It Is Never OK To Date Your Friends' Ex....

I give the different outlooks, opinions, and circumstances.... But I must note that I personally believe, there's so many other people in the world. It is better to not go that route and avoid what could become a friend ending situation or very uncomfortable.....

"We don't own people; we just share our time with them."

One of the eternal questions that plague men all over the world is, what are the rules about dating your friend’s ex? Is there some kind of man code that says that once a woman has been claimed by a member of your pack there is no way another can ever date her down the road? Is there a time frame from when they dated that makes her totally off limits to you? Let’s say they dated for six months. Does that mean you need to wait around another six until you can do anything? Until he has another girlfriend? And what happens if this is your best friend’s girlfriend? What are the rules then?

Let’s set the scenario: Your friend is dating an amazing girl. (And I’m talking about a real friend here, not a friend of a friend, a work friend or someone you see around who goes to all the same events as you.) The whole time your friend was dating this great woman, you always made sure to tell your buddy how lucky he was to have a woman like her. Every time you hung out with them in a group you guys really got along with each other. She was so cool. And all you kept thinking was, “Why can’t I meet somebody like her?”

Can You Date Your Friend's Ex?
But now you’re in a predicament -- they’ve broken up. To make things worse, she was the one who broke things off with your friend. Maybe he called you and told you; maybe you saw her out and, in the middle of another great conversation, she brought it up. So what do you do at this point? Is is OK to call her? Or maybe she’s started calling you.

Now that she’s single, you’re really thinking about this woman a lot. You start to develop feelings for her. You guys talk with each other and she tells you she’s starting to have feelings for you, too. At the same time, your friend still talks about her and wonders if he did something wrong to ruin the relationship.

Now you’re in one of the biggest predicaments of your entire social life. You really want to start dating your friend's ex, and she wants to go out with you. You want to start seeing her, and you have a very strong feeling that you two are really going to hit it off. What do you do in this situation?



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There are a lot of guys out there who truly feel that once they've dated a woman she is off limits to all of his friends -- no matter how long it’s been since they broke up. This is ridiculous thinking. We don’t own people; we just share our time with them. It’s your job to make the relationship that you have with her a great experience, and when that relationship comes to an end, you need to let her go. You had your time together and hopefully you created some great memories, but now it’s not your place to try to change and control anyone’s future or the way they want to live their lives.

I am somebody who truly believes that people are not possessions. I don’t care if it’s a casual acquaintance, I don’t care if it’s your best friend in the whole world, and I don’t care who broke up with whom. If I break up with someone -- and I have broken up and been broken up with a lot -- I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her. A great relationship, and great chemistry between two people, can be rare to come by.

If you’re feeling a connection with someone, I firmly believe that you need to take every potential opportunity for finding a great person to be with. And if you’re the bystander, if you’re fuming because your friend is dating your ex who broke up with you, you need to realize that people are not your possessions. You may have shared something special with her in the past -- and that’s something to cherish -- but now it’s time to give your friend and your ex the freedom to do what they want without you in the picture......


What To Do
So, if you have feelings for your best friend’s ex, here is what you need to do. First you need to confirm your feelings with her. Sit down with her, clear the air and tell her exactly how you feel. You know she feels the same way about you as you do about her. Make sure you are both on the same page with each other. Then you need to make sure you are both on the same page about your friend. Tell her, “We need to talk about how to approach this situation with my friend. I don’t want to lose his friendship, but I certainly don’t want it to stop me from acting on my feelings for you.”

You need to talk this out with her. Both of you know your friend well, from different points of view, and together you will be able to come up with an honest way of telling him so that he will not be angry or hurt. Once you’ve had that conversation with your friend’s ex, you’ll need to sit down with him. Depending on how close you are, this can be one of the toughest things in the world -- you need to have “the talk.”

Breaking The News To Your Friend
When you sit down with him, be truthful and tell him what your friendship with him means to you. For most men, really communicating that to another guy is the hardest part, but you need to get that out there and let him know that you respect him. Then you’ll need to ask him how he would feel if you started dating his ex. You really need to be honest and tell him everything. You need to tell him how you feel and whether you’re serious about her. He may be fine with it. He may have to sit and think about it. He may be upset and say, “F*ck you. Absolutely not.” He may not want to see you for a while. In time, though, he is going to understand.

He’s not with her anymore, so give him his space if he needs it. He is out there dating, having fun and sleeping with other women. Eventually, he is going to get over it. Amazing women with whom you have incredible chemistry don't come around that often. You have every right and you owe it to yourself to pursue a relationship with her.

Depending on how close your friendship is, this may be one of the toughest situations of your life. You’ll need to display complete and total honesty with yourself and ask yourself how serious you are about it (it’s OK if you don’t know yet, but you need to be honest). You need to be honest with this new woman in your life and with your friend. This is going to be a tough lesson, but a valuable one. Your ability to have difficult conversations with two people you care about, knowing that those conversations won’t be safe or easy, will demonstrate what sort of a man you are........

"It's All About You"

It's all about you tonight. lay down and let me rub your back. its your time girl, to be pampered. the oils are out now, and they're warmed up for you..... It's all about you tonight!!

Guys Tips to Stay Fresh

#Guy Tip: Keep your t-shirts looking fresh and new. Your t-shirts are doing double duty. They are a go-to casual item and look great under a formal shirt. Too often it's easy to overlook that they are turning yellow, fading, or stretching. A well dressed man is a sexy man.

Are You Dating A Cheater?

There is no such thing as a crystal ball when it comes to knowing whether or not your new guy (or girl) will cheat on you. However, there are some tell-tale signs that indicate (s)he is more likely to cheat than the average person.


Most cheaters are unlikely to sacrifice their wants to satisfy someone else's. If your guy doesn't see the value in respecting other people's wishes, he won't respect yours in the long run. Does he wait forever before he returns his friends calls, if he returns them at all? Is he constantly on the outs with any of his siblings? Are his co-workers all crazy and he is the only sane one in his office, according to him?


If your guy does not treat those around him well, you can bet he will start treating you the same way once the newness of your relationship fades. He disrespects those around him because he doesn't see the value of a good relationship. Loyalty is not his thing. And that makes him more likely to cheat.


Whenever your girl has a free moment (with or without you), she is on facebook or her blackberry checking messages. Checking her messages with you there is not only just plain rude, but it may also be an indication you are not enough for her. She may be craving constant reassurance from other people that she is popular and well-liked. Her need to feel wanted may be more important than staying loyal to you, so she could use cheating as a way to further satisfy her need.


If your guy is relentlessly doubting your feelings for him, often asking you to reassure him of your feelings, that is also a sign of trouble. It may seem flattering at first. Who doesn't love to be needed? But it could indicate he is low on self-esteem. Just like over-using social networking, needing continual reassurance from you has the same repercussions. He may use cheating as a way to get more reassurance that he is a desirable, great guy.


When it comes to dating, many people are looking for monogamous relationships and are honest in their intentions. However, if you are having doubts about the person you are dating, look for these subtle clues. They may help you avoid future heartache.

Get Back To The Sexiness

Couples in long-term relationships often take each other for granted. Although our partners mean the world to us, sometimes we can get bogged down in the everyday pressures of life and may ignore their sexy side. How and why this happens can be a mystery to us. How can someone we thought to be the sexiest person walking on the face of the earth slowly turn into more of a friend than a lover?


Actually, this stage of a relationship is normal. When two people are in a long-term relationship, living life side by side and facing the challenges it brings, they are bound to become comfortable with each other. This level of comfort is a good thing. The trick is to keep (or get) the sexy back. Here's how:

Take a few moments every day to admire his body. Today, and everyday, spend a few moments a day appreciating his physical attributes. Does he have nice buns? Admire them. Give them a rub as you walk by him in the kitchen. Give them a quick kiss as he comes out of the shower. Are his eyes to die for? Shower them with gentle kisses. Spend a few moments looking into them in the morning before you get out of bed.

Give him a massage. Go over every inch of his body. He won't refuse your touch. Drizzle a seductive, gorgeous massage oil on his beautiful back, chest, manly arms, and sexy legs. He's all yours. Admire him. Use soft pressure in slow circular movements and he'll melt to your every wish. Your heart will feel the ultimate, warm connection with him as you rediscover what you have been overlooking lately.

Spontaneously put on your favorite, sexy music in the livingroom and invite him to dance with you so you can watch his body move. You can be guaranteed he'll be watching you too.


Does he love a good movie? Invite him out to dinner and a show so you can snuggle with him in the dark. Then kiss and embrace him in the theatre -- over and over again. You'll love it. He'll love you.


Remind yourself about his sexy personality. Is he reliable? Is he thoughtful of you? Is he kind towards you? Those attributes are sexy. Lucky you to have sexy him.

It's easy to ignore your partner's sexy side once you become life-long friends. But it's oh-so-fun to rediscover and indulge in it.

Ask Her Out & Get A YES.....

How to Ask Your Crush Out on a Date and Get a Yes



More often than not, it's nerve-wracking to ask someone out on a date. You have one chance to make a good impression and if you suddenly become speechless as you eyes meet, you may loose it. Instead, be proactive, prepare, and think of your approach from the other person's perspective. In other words, what's in it for her (him)?


Keep your approach confident. We know, you have heard this one over and over again. But it's a keeper and if you don't feel the confidence, neither will your perspective date. If you're feeling a little unsure of yourself, practice in a mirror. Sounds corny? Yes, but it works. Everyone from rock stars to politicians practice in front of mirrors. If it works to build self-confidence for their performances and speeches, it will work for your mini-performance too.


Look your date target in the eye and smile, smile, smile. Looking the person in the eye works because it not only says you are confident, but it builds a personal connection and familiarity. (S)he will immediately feel a bond. Small as the bond is in the beginning, I know you want to do everything that helps your chance and this little tidbit helps. Keep smiling while you do it. Everyone looks better in a smile and yours is especially nice.


Motivate your perspective date to take action. That's business speak for make the offer so tempting (s)he cannot refuse. Besides time with cute, sexy you, what else can you offer on the date so it's too hard to resist?


Is she a lover of Chinese food? Offer to take her on a tour of little China in your city pointing out some great, uniquely Chinese shops. End up at a Chinese restaurant that has a great reputation. Does she love wine? Offer to take her to a local winery where you can learn about what wines go with certain foods. She'll love tasting the gourmet delicacies the winery will provide. Is he a fan of the local football team? Snag some great seats and promise him a hotdog and a beer to go with it. How could he resist?


If you practice these three principles the next time you want to ask someone out on a date, you'll really look good. You will appear (and be) confident and friendly, and, most of all, you will stand out from the crowd because your offer is tantalizingly out of the ordinary. Who wouldn't say, "Yes"?

Keeping It Sexy & Attracting Women

Ever wonder why some guys get all the dates? They effortlessly flirt and attract girls, keeping them wanting more. It's not only their confidence, they seem to have been born with an innate skill. Want to know their secrets to attracting and keeping a girl interested? Read on.



1. Be confident in yourself. No one wants to date a guy who doesn't like who he is as a person. Even the best looking guys who lack self-assurance won't attract a woman. After all, if you are hesitant about the reasons you are attractive, why would anyone be confident in her choice to be with you? Write down 5 things that make you desirable. (Yes, it sounds ultra-geeky, but it works and no one will know you did it.) Next time you approach a prospective date, remember these traits. Believe in yourself so she can too.


2. Resist looking needy. One of the best ways to make a woman second guess her decision to go out with you is to be needy. Calling, e-mailing, or text messaging her repeatedly when you are first dating is a definite sign that you have nothing better to do than to be her personal satellite. We're not suggesting you play games or "hard-to-get", but do keep a realistic perspective on the new relationship. You are just getting to know each other. You are not long-lost soul mates (yet).


3. Keep focussing on your life. Keep scheduling time with friends and family and make time for your interests. (It goes without saying that to be an interesting guy, you have to love life and have a passion for different hobbies, sports, e.t.c.. Being well-rounded is an aphrodisiac all on its own. Don't have any on-going passions? Find some. To receive passion, you have to be passionate.) Being available all the time means you are not doing anything interesting in your life. That means you may be boring. Fix it so you're not.


4. Don't be discouraged by rejection. All guys are rejected from time to time. Expect it. It takes persistence to find the one for you. Dating is a numbers game: the more girls you ask out, the more girls will reject you. But the same holds true for the reverse: the more you ask, the more you will be taken up on your offer. If you give up, you will never find that fun, sexy woman who is destined to be your best friend too.


5. Smile, smile, smile. No matter what is happening, keep smiling. If you are smiling that sends the best flirting signals. It shows you are happy, positive, confident, and friendly -- just the type of guy any girl wants to be around.


6. Wear a great cologne. Yes, I am a bit biased on this point. A great cologne shows you like and take care of yourself. It shows a sense of style and confidence, so it makes you stand out from the crowd. The best thing about a cologne? It charms the stilettos off any girl, because she knows you make that extra effort to be sexy. And what girl doesn't want sexy, confidence, and charm all wrapped up in her guy?

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Foreplay & AfterPlay

We all heard of "foreplay" correct? How about "AFTERPLAY?" For those who do not know what AFTERPLAY is it describes whatever a couple may do after immediately following love making; most often cuddling, caressing and sharing intimate thoughts. What are your thoughts on "AFTERPLAY?"


How do you feel about ForePlay, AfterPlay? And what do you do to keep it at its best.......

10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

Top 10: Mistakes Men Make in Bed

Even the most experienced of men may make a mistake or two in the bedroom from time to time and some end up fumbling more times than their favorite football team. It's up to you to keep things interesting and to avoid making sexual errors that irritate women, so if you steer clear of the following 10 behaviors, you will be headed toward being the kind of lover that attracts women like magnets and keeps them coming back for more.


1. Not returning sexual favors
Women often complain about men who gladly accept oral pleasuring, but never return the favor. Being a selfish lover can be an intimacy killer because one partner cannot be expected to continually please the other while not being pleasured themselves. Although you may get incredible sexual gratification from your lover's abilities, just remember that she needs some attention too.



2. Insufficient foreplay
At one time or another, we've all experienced a moment so passionate that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable; however, getting caught up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her out of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis. The thing that makes sex incredible for a woman is anticipation and being sexually teased, and insufficient foreplay can undermine the entire act of sex. Take your time and master the art of foreplay in order to drive your woman wild.


3. Being silent and emotionless
Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in bed. Men generally believe that remaining silent during the sex is a better option than speaking out what they desire, but if you are not talking during lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she can't be totally fulfilled. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, "That feels so good," will encourage her.


4. Assuming she's satisfied
Concentrating solely on your own sexual gratification is likely to leave your lover feeling underwhelmed or unsatisfied once you finish. Just because you got off, that doesn't mean that she's satisfied. Remember, a good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he is.


5. Lack of grooming
When you're in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing back and forth across her body isn't so sexy. If there's one thing that turns women off, it's a lover whose personal hygiene isn't up to par. Keeping yourself clean and properly groomed- especially in the more intimate corners of your anatomy - is not just a matter of courtesy, it's a ticket back to the bedroom.


6. Not lasting long enough
This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it. You need to have good penile control to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. If you can't control yourself and end up letting go too soon, spend a lot more time on foreplay. Although it is a debatable topic, most women will be happy if you can last at least 20 minutes.


7. Ignoring her erogenous zones
Most women have more erogenous areas than simply her breasts, nipples, and genitals. Take the time to learn your lover's other “hot” zones, particularly her neck, shoulders, back, buttocks and feet. Focus on her entire body. It will turn her on more and, in turn, increase the chances of her pleasuring you back.


8. Forcing sexual fantasies
Men often commit the mistake of not respecting a woman’s comfort zone, and simply expect women to do just about everything in bed to please them. Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new things in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want her to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is impose your sexual desires and fantasies upon her too soon into the relationship. Remember--real sex is not like sex in adult films, so always try to introduce new positions and reveal fantasies slowly but surely.


9. Thinking what works for one woman works for them all
Men often make assumptions about what a woman's wants based upon what they've done with other women; however, there is a great deal of variation between what different women like in the bedroom as well as their own differing levels of experience and confidence. If you have trouble reading your girlfriend’s responses, there is no harm in asking her directly what she likes. Even if you feel that you do know what will keep her satisfied in bed, constantly giving her a variety of sexual experiences is the fastest way to a varied and fulfilling sex-life.


10. Not kissing her enough
Believe it or not, many men don't kiss the woman they're with when they're having sex -- and that's one of the biggest mistakes to avoid in bed. Women love being kissed because it makes them feel soft, sexy, beautiful and adds the romance that they crave.


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