourself. For those around you.
Make YourSelf Available
ou’re ready for a night out with your single friends. You’re feeling good. Your hair flows with body, your fragrance says, “I’m sexyliscious” and your outfit flatters your figure. But you still wonder what else you could do to attract that hot guy. Here are some strategies that will lure him in:When with your friends, avoid standing in a closed circle. Looking super engrossed in your conversation sends the message “Keep away. I’m not interested.” Keep your shoulders opened outwards towards the crowd. Look at your friends, but don’t forget to occasionally check out the crowd. These physical signs send the message that you’re okay with being approached and that anyone wishing to start a conversation with you is welcome.Keep yourself positioned near the center of the room. You will get more exposure and look like you enjoy being approached and with people. Standing near the exit gives you exposure to those guys that are leaving. Those are the guys that won’t take the time to talk to you if their friends are coaxing them to move on to the next party location.Don’t look super involved with your drink. You will look nervous and insecure. Instead, in between drinks, use your hands and relaxed body gestures, when talking to your friend. It shows you are confident, relaxed, have energy. In short, it makes you have flirt appeal.When sitting down, dangle your shoe off your toes, and slowly cross your legs. These gestures look irresistibly inviting, flirty, and seductive. You’re also saying: “I’m here to stay for a while.” And that means he’s going to feel comfortable approaching you because you’re unlikely to leave in a hurry if he heads your way.Smile, smile, smile. Smiling is flirty. It makes you look ultra-friendly. That means he'll approach you more readily because he will think that even if he is not your type, you will let him down easily. Smiling also makes him feel like you are safe to start a conversation with, because even if he stumbles, you would be happy to pick up where he left off.
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