A Resolution

"Most resolutions, especially dating resolutions, are unrealistic because you're not looking at the core of what you need to work on."

Well, the clock has finally turned. It's 2012. Can you believe it? We're now in the teens of the new millennium, the roaring tens, whatever you want to call it.

And at the beginning of every year, you're resolution-based. That's what we do. You utter a ton of drunken resolutions on New Year's Eve to your buddies, saying, "This year is going to be the best year! This year I'm going to get laid more! This year I'm going to work harder! This year I'm going to make more money! This year I'm going to meet more women! This is the year I'm going to meet somebody special!"

You play the game of "this year": "This year it's going to happen," and This year I can finally become the man I've always wanted to be!"

Here's the question: When it comes down to dating, are these resolutions realistic? Let's look at the reality of your life. Let's take a look back to last year, when the clock struck 2011.

What were your resolutions like? Did you play a lot of "this year"? Did you promise yourself that you would pursue more women? Did you promise yourself that you would be more outgoing? Did you promise yourself you would approach women and ask them out more often? Did you promise yourself all of these things, including working out, making more money and eating healthier?

Were you able to make good on any of your resolutions? Forget about just the dating resolution -- were you able to make good on any resolutions at all? Most people get overwhelmed because theirs are just unrealistic.

For instance, you're a guy who doesn't get a lot of dates. So all of a sudden on New Year's, your resolution is to have one date per week. Last year you went on three dates. Are you realistically going to increase from 3 to 52? You don't even look at the percentages. Most resolutions, especially dating resolutions, are unrealistic because you're not looking at the core of what you need to work on. You're not looking at the reasons behind why you're not meeting women and getting the dates. And all you're doing is trying to fill yourself up with hot air and hoopla.

Look, positive self-talk is fantastic. It's empowering. But, unfortunately, a lot of times it's just not realistic. Most people don't understand the small steps that are necessary to get these goals accomplished. If you want to go out there and date 40 new women this year, or you want to get a girlfriend this year, you've got to find a way to go out there and actually meet women every single day. They just won't magically appear. If you're not great at conversation, if you're not great at talking to women, nothing is magically going to change for you.

So, if you're serious about making these resolutions come to life, you need to take a look at what your dating resolution is, and then you need to figure out what steps you are going to take in order to get there........