How To Handle The Break-Up

One of the hardest things to do in any relationship that breaks up is to say good-bye and accept that it has ended. Moving on is something that you have to do, but when the pain and heartache is fresh, it's hard to know how. Your brain is foggy from the shock and you can't see past the feelings of rejection you are swimming in.


So what steps can you take to ease your pain?


Allow yourself to feel the sadness. Sad really isn't bad. It's just another emotion to tell you that you have had a loss, but the feeling eventually fades with time. You wouldn't be human if you didn't feel dejected and miserable. Let yourself have the time to properly feel the loss. It will speed up your healing process, letting you move on to the next phase of recovery - living your life to the fullest.


Accept that the breakup has happened. Sounds logical, right? Yes, but it is emotionally difficult. Often times painfully difficult. It takes time for reality to set in. In the mean time, don't call, text, or drive by his place. If he doesn't want you, if he doesn't see what a great catch you are and appreciate the special qualities only you have, he doesn't deserve another moment of your time, energy, or thoughts.


You may only remember how perfect he was, but in reality, no one is perfect. There are thousands of men out there, some just as good as, and many better than he. It's only a matter of time before you encounter one of those men who would be a great fit for you.


Nurture yourself. Talk to yourself the way you would to a friend who just went through the same break up. What would you say to her? How would you support her? What would you suggest she do to move on with her life? Now, take your own advice.


Remind yourself you will get through the heartache. It's hard to believe when the breakup is new, but you will feel great about yourself and your life once again. Millions of people have had their hearts broken just like you ... and they have survived, just like you will.


Ask yourself, "What does this breakup mean for me?" Does it mean you have more free time to connect with your friends or family? Does it allow you to explore a hobby, travel more, spend more time working out at the gym. Think about goals in life you want to achieve and take this opportunity of having more free time, more freedom to accomplish them.


Now is the time to enjoy your life and participate in it to the fullest. Be too busy to notice you are single and you will find yourself enjoying single life as much, or even better than, being part of a couple. Revel in your fun, free side and before you know it, you will be back to rediscovering the beautiful bombshell you know you always have been. It's the gift only you can give yourself - and what a gift it is.