Men love women. They do. But that doesn’t mean women don’t drive them crazy. Even after oceans of ink have been spilled about how the two sexes can better understand and accept each other, women still find ways to annoy men — and vice versa. Here are the top five ways she’s making you crazy right now. Ladies, are you guilty of any of these irritating behaviors?
1. Game-playing/manufacturing drama. There are lots of ways to create drama and excitement in a relationship, but men aren’t usually fans — unless said excitement involves clothing removal. “Asking too much too soon about his past relationships” is one way women drive men nuts and create drama, says Dr. Linda R. Young, Ph.D., a psychologist and relationship coach who blogs for Psychology Today. Making him late by taking too long to get ready is another. Getting irrationally jealous over platonic friends or running hot, then cold with no explanation are just a few more.
Whether the drama is minor or significant, men would rather skip it. “I think these [behaviors] exist because men and women don’t have the skills to live beyond the ‘game-playing’ they learned as adolescents, which is perpetuated by the media,” explains Marni Battista, expert dating coach and founder of DatingWithDignity.com. “It takes an entire toolkit of advanced skills to create truly win-win situations in relationships. A person who doesn’t have these skills will always go to those old ‘default’ tendencies to fill the void.” And thus, drama is Born......
Ask yourself: Have I recently thrown either an object or a tantrum? If the answer is “yes,” you might be a drama queen. Take it down a notch by talking to your partner about why you’re feeling so angry and exactly what you need to feel calmer in the relationship. If you’re the one dealing with a drama queen, tell her you’re happy to discuss problems like an adult but you’re not interested in entertaining a whole restaurant with her shenanigans. If she doesn’t calm down, tell her to audition for a reality show and leave you alone.
2. Expecting the man to pay for everything. Most men don’t mind picking up the check early on in a courtship, but after a few dates, it’s nice for a woman to offer to contribute financially — especially if exclusivity has been established. Men like to be generous, but they don’t like to be taken for suckers, especially if the woman they’re seeing has a good job. As a corollary to this one, “Men are often put off by women trying to get a sense early on about what he does for a living and how much he earns,” says Dr. Seth Meyers, a Los Angeles-based psychologist and author of Dr. Seth’s Love Prescription. Men are people, too. If they feel they’re being sized up for more shallow, resume-type qualities, they’ll be annoyed.
3. “Wanting to know ‘where the relationship is going’ before he’s ready to say, or before he knows himself,” is a big one, according to Dr. Young. Dating is supposed to be a chance to get to know another person. It’s not a guarantee of finding a certain kind of relationship, and women who treat it this way drive men nuts. It’s almost as if the woman is selling herself short — after all, you can’t help but ask why a lady would want some kind of commitment from someone she doesn’t really know yet. Why is her “audition process” so short? Likewise, “Men often get bothered with women asking or talking about their beliefs about marriage and children early in the dating process,” observes Meyers. It puts too much pressure on what should be the fun part of getting to know someone when the end goal is the only thing a woman wants to focus on.
If the relationship isn’t likely to blossom into something steady and he’s upfront about that, a man wants the woman to hear what he’s saying and take him at face value. “Men are frustrated by women who don’t really believe them when they say, ‘I’m not in a place to have a relationship, but I really like hanging out with you,’” says Battista. “A man will give this ‘disclaimer’ and then be irritated when the woman finds she can’t change him, then begins to get angry that he hasn’t met her expectations.” If a woman wants to know how a man really feels and then gets hysterical after an honest response, it’s enough to — you guessed it — drive him crazy.
4. Being controlling. “Correcting him on little details when he’s got the big picture right,” adds Dr. Young, is another thing that drives men bonkers. It’s often true that women are better at multitasking, but that doesn’t mean they have to run every detail of the show. A man will get frustrated if a woman asks him to do something then won’t give him a chance to do it his way. The real show-stopper is when she then claims she “has to do everything around here!” If this situation sounds familiar, how can you improve it?
“If you want to put a stop to people’s annoying behavior, you first have to make them aware of it,” says Marc Muchnick, Ph.D., author of No More Regrets! 30 Ways to Greater Happiness and Meaning in Your Life. “Often, people don’t realize that what they are doing is bugging you, so when you tell them, it may come as a surprise.” So tell your significant other that she has to trust you if she doesn’t want to plan every meal, vacation and weekend you spend together, guys. Then do a good job with the task — in your own way, of course — and she just might back off.
5. Not getting enough “guy time.” In ancient cultures, men often spent most of their time with other men while the women socialized with each other. That, as we all know, has changed. And it’s hard for some men to accept. They want their guy time, and it’s rough when women don’t respect that. As long as “guys’ night out” isn’t a code for regularly losing thousands of dollars gambling or paying for strippers, men deserve to have time with their male friends. Deciding exactly how much time is appropriate should be left up to each couple. Remind her that time spent away from each other means the time you do have together will be that much richer — especially with funny stories about the ridiculous thing your buddy Paulie did last weekend. The key is, be reasonable. If you want more guy time than gal time, maybe having a wife or a girlfriend isn’t in the cards for you.
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Friday, January 20, 2012
Keeping The Excitement
Sometimes we all need a little help to keep our relationship fresh and exciting, even if we have found the love of our life. Daily routines and other demands on our time keep us running through the treadmill of life. Can keep you running in place and not even realizing how much time has gone by or how much time has really been lost. Before we know it, our relationship may be pushed to the back burner.
If this describes what has happened to your relationship, know that you are not alone. Even those of us in the best relationships need to keep finding ways to reconnect with our loved ones. Once you make it a goal to reconnect with your guy/girl, you will find it easier and easier to do every day. The trick is to get started. The rewards are immeasurable.
Here are some simple, but powerfully effective ideas to transform and revitalize your relationship.
1. Leave a thank you note on her pillow. Thank her for the delicious dinner she made that evening. Tell her how much you are looking forward to cuddling with her later. Tell her how much you loved talking with her over dinner.
2. Commit to spending time alone. Ask him out on a date once a week. Whether that is dinner out at your favorite restaurant; a walk through a nearby park; or a movie night in, the point is to have time alone to refresh your relationship. Turn off all cell phones and keep the focus on the two of you. Everyone needs time together without distractions to allow good conversation and other bonding to take place.
3. Go on an adventure. Do something you have never done before. Take horseback riding, scuba, or skating lessons. Go on a balloon ride (they are surprisingly exciting and calming at the same time). Adventures are the ultimate in bonding experiences. It gives you a feeling of team spirit; gives you something in common to talk about; and raises your endorphin levels.
If this describes what has happened to your relationship, know that you are not alone. Even those of us in the best relationships need to keep finding ways to reconnect with our loved ones. Once you make it a goal to reconnect with your guy/girl, you will find it easier and easier to do every day. The trick is to get started. The rewards are immeasurable.
Here are some simple, but powerfully effective ideas to transform and revitalize your relationship.
1. Leave a thank you note on her pillow. Thank her for the delicious dinner she made that evening. Tell her how much you are looking forward to cuddling with her later. Tell her how much you loved talking with her over dinner.
2. Commit to spending time alone. Ask him out on a date once a week. Whether that is dinner out at your favorite restaurant; a walk through a nearby park; or a movie night in, the point is to have time alone to refresh your relationship. Turn off all cell phones and keep the focus on the two of you. Everyone needs time together without distractions to allow good conversation and other bonding to take place.
3. Go on an adventure. Do something you have never done before. Take horseback riding, scuba, or skating lessons. Go on a balloon ride (they are surprisingly exciting and calming at the same time). Adventures are the ultimate in bonding experiences. It gives you a feeling of team spirit; gives you something in common to talk about; and raises your endorphin levels.
Are You Dating A Cheater?
There is no such thing as a crystal ball when it comes to knowing whether or not your new guy (or girl) will cheat on you. However, there are some tell-tale signs that indicate (s)he is more likely to cheat than the average person.
Most cheaters are unlikely to sacrifice their wants to satisfy someone else's. If your guy doesn't see the value in respecting other people's wishes, he won't respect yours in the long run. Does he wait forever before he returns his friends calls, if he returns them at all? Is he constantly on the outs with any of his siblings? Are his co-workers all crazy and he is the only sane one in his office, according to him?
If your guy does not treat those around him well, you can bet he will start treating you the same way once the newness of your relationship fades. He disrespects those around him because he doesn't see the value of a good relationship. Loyalty is not his thing. And that makes him more likely to cheat.
Whenever your girl has a free moment (with or without you), she is on facebook or her blackberry checking messages. Checking her messages with you there is not only just plain rude, but it may also be an indication you are not enough for her. She may be craving constant reassurance from other people that she is popular and well-liked. Her need to feel wanted may be more important than staying loyal to you, so she could use cheating as a way to further satisfy her need.
If your guy is relentlessly doubting your feelings for him, often asking you to reassure him of your feelings, that is also a sign of trouble. It may seem flattering at first. Who doesn't love to be needed? But it could indicate he is low on self-esteem. Just like over-using social networking, needing continual reassurance from you has the same repercussions. He may use cheating as a way to get more reassurance that he is a desirable, great guy.
When it comes to dating, many people are looking for monogamous relationships and are honest in their intentions. However, if you are having doubts about the person you are dating, look for these subtle clues. They may help you avoid future heartache.
Most cheaters are unlikely to sacrifice their wants to satisfy someone else's. If your guy doesn't see the value in respecting other people's wishes, he won't respect yours in the long run. Does he wait forever before he returns his friends calls, if he returns them at all? Is he constantly on the outs with any of his siblings? Are his co-workers all crazy and he is the only sane one in his office, according to him?
If your guy does not treat those around him well, you can bet he will start treating you the same way once the newness of your relationship fades. He disrespects those around him because he doesn't see the value of a good relationship. Loyalty is not his thing. And that makes him more likely to cheat.
Whenever your girl has a free moment (with or without you), she is on facebook or her blackberry checking messages. Checking her messages with you there is not only just plain rude, but it may also be an indication you are not enough for her. She may be craving constant reassurance from other people that she is popular and well-liked. Her need to feel wanted may be more important than staying loyal to you, so she could use cheating as a way to further satisfy her need.
If your guy is relentlessly doubting your feelings for him, often asking you to reassure him of your feelings, that is also a sign of trouble. It may seem flattering at first. Who doesn't love to be needed? But it could indicate he is low on self-esteem. Just like over-using social networking, needing continual reassurance from you has the same repercussions. He may use cheating as a way to get more reassurance that he is a desirable, great guy.
When it comes to dating, many people are looking for monogamous relationships and are honest in their intentions. However, if you are having doubts about the person you are dating, look for these subtle clues. They may help you avoid future heartache.
Monday, January 9, 2012
5 Things That Women Get Insecure About
Everyone at one point or another has concerns or may feel insecure about something one day or another...... But here is 5 things that make a woman feel insecure.....
Things Women Are Insecure About
When it comes to dating, most women have a few insecurities and they tend to worry about very different things than men. Your actions can make a big difference on how secure she'll feel when she's with you. Here are 5 things women worry about when it comes to dating or being in a relationship.
1. She thinks you might not call her after a date
The first step to building a woman's trust is to following through with what you promise her. So if you say you are going to call her on Thursday, call her Thursday. If you say Friday, do it. If that's not your style, though, or you'd like to keep a little mystery, don't be definite about when you'll be calling. It's better than breaking a promise and at least she won't be waiting by the phone on a certain day.
2. She thinks you just want to have sex with her
It's a hard line to walk: If you make a move too soon, she'll think that's all you want. If you wait too long, she'll think you're just interested in her friendship. So the best way to work this is to just be sincere. If you are genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with her, let her know. From there, she'll give you the signals to let you know when she's ready to get romantic with you.
3. She thinks you're dating other women
As long as you are honest about it, casually dating more than one woman at the same time is perfectly acceptable-- just don't lie about it. Keep in mind that once you both become intimate or the relationship turns serious, she might assume you are her's exclusively.
4. She thinks you're not that interested
At times, even the most confident woman sometimes needs a little reassurance that you're interested in her and that she still has it. You could let her know how special she is to you by complimenting her or sending her flowers. Find ways to make your woman feel special through a romantic gesture like calling her in the middle of the day for no reason at all. If you both have been in a relationship for a while, you need to work extra hard to reassure her that you still find her attractive. Flirting with other women in front of her can also make her feel insecure. Remember, when you're with her, devote all your attention to her.
5. She thinks you're cheating on her
If you haven't given her a reason to feel that you're cheating on her and she continues to accuse you of it, discuss the issue with her and let her know that you are committed and have no intention of straying. Believe it or not, lots of women have a lot of performance anxiety in the bedroom. If you're sex life is going well be sure to let her know it. If not, however, be sure to address the issue in the most sensitive manner possible.
Yes, the world of dating is harsh. But if you genuinely care about her, with a little foresight and sincerity, you can make her feel more secure about your relationship and about herself and boost her ego.
Things Women Are Insecure About
When it comes to dating, most women have a few insecurities and they tend to worry about very different things than men. Your actions can make a big difference on how secure she'll feel when she's with you. Here are 5 things women worry about when it comes to dating or being in a relationship.
1. She thinks you might not call her after a date
The first step to building a woman's trust is to following through with what you promise her. So if you say you are going to call her on Thursday, call her Thursday. If you say Friday, do it. If that's not your style, though, or you'd like to keep a little mystery, don't be definite about when you'll be calling. It's better than breaking a promise and at least she won't be waiting by the phone on a certain day.
2. She thinks you just want to have sex with her
It's a hard line to walk: If you make a move too soon, she'll think that's all you want. If you wait too long, she'll think you're just interested in her friendship. So the best way to work this is to just be sincere. If you are genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with her, let her know. From there, she'll give you the signals to let you know when she's ready to get romantic with you.
3. She thinks you're dating other women
As long as you are honest about it, casually dating more than one woman at the same time is perfectly acceptable-- just don't lie about it. Keep in mind that once you both become intimate or the relationship turns serious, she might assume you are her's exclusively.
4. She thinks you're not that interested
At times, even the most confident woman sometimes needs a little reassurance that you're interested in her and that she still has it. You could let her know how special she is to you by complimenting her or sending her flowers. Find ways to make your woman feel special through a romantic gesture like calling her in the middle of the day for no reason at all. If you both have been in a relationship for a while, you need to work extra hard to reassure her that you still find her attractive. Flirting with other women in front of her can also make her feel insecure. Remember, when you're with her, devote all your attention to her.
5. She thinks you're cheating on her
If you haven't given her a reason to feel that you're cheating on her and she continues to accuse you of it, discuss the issue with her and let her know that you are committed and have no intention of straying. Believe it or not, lots of women have a lot of performance anxiety in the bedroom. If you're sex life is going well be sure to let her know it. If not, however, be sure to address the issue in the most sensitive manner possible.
Yes, the world of dating is harsh. But if you genuinely care about her, with a little foresight and sincerity, you can make her feel more secure about your relationship and about herself and boost her ego.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
5 Reasons To Get Married
Getting married is often the biggest event of a person’s life. It means being committed to one person for the rest of your life, and while there are plenty of good reasons not to get married, there are many good reasons FOR marriage. If you're not sure that you are ready to take that big step, these five solid reasons to get married will help you decide.
1. Marriage means more sexual fulfillment
While single guys are excited by having one-night stands and the thrill of constantly chasing different women, married men are home having sex with their wives. Married men have more sex than single men, have a better feel for their partner's bodies, have an absence of guilt, are more aware of their partner's fantasies and report a higher rate of sexual satisfaction than single counterparts who find themselves bouncing from girl to girl.
2. Marriage gives you a legal platform to start a family
While it's pretty obvious you don't need to be married to have kids, but marriage is still the the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family and keeping your bloodline going.
3. Marriage can provide more financial benefits
There are numerous financial benefits associated with marriage to include tax brеаkѕ, health insurance plans аnԁ οthеr financial benefits. In a marriage where both partners are working, it can be easier to afford the things you could never afford on your own; it means a better home, a better car, a better vacation, etc...Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples.
4. Marriage can improve your health
Research shows that men who are married engage in fewer risky behaviors, like binge drinking or dangerous hobbies and careers. Married men also eat healthier, visit the doctor more often and may have better immune systems as well, either from support or from nagging to monitor things like blood pressure, cholesterol, weight, etc….
5. Marriage gives you a higher rate of happiness
A good marriage offers a man the kind of stability and support that allows him to succeed in all other aspects of life. Many studies have shown that men are higher achieving when they are married, and having a good wife can bring out the best in you, challenge you to be the best version of yourself and help you learn the true meaning of self-sacrifice and compromise.
Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama and emotional baggage from crazy women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring woman?
1. Marriage means more sexual fulfillment
While single guys are excited by having one-night stands and the thrill of constantly chasing different women, married men are home having sex with their wives. Married men have more sex than single men, have a better feel for their partner's bodies, have an absence of guilt, are more aware of their partner's fantasies and report a higher rate of sexual satisfaction than single counterparts who find themselves bouncing from girl to girl.
2. Marriage gives you a legal platform to start a family
While it's pretty obvious you don't need to be married to have kids, but marriage is still the the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family and keeping your bloodline going.
3. Marriage can provide more financial benefits
There are numerous financial benefits associated with marriage to include tax brеаkѕ, health insurance plans аnԁ οthеr financial benefits. In a marriage where both partners are working, it can be easier to afford the things you could never afford on your own; it means a better home, a better car, a better vacation, etc...Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples.
4. Marriage can improve your health
Research shows that men who are married engage in fewer risky behaviors, like binge drinking or dangerous hobbies and careers. Married men also eat healthier, visit the doctor more often and may have better immune systems as well, either from support or from nagging to monitor things like blood pressure, cholesterol, weight, etc….
5. Marriage gives you a higher rate of happiness
A good marriage offers a man the kind of stability and support that allows him to succeed in all other aspects of life. Many studies have shown that men are higher achieving when they are married, and having a good wife can bring out the best in you, challenge you to be the best version of yourself and help you learn the true meaning of self-sacrifice and compromise.
Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama and emotional baggage from crazy women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring woman?
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Choosing The Right Cologne
Choosing the Right Cologne
Just as a clean shave, a pressed suit and a great haircut help make the man, choosing the right cologne fragrance is as equally important. Finding the right scent to complement your lifestyle can enhance your presence in a room or group and also cause women to think of you as that great-smelling guy they have to have. So how do you begin looking for the right cologne fragrance that will attract the ladies and best suit your lifestyle?
Choosing the right scent is not always about what smells good in a magazine or using the same scents your dad use to wear. What you think smells good might be the wrong scent for you to use because of the way a particular fragrance changes from guy to guy, as a cologne's scent is the product of chemical reactions between the skin and the cologne's ingredients. Therefore, you have to find a good cologne that not only smells right on you, but also makes you smell unique and suits your lifestyle.
The first step in knowing how to find your signature scent is to understand what type of skin you have --whether it’s sensitive, oily or dry. Guys with dry skin should opt for stronger fragrances that are formulated to last longer in drier, colder times, thereby reducing the need for frequent reapplication which will further dry out and damage the skin. When it comes to buying cologne for sensitive skin, follow the same rules for dry skin, but also look for colognes that list all-natural ingredients free from synthetic fragrances. Oily skin responds best to cologne that is developed for summertime wear (lighter scents) to help balance out the stronger natural odors that your skin is secreting.
Almost every cologne designed for men is based on either strong notes of musk, wood, citrus or floral-based water. So when you look for a new fragrance, choose a base scent you feel comfortable wearing that also accentuates your own unique style and personality. Also, consider your lifestyle and the setting in which you plan to wear it. For example, if you’re in close contact with colleagues at the office on a regular basis, you’ll want to avoid anything that others could find overpowering or offensive. On the other hand, a scent that’s fit for the office is not appropriate for a night out at the clubs, which calls for a stronger scent.
Once you’ve played around in the fragrance department, ask a few women you know about the scents you’ve tried. If you're still getting less than desired results from your own selections, take your woman or a close female friend you trust to go with you and let her help you find the right scent for you with brutal honesty. After all, you’re not wearing a fragrance to please yourself, but to enhance your presence and to be appealing to the women who ultimately have the final say in what smells good on you.
Once you've found your signature scents, remember to pay close attention to how much you apply. Contrary to popular belief, putting on more of any scent is not the answer and no one, especially women, should ever smell you before they see you enter a room or round a corner. Simply apply a little to your neck, torso and the wrists to make the fragrance mix with your body's scent and radiate outward more naturally as the hours pass.
~~ The J RagTv NetWork.
Just as a clean shave, a pressed suit and a great haircut help make the man, choosing the right cologne fragrance is as equally important. Finding the right scent to complement your lifestyle can enhance your presence in a room or group and also cause women to think of you as that great-smelling guy they have to have. So how do you begin looking for the right cologne fragrance that will attract the ladies and best suit your lifestyle?
Choosing the right scent is not always about what smells good in a magazine or using the same scents your dad use to wear. What you think smells good might be the wrong scent for you to use because of the way a particular fragrance changes from guy to guy, as a cologne's scent is the product of chemical reactions between the skin and the cologne's ingredients. Therefore, you have to find a good cologne that not only smells right on you, but also makes you smell unique and suits your lifestyle.
The first step in knowing how to find your signature scent is to understand what type of skin you have --whether it’s sensitive, oily or dry. Guys with dry skin should opt for stronger fragrances that are formulated to last longer in drier, colder times, thereby reducing the need for frequent reapplication which will further dry out and damage the skin. When it comes to buying cologne for sensitive skin, follow the same rules for dry skin, but also look for colognes that list all-natural ingredients free from synthetic fragrances. Oily skin responds best to cologne that is developed for summertime wear (lighter scents) to help balance out the stronger natural odors that your skin is secreting.
Almost every cologne designed for men is based on either strong notes of musk, wood, citrus or floral-based water. So when you look for a new fragrance, choose a base scent you feel comfortable wearing that also accentuates your own unique style and personality. Also, consider your lifestyle and the setting in which you plan to wear it. For example, if you’re in close contact with colleagues at the office on a regular basis, you’ll want to avoid anything that others could find overpowering or offensive. On the other hand, a scent that’s fit for the office is not appropriate for a night out at the clubs, which calls for a stronger scent.
Once you’ve played around in the fragrance department, ask a few women you know about the scents you’ve tried. If you're still getting less than desired results from your own selections, take your woman or a close female friend you trust to go with you and let her help you find the right scent for you with brutal honesty. After all, you’re not wearing a fragrance to please yourself, but to enhance your presence and to be appealing to the women who ultimately have the final say in what smells good on you.
Once you've found your signature scents, remember to pay close attention to how much you apply. Contrary to popular belief, putting on more of any scent is not the answer and no one, especially women, should ever smell you before they see you enter a room or round a corner. Simply apply a little to your neck, torso and the wrists to make the fragrance mix with your body's scent and radiate outward more naturally as the hours pass.
~~ The J RagTv NetWork.
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