Become More Social

"You need to start taking the necessary steps to become a more social person."

You need to go out and meet women every single day. So what if your lifestyle isn't conducive to meeting women every day? Or maybe you can meet them, but talking to them is not your strong point? You need to find something -- a book, find a coach or a mentor -- who can guide you in the right direction.

You need to start taking the necessary steps to become a more social person. If you have a fear or an anxiety when you talk to women, you need to find ways to overcome those anxieties. Resolutions are great, but you've got to break them down and take all the necessary steps to make the resolution happens for you. Sure, most guys want to make a lot more money, most guys want to lose a little weight, and I know a ton of you guys want to get laid more and meet more women. But the only way to do any of that stuff is to take the small steps toward your goal.

In my 15 years of coaching men, I've always emphasized the small steps. If a guy is painfully shy, of course he's going to always ask (or his resolution is always going to be) how to meet more women or get more dates. But in order to stop being shy, you've got to start opening up and talking to everybody. You've got to start saying hello to people on the street. You've got to start engaging women in conversation. You've got to go up and approach women. You've got to start asking them out. And, yes, you've got to start getting rejected and being OK with it, because all of this is what gets you more dates. So, look at your dating resolutions and ask yourself this question: What small steps do I need to take in order to get that big resolution accomplished?

You've got a clean slate this year. The problem is, all your past problems are also coming into the new year with you. Those didn't stay behind. Your attitude, your learned behaviors, your past experiences -- everything about you is coming into the new year with you. It's time to take the small steps in order to get your resolutions handled......