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Showing posts with label Sex. Show all posts
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Tank - "Too Late" [Official Audio]
"Too Late" | Tank
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Tank - "See Through Love" (feat. Chris Brown) [Official Audio]
"See Through Love" (Official Audio)
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Sunday, April 26, 2015
"Capricorns In The BedRoom"
Capricorns are always after newness and novelty in the bedroom and detests sameness. You do not particularly like being submissive in the bedroom, but you find that sex is something they want done right, and wants a lover who can take them to great sexual heights...
Monday, April 16, 2012
Being The "Alpha Male"
Alpha Male" is a term used to describe to the guy who is confident, attractive, muscle-bound and wealthy with relatively high economic status who has a strong ability to get the most attractive women for mates. Alpha males are more about exhibiting traits that are essentially masculine and tends to "lead the pack".
The fact is that a lot of women are more attracted to alpha males than any other type of male. The alpha male in adult society is most likely to be most at ease with women. Being a bad boy playfully cocky with humor is a typical alpha male quality that can make women extremely attracted to you, and other men look up to and respect you more.
On the down side, questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates. Many of them tend to be prominent in society but have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.
At work, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence, but also may be demanding and difficult to work with. The alpha male is constantly attempting to retain his stature as alpha, or "number one." Being the top worker or the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.
Dating relationship statistics show that many alpha males seem to share many traits with Narcissists; however, a real alpha male doesn't have to be a jerk. True alpha males have no mystery method to attract women, exude male confidence and are simply men who have done the work to be good at interacting with women and expressing their romantic selves.
The fact is that a lot of women are more attracted to alpha males than any other type of male. The alpha male in adult society is most likely to be most at ease with women. Being a bad boy playfully cocky with humor is a typical alpha male quality that can make women extremely attracted to you, and other men look up to and respect you more.
On the down side, questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates. Many of them tend to be prominent in society but have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.
At work, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence, but also may be demanding and difficult to work with. The alpha male is constantly attempting to retain his stature as alpha, or "number one." Being the top worker or the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.
Dating relationship statistics show that many alpha males seem to share many traits with Narcissists; however, a real alpha male doesn't have to be a jerk. True alpha males have no mystery method to attract women, exude male confidence and are simply men who have done the work to be good at interacting with women and expressing their romantic selves.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
"Can A ThreeSome Ruin Your Relationship?"
Can a 3Some ruin your Relationship? People would obviously have different opinions on that.....
Can A Threesome Ruin Your Relationship?
If you ask men what their ultimate fantasy is, chances are they will likely respond that it is making love with two women. Almost every man who has the opportunity to have a three-way love-making experience will take it, but what are the chances that taking it to the next level can actually ruin your relationship?
Let's face it--men who make love to two women are revered by their male counterparts. It gives a man a feeling of accomplishment and achievement, making him feel like the ultimate alpha male. But have you ever considered the consequences of three-way lovemaking for both you and your partner?
For any self-respecting woman who is in love, sharing her boyfriend with another woman can be a traumatic experience that can trigger all kinds of negative emotions for her ranging from jealousy and embarrassment to possessiveness.
Think about it--asking your woman to have a three-way means that you are confessing your desire to make love to another woman. Just the thought of that will not only give her a sense of doubt, but mistrust will creep in and she will think you are cheating and are not satisfied by her.
Still not convinced a three-way could ruin your relationship? While you might be excited at the idea of being with two women at the same time, would something switch in your view of your girlfriend if she asked you for a threesome with another man?
Imagine how hard it would be to return to a normal relationship once you've seen your lady in bed with another guy. Even if you're in to that sort of thing now, how willing would you be to make her your wife and have some kids after watching her get it on with some random stranger, or even worse--one of your buddies?
When it comes to threesomes, they're never a good idea unless you have an open relationship with some chick you see no real future with. If you're in a very loving, secure and serious relationship, this type of fantasy should stay just that--a fantasy.......
~~ Joe "J Rag" Rago
Can A Threesome Ruin Your Relationship?
If you ask men what their ultimate fantasy is, chances are they will likely respond that it is making love with two women. Almost every man who has the opportunity to have a three-way love-making experience will take it, but what are the chances that taking it to the next level can actually ruin your relationship?
Let's face it--men who make love to two women are revered by their male counterparts. It gives a man a feeling of accomplishment and achievement, making him feel like the ultimate alpha male. But have you ever considered the consequences of three-way lovemaking for both you and your partner?
For any self-respecting woman who is in love, sharing her boyfriend with another woman can be a traumatic experience that can trigger all kinds of negative emotions for her ranging from jealousy and embarrassment to possessiveness.
Think about it--asking your woman to have a three-way means that you are confessing your desire to make love to another woman. Just the thought of that will not only give her a sense of doubt, but mistrust will creep in and she will think you are cheating and are not satisfied by her.
Still not convinced a three-way could ruin your relationship? While you might be excited at the idea of being with two women at the same time, would something switch in your view of your girlfriend if she asked you for a threesome with another man?
Imagine how hard it would be to return to a normal relationship once you've seen your lady in bed with another guy. Even if you're in to that sort of thing now, how willing would you be to make her your wife and have some kids after watching her get it on with some random stranger, or even worse--one of your buddies?
When it comes to threesomes, they're never a good idea unless you have an open relationship with some chick you see no real future with. If you're in a very loving, secure and serious relationship, this type of fantasy should stay just that--a fantasy.......
~~ Joe "J Rag" Rago
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
The Rules Of Bringing Food In To SeX
Sex & Relationships..The Perils (and Rules) of Mixing Food and Sex
.By: John Prester.In the movies, there's little sexier than a naked woman armed with a bottle of chocolate syrup and a come-hither smile. But in reality, mixing food with sex usually ends with an argument over who has to clean up the mess, hours of chafing, and a permanent antipathy for the edible in question.
It doesn't have to be that. By following a few simple rules, you can avoid the worst of the wurst. Or strawberries, or dripped honey, or Brussels sprouts...
Rule 1: Check on your partner's food allergies. You'd be surprised how easy it is to forget this the cardinal rule of sexual experimentation ("Thou shalt not do anything that causes one of you to swell up and die.") And remember that food allergies often include even inhaling the tiniest bit of a trigger substance, so rubbing but not ingesting isn't always an acceptable substitute.
Rule 2: Don't break out the fancy sheets. Or, if you're doing it in the living room, roll away the antique Persian rug. Or, if you insist on incorporating furniture into your sex play, cover the couch (or whatever) with a plastic sheet and throw a comfortable but inexpensive blanket over that. The ideal place to have food-based sex would be the bathtub, but many people have a problem with eating next to toilets. Go figure.
Rule 3: Make sure she's into it. For some reason, nothing wilts someone's sex drive like overcooked asparagus faster than some dude popping up suddenly at their front door with a goofy grin and a jar of chunky peanut butter.
Rule 4: Some foods are messier than others. Licking honey off each other sounds like a great idea on the way to the bedroom, but it doesn't enhance the post-coital glow if you're literally stuck to each other in sensitive places. And orange marmalade may really key in to your mutual Paddington Bear fetish, but you won't be singing a happy tune when you're digging bits of zest out of the headboard a week later. Plan as much for the clean-up as you are for the fun, if not more.
Rule 5: Some foods are sexier than others. You're not going to do much for anyone's libido with a jar of marinated mushrooms. (Unless you're a real freak, in which case, have at it!) In general, go with sweet over savory, and room temperature, cool or cold (but not frostbite cold) over, say, a steaming-hot pot roast. Leave anything that you'd normally eat with a fork and knife back in the dining room.
Rule No. 6: Have fun! I know, I know, every list of bullshit rules ends with "Have fun!" but this time I really mean it. Honest.
......
.By: John Prester.In the movies, there's little sexier than a naked woman armed with a bottle of chocolate syrup and a come-hither smile. But in reality, mixing food with sex usually ends with an argument over who has to clean up the mess, hours of chafing, and a permanent antipathy for the edible in question.
It doesn't have to be that. By following a few simple rules, you can avoid the worst of the wurst. Or strawberries, or dripped honey, or Brussels sprouts...
Rule 1: Check on your partner's food allergies. You'd be surprised how easy it is to forget this the cardinal rule of sexual experimentation ("Thou shalt not do anything that causes one of you to swell up and die.") And remember that food allergies often include even inhaling the tiniest bit of a trigger substance, so rubbing but not ingesting isn't always an acceptable substitute.
Rule 2: Don't break out the fancy sheets. Or, if you're doing it in the living room, roll away the antique Persian rug. Or, if you insist on incorporating furniture into your sex play, cover the couch (or whatever) with a plastic sheet and throw a comfortable but inexpensive blanket over that. The ideal place to have food-based sex would be the bathtub, but many people have a problem with eating next to toilets. Go figure.
Rule 3: Make sure she's into it. For some reason, nothing wilts someone's sex drive like overcooked asparagus faster than some dude popping up suddenly at their front door with a goofy grin and a jar of chunky peanut butter.
Rule 4: Some foods are messier than others. Licking honey off each other sounds like a great idea on the way to the bedroom, but it doesn't enhance the post-coital glow if you're literally stuck to each other in sensitive places. And orange marmalade may really key in to your mutual Paddington Bear fetish, but you won't be singing a happy tune when you're digging bits of zest out of the headboard a week later. Plan as much for the clean-up as you are for the fun, if not more.
Rule 5: Some foods are sexier than others. You're not going to do much for anyone's libido with a jar of marinated mushrooms. (Unless you're a real freak, in which case, have at it!) In general, go with sweet over savory, and room temperature, cool or cold (but not frostbite cold) over, say, a steaming-hot pot roast. Leave anything that you'd normally eat with a fork and knife back in the dining room.
Rule No. 6: Have fun! I know, I know, every list of bullshit rules ends with "Have fun!" but this time I really mean it. Honest.
......
Thursday, January 5, 2012
How To Buy Lingerie That She Will Love & Wear Over Again
It is important, that if you step out to a Store to purchase your woman Lingerie, that you don't assume going right to the Freaky, Raunchy, Fetish, type section, because that can ultimately go in a few directions and very bad is most of them..... Go for something you feel she will like. That will make her feel sexy and confident. You really do not want to scare her or intimidate her in any way. Elegant, Classy, & Sexy Pieces and Lingerie is the best and most intimate way to go.....
How To Buy Lingerie That She Will Love (And Wear Again And Again)
After fragrance, lingerie is the second most popular gift for Christmas.
Women love to receive gifts of luxury for Christmas. After all, if they need a blender or vacuum, it's considered a necessity and they can buy what they need without guilt at any time of the year.
But fragrance and lingerie seems to whisper, "I love you" the moment she opens the package. They are decadent gifts that she may not so readily indulge in for herself.
Here is part 1 of 2: a guide for men on how to buy lingerie. Part 2 on buying fragrance is coming in the near future.
Buying lingerie for your lady is intimidating for two reasons. The first one is obvious -- it can be uncomfortable to walk into what seems like a ladies’ only store. Lingerie stores are often pink, frilly places with only lady customers inside being served by (usually) youngish women.
The second reason buying lingerie for her is intimidating? Lingerie you have purchased in the past has often ended up collecting dust in a drawer.
In reality, there is no need to fear the idea of walking into a lingerie store. The sales ladies are used to helping men find something perfect for their special someone. You may be the only male in the store at that moment, but lingerie sales peak before holidays such as Christmas and Valentine’s mainly because of thoughtful guys like you -- guys who are trying to do something nice for the woman they love. In fact, men make 20% of all lingerie purchases throughout the year.
So how do you buy lingerie that makes her feel both comfortable and beautiful?
It’s not as hard as it sounds. A little research will get you (and ultimately her) what she really wants.
Start by looking in her closet. What size is she? Write down the sizes for her current lingerie, bras, dress pants or jeans, and tops. This information will immensely help the sales lady find the correct size and shorten your shopping time. (Don’t make the classic mistake of eyeing the sales women and telling her your wife is about her size or just a little bigger. There are a lot of sizes out there and being off by one or two makes the outfit unwearable.)
Go for something comfortable. No one wants to wear scratchy, itchy fabric against their skin -- not even, as hard as this may be to comprehend, not even if it means a guaranteed night of bliss with you. Rub the fabric against your inner wrist (this part of your skin is sensitive so it will give you a good reading). If it’s scratchy, move on.
Yes, yes, we know comfort usually means flannel or some other matronly fabric. Not exactly a turn on. However, believe it or not, there are some sexy, beautiful pieces that feel great on. You just have to spend a little extra time looking for them and make sure you are politely firm with the sales lady when you make this a requirement. Remember, you want your lady to actually wear the lingerie, correct?
Look for something she will feel beautiful wearing. If she feels beautiful, she’ll automatically feel sexy and you have got what you want, one happy, sexy woman. To do this, refer back to what you saw in her closet. What does she usually buy for herself now? Take it one or two steps beyond. Any more and she may not have the courage to put it on. For instance, if she only wears plain cotton bras and panties, go for something close to that style, but with a beautiful colour, flirty ruffle, and/or a sexy animal print pattern. Avoid anything with strategic cut outs in both the bra and panties. You get the point.
Lingerie is a special, intimate gift that says, “I love you and think you are beautiful.” Make sure you do the research first so you feel more comfortable while you are shopping and she feels comfortable, flattered, and very sexy when she’s wearing it.
How To Buy Lingerie That She Will Love (And Wear Again And Again)
After fragrance, lingerie is the second most popular gift for Christmas.
Women love to receive gifts of luxury for Christmas. After all, if they need a blender or vacuum, it's considered a necessity and they can buy what they need without guilt at any time of the year.
But fragrance and lingerie seems to whisper, "I love you" the moment she opens the package. They are decadent gifts that she may not so readily indulge in for herself.
Here is part 1 of 2: a guide for men on how to buy lingerie. Part 2 on buying fragrance is coming in the near future.
Buying lingerie for your lady is intimidating for two reasons. The first one is obvious -- it can be uncomfortable to walk into what seems like a ladies’ only store. Lingerie stores are often pink, frilly places with only lady customers inside being served by (usually) youngish women.
The second reason buying lingerie for her is intimidating? Lingerie you have purchased in the past has often ended up collecting dust in a drawer.
In reality, there is no need to fear the idea of walking into a lingerie store. The sales ladies are used to helping men find something perfect for their special someone. You may be the only male in the store at that moment, but lingerie sales peak before holidays such as Christmas and Valentine’s mainly because of thoughtful guys like you -- guys who are trying to do something nice for the woman they love. In fact, men make 20% of all lingerie purchases throughout the year.
So how do you buy lingerie that makes her feel both comfortable and beautiful?
It’s not as hard as it sounds. A little research will get you (and ultimately her) what she really wants.
Start by looking in her closet. What size is she? Write down the sizes for her current lingerie, bras, dress pants or jeans, and tops. This information will immensely help the sales lady find the correct size and shorten your shopping time. (Don’t make the classic mistake of eyeing the sales women and telling her your wife is about her size or just a little bigger. There are a lot of sizes out there and being off by one or two makes the outfit unwearable.)
Go for something comfortable. No one wants to wear scratchy, itchy fabric against their skin -- not even, as hard as this may be to comprehend, not even if it means a guaranteed night of bliss with you. Rub the fabric against your inner wrist (this part of your skin is sensitive so it will give you a good reading). If it’s scratchy, move on.
Yes, yes, we know comfort usually means flannel or some other matronly fabric. Not exactly a turn on. However, believe it or not, there are some sexy, beautiful pieces that feel great on. You just have to spend a little extra time looking for them and make sure you are politely firm with the sales lady when you make this a requirement. Remember, you want your lady to actually wear the lingerie, correct?
Look for something she will feel beautiful wearing. If she feels beautiful, she’ll automatically feel sexy and you have got what you want, one happy, sexy woman. To do this, refer back to what you saw in her closet. What does she usually buy for herself now? Take it one or two steps beyond. Any more and she may not have the courage to put it on. For instance, if she only wears plain cotton bras and panties, go for something close to that style, but with a beautiful colour, flirty ruffle, and/or a sexy animal print pattern. Avoid anything with strategic cut outs in both the bra and panties. You get the point.
Lingerie is a special, intimate gift that says, “I love you and think you are beautiful.” Make sure you do the research first so you feel more comfortable while you are shopping and she feels comfortable, flattered, and very sexy when she’s wearing it.
Reasons Why 'We' Break-Up
The reasons why People break up, or People fall out of Love......
“When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie, that’s amore!” sang Dean Martin. We all know the delicious feeling of new love, but what about the flip side? Love doesn’t always last, and its retreat can leave us bewildered, confused or downright depressed.
Even if you were raised on a plentiful diet of fairy tales, you know that “till death do us part” can be a rare thing. Even staying with someone forever is no guarantee of experiencing lasting love. But why do people really fall out of love? Is there anything we can do to make love stay? Do some of us give up too easily? To understand the phenomenon of love’s end, we asked the experts’ opinions on the subject. Here are the top three reasons they shared with us:
1. A distancing “Wave” can topple a good thing if you let it. Ken Page, psychotherapist and author of the Finding Love blog for Psychology Today and founder of the Deeper Dating website, has identified a phenomenon that can destroy new love: “The ‘Wave’ occurs when we unconsciously push a caring and available person away by inwardly diminishing his or her worth.” Think about how Carrie Bradshaw behaved when she first started dating Aidan Shaw: Aidan was “too available” and Carrie freaked because she wasn’t used to being with someone so open....
“When someone is available and decent,” Page explains, “something inside us knows [this person] can get to our nest, our soul — the place where we care the most and can be hurt the most. And our unconscious gets panicked.” If you find yourself breaking up with someone awesome for no good reason, check yourself; you might be acting out of fear. After all, real love is a big deal. It involves a leap of faith, and that can be a scary thing. Those who give in to the Wave fall out of love before they even give themselves a chance to fall properly in love, and that’s kind of sad.
2. Unwillingness to discuss relationship problems. OK, let’s say you’ve taken that leap and you’re in a long-term, committed relationship. Good for you! Now, don’t forget to communicate with your partner regularly. Guy Winch, Ph.D., author of The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem, says that people fall out of love because they don’t talk through their relationship peeves with each other: “Research shows that couples who are able to voice complaints well and discuss them productively have greater marital satisfaction and much lower divorce rates than couples who are unable to do so.” If you’re in a newer relationship, iron out the kinks early on to keep love alive over the long haul. “It is much easier to address issues earlier in a relationship than later, just as it is much harder to mold cement once it has dried and hardened,” explains Winch.
The key word here, however, is “productively.” It usually doesn’t help to fight and blame your partner for all of the relationship’s problems. Dr. Fran Praver, author of The New Science of Love: How Understanding Your Brain’s Wiring Can Help Rekindle Your Relationship, says that “when couples play the blame game, they wage a war of being right where both parties lose. It may seem like a strong personality to insist on being right, but in fact ‘rightness’ is born out of rigidity and weakness, not strength.” Couples fall out of love when they can’t find a way to make the partnership good for both people involved. Creativity and open minds are the stuff of lasting love; silence and blaming, though? Not so much.
3. People change or get bored with each other. April Masini, the relationship expert behind AskApril.com and author of Romantic Date Ideas, says: “Over time, people can change — or more often, they become who they really are. Someone who loved his steady business career may suddenly realize he always wanted to be a stand-up comedian and throw caution to the wind to chase his dreams.” People evolve; circumstances change — and sometimes, relationships can’t be sustained as a result. But if you really know your partner down to the core, the changes won’t be as shocking. “The kind of change that leads to love lost is always about a buried desire to be someone that’s repressed inside,” continues Masini. “It’s important to really know your partner to avoid this lost-love syndrome.” In other words, don’t neglect someone you care about. You cannot get to know a person thoroughly right away — rather, it’s a lifelong journey. There’s a whole universe inside the person you fell for, and if you don’t check in with that individual on a regular basis, you could wake up one day hearing this: “I’m unhappy. I’m moving to another country to start my life over fresh, and you’re not invited.”
If you find yourself perusing faraway rental homes and thinking, “He’s changed!” or “I’m just so bored with her,” think about holding on and digging a little deeper first. “At a certain point in a relationship, according to Imago Couples Therapy,” says Page, “each partner feels that the thing they most need from their partner is the very thing that their partner can’t give. At that point, many people feel that the relationship has run its course and they leave. The reality, however, is much different. This can be the beginning phase of an entirely new level of intimacy, if they each decide to learn to grow and try to give that partner what [he or she needs most].”
Then again, love doesn’t necessarily have to last decades (or a lifetime) to matter. Romantic relationships can also evolve into dear friendships — and that’s perfectly fine. Dr. Lissa Coffey, author of the book, Closure and the Law of Relationship: Endings as New Beginnings, agrees. “We may come together for a certain period of time to help each other learn and grow, and when that has been accomplished, we’ve gotten everything we were meant to get out of the relationship. Then it changes,” Coffey explains. “It doesn’t have to end; it’s just redefined.”
2012 MindScApe Entertainment(R). The J Rag Blog.
“When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie, that’s amore!” sang Dean Martin. We all know the delicious feeling of new love, but what about the flip side? Love doesn’t always last, and its retreat can leave us bewildered, confused or downright depressed.
Even if you were raised on a plentiful diet of fairy tales, you know that “till death do us part” can be a rare thing. Even staying with someone forever is no guarantee of experiencing lasting love. But why do people really fall out of love? Is there anything we can do to make love stay? Do some of us give up too easily? To understand the phenomenon of love’s end, we asked the experts’ opinions on the subject. Here are the top three reasons they shared with us:
1. A distancing “Wave” can topple a good thing if you let it. Ken Page, psychotherapist and author of the Finding Love blog for Psychology Today and founder of the Deeper Dating website, has identified a phenomenon that can destroy new love: “The ‘Wave’ occurs when we unconsciously push a caring and available person away by inwardly diminishing his or her worth.” Think about how Carrie Bradshaw behaved when she first started dating Aidan Shaw: Aidan was “too available” and Carrie freaked because she wasn’t used to being with someone so open....
“When someone is available and decent,” Page explains, “something inside us knows [this person] can get to our nest, our soul — the place where we care the most and can be hurt the most. And our unconscious gets panicked.” If you find yourself breaking up with someone awesome for no good reason, check yourself; you might be acting out of fear. After all, real love is a big deal. It involves a leap of faith, and that can be a scary thing. Those who give in to the Wave fall out of love before they even give themselves a chance to fall properly in love, and that’s kind of sad.
2. Unwillingness to discuss relationship problems. OK, let’s say you’ve taken that leap and you’re in a long-term, committed relationship. Good for you! Now, don’t forget to communicate with your partner regularly. Guy Winch, Ph.D., author of The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem, says that people fall out of love because they don’t talk through their relationship peeves with each other: “Research shows that couples who are able to voice complaints well and discuss them productively have greater marital satisfaction and much lower divorce rates than couples who are unable to do so.” If you’re in a newer relationship, iron out the kinks early on to keep love alive over the long haul. “It is much easier to address issues earlier in a relationship than later, just as it is much harder to mold cement once it has dried and hardened,” explains Winch.
The key word here, however, is “productively.” It usually doesn’t help to fight and blame your partner for all of the relationship’s problems. Dr. Fran Praver, author of The New Science of Love: How Understanding Your Brain’s Wiring Can Help Rekindle Your Relationship, says that “when couples play the blame game, they wage a war of being right where both parties lose. It may seem like a strong personality to insist on being right, but in fact ‘rightness’ is born out of rigidity and weakness, not strength.” Couples fall out of love when they can’t find a way to make the partnership good for both people involved. Creativity and open minds are the stuff of lasting love; silence and blaming, though? Not so much.
3. People change or get bored with each other. April Masini, the relationship expert behind AskApril.com and author of Romantic Date Ideas, says: “Over time, people can change — or more often, they become who they really are. Someone who loved his steady business career may suddenly realize he always wanted to be a stand-up comedian and throw caution to the wind to chase his dreams.” People evolve; circumstances change — and sometimes, relationships can’t be sustained as a result. But if you really know your partner down to the core, the changes won’t be as shocking. “The kind of change that leads to love lost is always about a buried desire to be someone that’s repressed inside,” continues Masini. “It’s important to really know your partner to avoid this lost-love syndrome.” In other words, don’t neglect someone you care about. You cannot get to know a person thoroughly right away — rather, it’s a lifelong journey. There’s a whole universe inside the person you fell for, and if you don’t check in with that individual on a regular basis, you could wake up one day hearing this: “I’m unhappy. I’m moving to another country to start my life over fresh, and you’re not invited.”
If you find yourself perusing faraway rental homes and thinking, “He’s changed!” or “I’m just so bored with her,” think about holding on and digging a little deeper first. “At a certain point in a relationship, according to Imago Couples Therapy,” says Page, “each partner feels that the thing they most need from their partner is the very thing that their partner can’t give. At that point, many people feel that the relationship has run its course and they leave. The reality, however, is much different. This can be the beginning phase of an entirely new level of intimacy, if they each decide to learn to grow and try to give that partner what [he or she needs most].”
Then again, love doesn’t necessarily have to last decades (or a lifetime) to matter. Romantic relationships can also evolve into dear friendships — and that’s perfectly fine. Dr. Lissa Coffey, author of the book, Closure and the Law of Relationship: Endings as New Beginnings, agrees. “We may come together for a certain period of time to help each other learn and grow, and when that has been accomplished, we’ve gotten everything we were meant to get out of the relationship. Then it changes,” Coffey explains. “It doesn’t have to end; it’s just redefined.”
2012 MindScApe Entertainment(R). The J Rag Blog.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
5 Signs Of Relationship Problems
There are times in all romantic relationships when things don't run smoothly and can be difficult to understand--even in the most ideal of circumstances. Although relationships have their ups and downs, there are things you can both do that can minimize problems. Below are five of the most common relationship problems along with solutions that can help you have a better relationship.
1. Communication
The foundation and relative success of every relationship you maintain in life is built on communication; however, it is also the most common relationship problem. All relationship problems stem from poor communication skills, but if you want your relationship to work, you need to learn how to talk and listen properly to your partner.
It's no secret--men and women have very different communication styles; however, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her, as well as relate to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. So, block off an hour or two for quality time with her and make the effort after a long day to discuss work, friends, your relationship, etc..
2. Sex
Their comes a time in any sexual relationship when you may feel you are not getting what you want or that you are not satisfying your woman. Even couples who love each other can be incompatible sexually. Compounding these problems is the fact that men and women alike are sorely lacking in sex education and sexual self-awareness.
If sitting down together and having a talk session about improving your sex life is too difficult, you may find that it is easier for you to show your partner what you want done differently or guide your partner during lovemaking. You may even find that your partner might have suggestions of her own. If you keep an open mind and attitude, you can avoid offending her and actually improve both of your styles and skills in the bedroom.
3. Not prioritizing your relationship
You can schedule time for sports, eating and going out with the fellas, don't you? So why should scheduling quality time with your woman be any different? Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life and keep her interested in the relationship by doing things like making gestures of appreciation, compliment her, contacting her throughout the day, and showing genuine interest in her.
4. Trust
Trust is an essential part of any relationship. Ask yourself if there are certain behaviors or unresolved issues that are causing you and your partner not to trust each other? You and your partner can resolve trust issues by making a sincere effort to be open and truthful with each other, letting go of past grievances and doing simple things like being consistent, calling when you say you will, respecting each others boundaries and not overreacting when things go wrong.
5. Moving too fast
Some couples can go from casual to serious very quickly because they have so much in common or because of great sex. Some people move so quickly in new relationships that they become blinded by what they believe is true love or they're simply tired of being alone and would rather be with anyone to feel loved.
Whatever the reason, some relationships get way too serious way too fast and if you find yourself in such a situation, you might start looking for ways to take it down a notch. Doing things like group dating, avoiding spending the night at her place or inviting her to spend the night at yours and making post-date plans will keep you from spending all of your free time with her will make things feel a little less serious--at least for the time being.
1. Communication
The foundation and relative success of every relationship you maintain in life is built on communication; however, it is also the most common relationship problem. All relationship problems stem from poor communication skills, but if you want your relationship to work, you need to learn how to talk and listen properly to your partner.
It's no secret--men and women have very different communication styles; however, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her, as well as relate to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. So, block off an hour or two for quality time with her and make the effort after a long day to discuss work, friends, your relationship, etc..
2. Sex
Their comes a time in any sexual relationship when you may feel you are not getting what you want or that you are not satisfying your woman. Even couples who love each other can be incompatible sexually. Compounding these problems is the fact that men and women alike are sorely lacking in sex education and sexual self-awareness.
If sitting down together and having a talk session about improving your sex life is too difficult, you may find that it is easier for you to show your partner what you want done differently or guide your partner during lovemaking. You may even find that your partner might have suggestions of her own. If you keep an open mind and attitude, you can avoid offending her and actually improve both of your styles and skills in the bedroom.
3. Not prioritizing your relationship
You can schedule time for sports, eating and going out with the fellas, don't you? So why should scheduling quality time with your woman be any different? Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life and keep her interested in the relationship by doing things like making gestures of appreciation, compliment her, contacting her throughout the day, and showing genuine interest in her.
4. Trust
Trust is an essential part of any relationship. Ask yourself if there are certain behaviors or unresolved issues that are causing you and your partner not to trust each other? You and your partner can resolve trust issues by making a sincere effort to be open and truthful with each other, letting go of past grievances and doing simple things like being consistent, calling when you say you will, respecting each others boundaries and not overreacting when things go wrong.
5. Moving too fast
Some couples can go from casual to serious very quickly because they have so much in common or because of great sex. Some people move so quickly in new relationships that they become blinded by what they believe is true love or they're simply tired of being alone and would rather be with anyone to feel loved.
Whatever the reason, some relationships get way too serious way too fast and if you find yourself in such a situation, you might start looking for ways to take it down a notch. Doing things like group dating, avoiding spending the night at her place or inviting her to spend the night at yours and making post-date plans will keep you from spending all of your free time with her will make things feel a little less serious--at least for the time being.
Understanding Her Body Language
Signs of Negative Body Language
So you finally landed a date with a hot girl you thought you'd never have a chance with; however, you didn't notice that by her backing away from you, using her hand as a subtle barrier to keep you at bay, and fanning the air with her "goodbye" message, her body contradicted every kind word her lips said to you.
Still, you were excited about all the "possibilities" -- until two days later, when you made the promised phone call to her and you heard, "You know, I don't think we really have enough in common to see each other again." Where did that come from? Didn't she say it would be great if you called?
When it comes to understanding a woman, what she's doing is just as important as what she's saying -- sometimes more so. Maybe she didn't consciously know she had reservations about seeing you until much later, but her body knew from the get-go and was letting you know with key rejection signals. And since you weren't reading her completely, you wound up getting blindsided.
Understanding a woman's body language will give you a better idea of what she's really thinking and feeling along with saving you a lot of unnecessary heartache. So, the next time you meet a woman you're interested in, watch for the following 3 physical signs that she's not into you so you'll know when you need to change your approach and move on to someone else.
1. Disinterest
If your date smiles with her mouth but not her eyes and keeps looking away while you speak to her, she's probably not interested and is just trying to be polite and not lead you on. Other signs of disinterest may include her tapping or drumming her fingers, slapping a fake smile on her face without laughing, leaning away from you and just flat out making excuses to leave as soon as possible.
2. She avoids physical proximity
If a woman is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you. However, if a woman keeps you at arm's length at all times, she's defensive, guarded and may also be protecting her personal space, so make sure you don't get too close.
3. Anger
If she flays her hands instantaneously when demonstrating a point or makes sudden motions when emphasizing some matters, your presence is agitating her--in a bad way. If her hands are placed on her hips or she's swinging her foot in your direction, consider that she's actually making a kicking motion towards you--which are both very, very bad signs.
If a woman is displaying these 3 signs, she's just not feeling it and there's really little point in pursuing this cold fish.
So you finally landed a date with a hot girl you thought you'd never have a chance with; however, you didn't notice that by her backing away from you, using her hand as a subtle barrier to keep you at bay, and fanning the air with her "goodbye" message, her body contradicted every kind word her lips said to you.
Still, you were excited about all the "possibilities" -- until two days later, when you made the promised phone call to her and you heard, "You know, I don't think we really have enough in common to see each other again." Where did that come from? Didn't she say it would be great if you called?
When it comes to understanding a woman, what she's doing is just as important as what she's saying -- sometimes more so. Maybe she didn't consciously know she had reservations about seeing you until much later, but her body knew from the get-go and was letting you know with key rejection signals. And since you weren't reading her completely, you wound up getting blindsided.
Understanding a woman's body language will give you a better idea of what she's really thinking and feeling along with saving you a lot of unnecessary heartache. So, the next time you meet a woman you're interested in, watch for the following 3 physical signs that she's not into you so you'll know when you need to change your approach and move on to someone else.
1. Disinterest
If your date smiles with her mouth but not her eyes and keeps looking away while you speak to her, she's probably not interested and is just trying to be polite and not lead you on. Other signs of disinterest may include her tapping or drumming her fingers, slapping a fake smile on her face without laughing, leaning away from you and just flat out making excuses to leave as soon as possible.
2. She avoids physical proximity
If a woman is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you. However, if a woman keeps you at arm's length at all times, she's defensive, guarded and may also be protecting her personal space, so make sure you don't get too close.
3. Anger
If she flays her hands instantaneously when demonstrating a point or makes sudden motions when emphasizing some matters, your presence is agitating her--in a bad way. If her hands are placed on her hips or she's swinging her foot in your direction, consider that she's actually making a kicking motion towards you--which are both very, very bad signs.
If a woman is displaying these 3 signs, she's just not feeling it and there's really little point in pursuing this cold fish.
The Importance Of Making A Woman Laugh
The Importance of Making Women Laugh
Is there anything more attractive than a guy who can make women laugh? Using humor can relieve the nervous tension of first date jitters and level the ground between you, negate worries about "not being or looking good enough" and draw a man and a woman closer together. Even though some women fall for a guy's impressive job, savings account or his sexy body, the ability to make them laugh is a renowned dating and flirting strategy that works every time--if you know how to use it right.
Whether you realize it or not, humor is critical to your success with women. In fact, a sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on. A woman who finds herself laughing along with your great sense of humor is a girl who is more likely to fall for your charms. Another key component of laughter is that when you’re funny around women, it presents you as the kind of guy who’s fun to be with, and if a woman is really interested romantically, she'll laugh at your jokes--even if they aren't funny!
Although laughter is a very effective dating technique, many guys get it completely wrong when they try to be funny around women. Guys who are desperately trying to seek a woman's approval do things like slap-sticky humor or act like a clown, making it obvious that they're trying to make her laugh and coming across as goofy or dorky. Not good.
In order to get a woman laughing and attracted at the same time, you have to get an idea as to what she may find amusing and tease her; however, this doesn't mean be a jerk. It means using gestures, facial expressions and voice tone to create a fun and flirty vibe and assume familiarity with her by doing things like mocking her voice, telling her funny jokes and stories and using your humor to break the touch barrier while making her laugh at the same time.
The only downside to this strategy is that when you're only teasing and making women laugh, you're not showing them the other parts of your personality. Humor is an effective tool, don’t get me wrong, but don’t rely on it to create attraction all by itself. When meeting new women, you don’t necessarily want to kick off every discussion with a joke. Instead, learn a little bit about the woman first and ask her questions, then once you’ve got her talking, you will gain access to more of her personality and seem like a more well-rounded and interesting type of guy.
When it comes to creating attraction, humor can be your most effective tool when you're talking to a woman. Not only will showing off your great sense of humor get a girl to laugh--it's bound to ensure that both of you enjoy your time spent together
Is there anything more attractive than a guy who can make women laugh? Using humor can relieve the nervous tension of first date jitters and level the ground between you, negate worries about "not being or looking good enough" and draw a man and a woman closer together. Even though some women fall for a guy's impressive job, savings account or his sexy body, the ability to make them laugh is a renowned dating and flirting strategy that works every time--if you know how to use it right.
Whether you realize it or not, humor is critical to your success with women. In fact, a sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on. A woman who finds herself laughing along with your great sense of humor is a girl who is more likely to fall for your charms. Another key component of laughter is that when you’re funny around women, it presents you as the kind of guy who’s fun to be with, and if a woman is really interested romantically, she'll laugh at your jokes--even if they aren't funny!
Although laughter is a very effective dating technique, many guys get it completely wrong when they try to be funny around women. Guys who are desperately trying to seek a woman's approval do things like slap-sticky humor or act like a clown, making it obvious that they're trying to make her laugh and coming across as goofy or dorky. Not good.
In order to get a woman laughing and attracted at the same time, you have to get an idea as to what she may find amusing and tease her; however, this doesn't mean be a jerk. It means using gestures, facial expressions and voice tone to create a fun and flirty vibe and assume familiarity with her by doing things like mocking her voice, telling her funny jokes and stories and using your humor to break the touch barrier while making her laugh at the same time.
The only downside to this strategy is that when you're only teasing and making women laugh, you're not showing them the other parts of your personality. Humor is an effective tool, don’t get me wrong, but don’t rely on it to create attraction all by itself. When meeting new women, you don’t necessarily want to kick off every discussion with a joke. Instead, learn a little bit about the woman first and ask her questions, then once you’ve got her talking, you will gain access to more of her personality and seem like a more well-rounded and interesting type of guy.
When it comes to creating attraction, humor can be your most effective tool when you're talking to a woman. Not only will showing off your great sense of humor get a girl to laugh--it's bound to ensure that both of you enjoy your time spent together
Dating A Single Parent
Dating a Woman with a Child, or A Man with a Child.... Rules really apply both ways.... Both go in one and the same..... Dating a Single Parent can be a Challange.... Or may be thought to be a Challange.....
Few dating scenarios can prepare you for the challenge of dating a single mother. The mere fact that she is a mother should tell you that she has experience with men. The single mother is confident of her relationship needs and will tell you upfront what she expects and wants from you. If you are considering dating a single mother, there are a few things you should know.
First, you must realize that when dating single mothers, there is more to the equation than the two of you-there is a child or children to consider too. Dating single parents can be equally challenging for someone who has never had their own children as it is for single mothers. In single parenting, her child will be the main recipient of her love. Can you deal with second place in her life?
As you're learning how to date single moms, be prepared for some unusual questions which may be a little personal. These questions are perfectly normal, especially if the single mother you're with is planning on introducing you to her children. They need to know as much as possible about you and your life. On the other hand, there are some instances where single mothers are nothing more than desperate women looking for a man to be the father to their children, to help raise them and care for them, to pay the bills, and to give her freedom from the kids for awhile.
Talking about her ex-husband or father of her children shouldn't be seen as inappropriate as long as you only discuss the things you really need to know. You have a right to know if the ex-partner is still an active presence in her life, either as a custodial parent or friend or a deranged stalker, a jealous ex-husband or a deadbeat father who isn't living up to his responsibilities.
When dealing with her children, expect some resistance and even some resentment no matter how sincere and likeable you are. Children of single mothers may have a tremendous amount of anxiety about meeting their mother's new boyfriend and could hate you and see you are a threat to their father, whether you intend to be or not. Don't expect too much too soon from her children. Exercise patience and compassion from the beginning and give her some time to sit with her older children and tell them all how good you are to her.
There could be a significant reward to dating a single mother. She could end up as the most devoted and loving woman you ever meet. Dating a single mother may be a slow and steady process but well worth it in the end
Few dating scenarios can prepare you for the challenge of dating a single mother. The mere fact that she is a mother should tell you that she has experience with men. The single mother is confident of her relationship needs and will tell you upfront what she expects and wants from you. If you are considering dating a single mother, there are a few things you should know.
First, you must realize that when dating single mothers, there is more to the equation than the two of you-there is a child or children to consider too. Dating single parents can be equally challenging for someone who has never had their own children as it is for single mothers. In single parenting, her child will be the main recipient of her love. Can you deal with second place in her life?
As you're learning how to date single moms, be prepared for some unusual questions which may be a little personal. These questions are perfectly normal, especially if the single mother you're with is planning on introducing you to her children. They need to know as much as possible about you and your life. On the other hand, there are some instances where single mothers are nothing more than desperate women looking for a man to be the father to their children, to help raise them and care for them, to pay the bills, and to give her freedom from the kids for awhile.
Talking about her ex-husband or father of her children shouldn't be seen as inappropriate as long as you only discuss the things you really need to know. You have a right to know if the ex-partner is still an active presence in her life, either as a custodial parent or friend or a deranged stalker, a jealous ex-husband or a deadbeat father who isn't living up to his responsibilities.
When dealing with her children, expect some resistance and even some resentment no matter how sincere and likeable you are. Children of single mothers may have a tremendous amount of anxiety about meeting their mother's new boyfriend and could hate you and see you are a threat to their father, whether you intend to be or not. Don't expect too much too soon from her children. Exercise patience and compassion from the beginning and give her some time to sit with her older children and tell them all how good you are to her.
There could be a significant reward to dating a single mother. She could end up as the most devoted and loving woman you ever meet. Dating a single mother may be a slow and steady process but well worth it in the end
5 Places Women Want To Be Touched
The largest amount of nerve endings may be packed into the vagina, breasts and butt, but women have pleasure sensors all over their bodies. Start making your woman feel special and get her in the mood by touching these often-neglected body parts during foreplay and sex, or just giving her some pleasure after a hard day.
1. Feet
There are few better ways to help her relax than to give her feet a good rub, especially if her job requires her to be on them all day. Do it right and grab some massage oil or lotion. Pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too.
2. Hair
Running your hands gently through her hair is a surefire way to send tingles down her spine. Let your fingers massage circles from her temples to the nape of her neck and she’ll be putty in your hands.
3. Small of her back
When you’re alone, kissing or licking down her spine to end up with a kiss on the small of her back will get her heart racing.
4. Earlobes
Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are very sensitive and most women thoroughly enjoy the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. You can nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but avoid jamming your tongue inside her ear.
5. Inner thighs
Touching her inner thighs without venturing into the vaginal area will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get her in the mood. Use your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs, getting excruciatingly close to her ultimate pleasure spot, but pull back before going all the way.
1. Feet
There are few better ways to help her relax than to give her feet a good rub, especially if her job requires her to be on them all day. Do it right and grab some massage oil or lotion. Pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too.
2. Hair
Running your hands gently through her hair is a surefire way to send tingles down her spine. Let your fingers massage circles from her temples to the nape of her neck and she’ll be putty in your hands.
3. Small of her back
When you’re alone, kissing or licking down her spine to end up with a kiss on the small of her back will get her heart racing.
4. Earlobes
Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are very sensitive and most women thoroughly enjoy the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. You can nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but avoid jamming your tongue inside her ear.
5. Inner thighs
Touching her inner thighs without venturing into the vaginal area will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get her in the mood. Use your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs, getting excruciatingly close to her ultimate pleasure spot, but pull back before going all the way.
5 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life
Ways to Improve Your Sex Life
A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. Although every relationship goes through its sexual ups and downs along with work, bills and other daily stressors, it's easy to see how sex can slip off your relationship radar. Whatever your situation, you must remember that physical intimacy is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship because it unites partners physically, emotionally and spiritually. So if you feel like you and your partner may be in a sexual rut, here are some key components needed to spark that awesome sex life you have always desired.
1. Create Passion
Men and women alike need to feel the passion and raw emotion that comes with incredible sexual experiences. But to keep the passion, you must be willing to put out the effort. Sex isn't a race, so take time to explore your partner and make sure that you are connecting on a more intimate level. Use anticipation as an aphrodisiac. Tell her what you want to do with each section of her exposed skin. Instead of tearing her clothes off, take your time, explore her body and use different types of foreplay. Take the time to explore and play with her body to find out what kind of touch sends her down the road into incredible sex.
2. Be Spontaneous
There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so use your imagination and come up with as many new positions as you desire. Don't be afraid to mix things up in bed. Furthermore, there is no rule that says that you have to have sex at 8:00pm every Wednesday--so, change up your normal routine. There is nothing that can turn a woman on more than taking sex out of the bedroom and into other areas, and simply changing locations can dramatically improve your love life.The same old place leads to the same old patterns, so explore some new erogenous areas like the kitchen, living room, etc... Also, don't be afraid of new positions or trying out a new toy. To spice things up further, stepping out of the role of being "yourself" and role playing can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently. This may be awkward at first, but give it an honest try. You might just like it.
3. Be Open About Your Needs
After being in a relationship for a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is rarely true. If you or your partner's needs aren't being met between the sheets, it's time to have a conversation about it. There is always something you haven't tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently. Being open and honest with each other about your fantasies and desires can bring the passion to a whole new level. If you don't communicate, you'll never know or be able to get her "there."
4. Be Responsible
Practicing safe and responsible sex is also a key to happy sex life. Letting your partner know that you are prepared for the occasion, wherever it should arise, can also create the element of excitement and evoke thoughts of desire. This also shows that you love and respect your partner enough to make sure she stays healthy.
A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. Although every relationship goes through its sexual ups and downs along with work, bills and other daily stressors, it's easy to see how sex can slip off your relationship radar. Whatever your situation, you must remember that physical intimacy is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship because it unites partners physically, emotionally and spiritually. So if you feel like you and your partner may be in a sexual rut, here are some key components needed to spark that awesome sex life you have always desired.
1. Create Passion
Men and women alike need to feel the passion and raw emotion that comes with incredible sexual experiences. But to keep the passion, you must be willing to put out the effort. Sex isn't a race, so take time to explore your partner and make sure that you are connecting on a more intimate level. Use anticipation as an aphrodisiac. Tell her what you want to do with each section of her exposed skin. Instead of tearing her clothes off, take your time, explore her body and use different types of foreplay. Take the time to explore and play with her body to find out what kind of touch sends her down the road into incredible sex.
2. Be Spontaneous
There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so use your imagination and come up with as many new positions as you desire. Don't be afraid to mix things up in bed. Furthermore, there is no rule that says that you have to have sex at 8:00pm every Wednesday--so, change up your normal routine. There is nothing that can turn a woman on more than taking sex out of the bedroom and into other areas, and simply changing locations can dramatically improve your love life.The same old place leads to the same old patterns, so explore some new erogenous areas like the kitchen, living room, etc... Also, don't be afraid of new positions or trying out a new toy. To spice things up further, stepping out of the role of being "yourself" and role playing can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently. This may be awkward at first, but give it an honest try. You might just like it.
3. Be Open About Your Needs
After being in a relationship for a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is rarely true. If you or your partner's needs aren't being met between the sheets, it's time to have a conversation about it. There is always something you haven't tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently. Being open and honest with each other about your fantasies and desires can bring the passion to a whole new level. If you don't communicate, you'll never know or be able to get her "there."
4. Be Responsible
Practicing safe and responsible sex is also a key to happy sex life. Letting your partner know that you are prepared for the occasion, wherever it should arise, can also create the element of excitement and evoke thoughts of desire. This also shows that you love and respect your partner enough to make sure she stays healthy.
5 Reasons To Get Married
Getting married is often the biggest event of a person’s life. It means being committed to one person for the rest of your life, and while there are plenty of good reasons not to get married, there are many good reasons FOR marriage. If you're not sure that you are ready to take that big step, these five solid reasons to get married will help you decide.
1. Marriage means more sexual fulfillment
While single guys are excited by having one-night stands and the thrill of constantly chasing different women, married men are home having sex with their wives. Married men have more sex than single men, have a better feel for their partner's bodies, have an absence of guilt, are more aware of their partner's fantasies and report a higher rate of sexual satisfaction than single counterparts who find themselves bouncing from girl to girl.
2. Marriage gives you a legal platform to start a family
While it's pretty obvious you don't need to be married to have kids, but marriage is still the the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family and keeping your bloodline going.
3. Marriage can provide more financial benefits
There are numerous financial benefits associated with marriage to include tax brеаkѕ, health insurance plans аnԁ οthеr financial benefits. In a marriage where both partners are working, it can be easier to afford the things you could never afford on your own; it means a better home, a better car, a better vacation, etc...Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples.
4. Marriage can improve your health
Research shows that men who are married engage in fewer risky behaviors, like binge drinking or dangerous hobbies and careers. Married men also eat healthier, visit the doctor more often and may have better immune systems as well, either from support or from nagging to monitor things like blood pressure, cholesterol, weight, etc….
5. Marriage gives you a higher rate of happiness
A good marriage offers a man the kind of stability and support that allows him to succeed in all other aspects of life. Many studies have shown that men are higher achieving when they are married, and having a good wife can bring out the best in you, challenge you to be the best version of yourself and help you learn the true meaning of self-sacrifice and compromise.
Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama and emotional baggage from crazy women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring woman?
1. Marriage means more sexual fulfillment
While single guys are excited by having one-night stands and the thrill of constantly chasing different women, married men are home having sex with their wives. Married men have more sex than single men, have a better feel for their partner's bodies, have an absence of guilt, are more aware of their partner's fantasies and report a higher rate of sexual satisfaction than single counterparts who find themselves bouncing from girl to girl.
2. Marriage gives you a legal platform to start a family
While it's pretty obvious you don't need to be married to have kids, but marriage is still the the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family and keeping your bloodline going.
3. Marriage can provide more financial benefits
There are numerous financial benefits associated with marriage to include tax brеаkѕ, health insurance plans аnԁ οthеr financial benefits. In a marriage where both partners are working, it can be easier to afford the things you could never afford on your own; it means a better home, a better car, a better vacation, etc...Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples.
4. Marriage can improve your health
Research shows that men who are married engage in fewer risky behaviors, like binge drinking or dangerous hobbies and careers. Married men also eat healthier, visit the doctor more often and may have better immune systems as well, either from support or from nagging to monitor things like blood pressure, cholesterol, weight, etc….
5. Marriage gives you a higher rate of happiness
A good marriage offers a man the kind of stability and support that allows him to succeed in all other aspects of life. Many studies have shown that men are higher achieving when they are married, and having a good wife can bring out the best in you, challenge you to be the best version of yourself and help you learn the true meaning of self-sacrifice and compromise.
Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama and emotional baggage from crazy women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring woman?
10 Female Turn-Ons
Top 10: Female Turn Ons
Knowing what turns a woman on is one of the most important keys to a establishing and maintaining a good relationship. Unfortunately, most men do not know the true art of turning a woman on and fail when it comes to doing it the right way. The following is a list of the most wanted male traits that can turn a woman on and get her going.
1. Being able to make her feel like a woman
The majority of women are searching for an appealing man who recognizes how to treat his lady the right way. A man who respects a woman and appreciates her for who she is has the power to make her weak in the knees. Make her feel special, and she’ll go to the ends of the earth for you.
2. Being able to take charge
Women want men who know what they want and who will stand up for themselves, make their own decisions and take charge of any situation. Being a man and giving a woman a feeling of protection is endearing as well as arousing.
3. Being able to say "I'm sorry"
Being able to say "I'm sorry" when you are clearly at fault is a definite turn on for women. A simple apology when deserved expresses a deep kind of respect for her and shows that you are emotionally fair and considerate.
4. Knowing how to touch her
This is a HUGE part of turning a girl on. Most guys fail to realize the places women want to be touched. A majority of women prefer soft, tender touches and strokes all over their body until they get fully aroused. So learn some good massage techniques and gently try a few on her head, neck and shoulders to increase her sexual responsiveness.
5. Being able to hold your own
Women (especially successful ones) look for men who won't take them for granted, so financial stability is a huge turn-on for them. Women feel comfortable with a man who is ambitious and passionate about life and can support himself. Being self-sufficient reassures a woman that she will not have to handle everything in a relationship.
6. Being well groomed
A man who is well groomed holds an irresistible attraction to women. Women love a guy that can throw together a nice outfit with coordinating shoes, and who takes the time to style his hair and shave his face.
7. Being a gentleman
Chivalry isn't dead, and it s still very much appreciated by women. Gestures, like opening doors, letting her go in ahead of you, standing slightly when she leaves the table and helping her with her jacket, are all important to women.
8. Having a great body
Women are not nearly as fixated on this one as men are, but they are still turned on by a man with a great body. A nice set of pecs along with well-defined biceps and broad shoulders are part of the whole image women have conjured up in their fantasy-filled daydreams. A good athletic figure is not only a sign of strength and masculinity; it also reveals that you're keeping yourself up.
9. Being intelligent with a sense of humor
Women love to be with men who are smart and can make them smile and laugh. Laughter is really important in a woman's life and when you can hold an intelligent conversation and make her laugh, you give the impression that you are a sociable, attractive and humorous man. Most women want to be stimulated by someone who can tell a good joke and can challenge them intellectually.
10. Being a great kisser
Passionate kisses are love magnets that linger in a woman’s mind. Keep your kisses exciting by being spontaneous and by varying their intensity and duration. For most women, this deepens the connection in a relationship and supercharges their sex drive.
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Choosing The Right Cologne
Choosing the Right Cologne
Just as a clean shave, a pressed suit and a great haircut help make the man, choosing the right cologne fragrance is as equally important. Finding the right scent to complement your lifestyle can enhance your presence in a room or group and also cause women to think of you as that great-smelling guy they have to have. So how do you begin looking for the right cologne fragrance that will attract the ladies and best suit your lifestyle?
Choosing the right scent is not always about what smells good in a magazine or using the same scents your dad use to wear. What you think smells good might be the wrong scent for you to use because of the way a particular fragrance changes from guy to guy, as a cologne's scent is the product of chemical reactions between the skin and the cologne's ingredients. Therefore, you have to find a good cologne that not only smells right on you, but also makes you smell unique and suits your lifestyle.
The first step in knowing how to find your signature scent is to understand what type of skin you have --whether it’s sensitive, oily or dry. Guys with dry skin should opt for stronger fragrances that are formulated to last longer in drier, colder times, thereby reducing the need for frequent reapplication which will further dry out and damage the skin. When it comes to buying cologne for sensitive skin, follow the same rules for dry skin, but also look for colognes that list all-natural ingredients free from synthetic fragrances. Oily skin responds best to cologne that is developed for summertime wear (lighter scents) to help balance out the stronger natural odors that your skin is secreting.
Almost every cologne designed for men is based on either strong notes of musk, wood, citrus or floral-based water. So when you look for a new fragrance, choose a base scent you feel comfortable wearing that also accentuates your own unique style and personality. Also, consider your lifestyle and the setting in which you plan to wear it. For example, if you’re in close contact with colleagues at the office on a regular basis, you’ll want to avoid anything that others could find overpowering or offensive. On the other hand, a scent that’s fit for the office is not appropriate for a night out at the clubs, which calls for a stronger scent.
Once you’ve played around in the fragrance department, ask a few women you know about the scents you’ve tried. If you're still getting less than desired results from your own selections, take your woman or a close female friend you trust to go with you and let her help you find the right scent for you with brutal honesty. After all, you’re not wearing a fragrance to please yourself, but to enhance your presence and to be appealing to the women who ultimately have the final say in what smells good on you.
Once you've found your signature scents, remember to pay close attention to how much you apply. Contrary to popular belief, putting on more of any scent is not the answer and no one, especially women, should ever smell you before they see you enter a room or round a corner. Simply apply a little to your neck, torso and the wrists to make the fragrance mix with your body's scent and radiate outward more naturally as the hours pass.
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Just as a clean shave, a pressed suit and a great haircut help make the man, choosing the right cologne fragrance is as equally important. Finding the right scent to complement your lifestyle can enhance your presence in a room or group and also cause women to think of you as that great-smelling guy they have to have. So how do you begin looking for the right cologne fragrance that will attract the ladies and best suit your lifestyle?
Choosing the right scent is not always about what smells good in a magazine or using the same scents your dad use to wear. What you think smells good might be the wrong scent for you to use because of the way a particular fragrance changes from guy to guy, as a cologne's scent is the product of chemical reactions between the skin and the cologne's ingredients. Therefore, you have to find a good cologne that not only smells right on you, but also makes you smell unique and suits your lifestyle.
The first step in knowing how to find your signature scent is to understand what type of skin you have --whether it’s sensitive, oily or dry. Guys with dry skin should opt for stronger fragrances that are formulated to last longer in drier, colder times, thereby reducing the need for frequent reapplication which will further dry out and damage the skin. When it comes to buying cologne for sensitive skin, follow the same rules for dry skin, but also look for colognes that list all-natural ingredients free from synthetic fragrances. Oily skin responds best to cologne that is developed for summertime wear (lighter scents) to help balance out the stronger natural odors that your skin is secreting.
Almost every cologne designed for men is based on either strong notes of musk, wood, citrus or floral-based water. So when you look for a new fragrance, choose a base scent you feel comfortable wearing that also accentuates your own unique style and personality. Also, consider your lifestyle and the setting in which you plan to wear it. For example, if you’re in close contact with colleagues at the office on a regular basis, you’ll want to avoid anything that others could find overpowering or offensive. On the other hand, a scent that’s fit for the office is not appropriate for a night out at the clubs, which calls for a stronger scent.
Once you’ve played around in the fragrance department, ask a few women you know about the scents you’ve tried. If you're still getting less than desired results from your own selections, take your woman or a close female friend you trust to go with you and let her help you find the right scent for you with brutal honesty. After all, you’re not wearing a fragrance to please yourself, but to enhance your presence and to be appealing to the women who ultimately have the final say in what smells good on you.
Once you've found your signature scents, remember to pay close attention to how much you apply. Contrary to popular belief, putting on more of any scent is not the answer and no one, especially women, should ever smell you before they see you enter a room or round a corner. Simply apply a little to your neck, torso and the wrists to make the fragrance mix with your body's scent and radiate outward more naturally as the hours pass.
~~ The J RagTv NetWork.
10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed
Top 10: Mistakes Men Make in Bed
Even the most experienced of men may make a mistake or two in the bedroom from time to time and some end up fumbling more times than their favorite football team. It's up to you to keep things interesting and to avoid making sexual errors that irritate women, so if you steer clear of the following 10 behaviors, you will be headed toward being the kind of lover that attracts women like magnets and keeps them coming back for more.
1. Not returning sexual favors
Women often complain about men who gladly accept oral pleasuring, but never return the favor. Being a selfish lover can be an intimacy killer because one partner cannot be expected to continually please the other while not being pleasured themselves. Although you may get incredible sexual gratification from your lover's abilities, just remember that she needs some attention too.
2. Insufficient foreplay
At one time or another, we've all experienced a moment so passionate that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable; however, getting caught up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her out of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis. The thing that makes sex incredible for a woman is anticipation and being sexually teased, and insufficient foreplay can undermine the entire act of sex. Take your time and master the art of foreplay in order to drive your woman wild.
3. Being silent and emotionless
Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in bed. Men generally believe that remaining silent during the sex is a better option than speaking out what they desire, but if you are not talking during lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she can't be totally fulfilled. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, "That feels so good," will encourage her.
4. Assuming she's satisfied
Concentrating solely on your own sexual gratification is likely to leave your lover feeling underwhelmed or unsatisfied once you finish. Just because you got off, that doesn't mean that she's satisfied. Remember, a good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he is.
5. Lack of grooming
When you're in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing back and forth across her body isn't so sexy. If there's one thing that turns women off, it's a lover whose personal hygiene isn't up to par. Keeping yourself clean and properly groomed- especially in the more intimate corners of your anatomy - is not just a matter of courtesy, it's a ticket back to the bedroom.
6. Not lasting long enough
This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it. You need to have good penile control to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. If you can't control yourself and end up letting go too soon, spend a lot more time on foreplay. Although it is a debatable topic, most women will be happy if you can last at least 20 minutes.
7. Ignoring her erogenous zones
Most women have more erogenous areas than simply her breasts, nipples, and genitals. Take the time to learn your lover's other “hot” zones, particularly her neck, shoulders, back, buttocks and feet. Focus on her entire body. It will turn her on more and, in turn, increase the chances of her pleasuring you back.
8. Forcing sexual fantasies
Men often commit the mistake of not respecting a woman’s comfort zone, and simply expect women to do just about everything in bed to please them. Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new things in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want her to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is impose your sexual desires and fantasies upon her too soon into the relationship. Remember--real sex is not like sex in adult films, so always try to introduce new positions and reveal fantasies slowly but surely.
9. Thinking what works for one woman works for them all
Men often make assumptions about what a woman's wants based upon what they've done with other women; however, there is a great deal of variation between what different women like in the bedroom as well as their own differing levels of experience and confidence. If you have trouble reading your girlfriend’s responses, there is no harm in asking her directly what she likes. Even if you feel that you do know what will keep her satisfied in bed, constantly giving her a variety of sexual experiences is the fastest way to a varied and fulfilling sex-life.
10. Not kissing her enough
Believe it or not, many men don't kiss the woman they're with when they're having sex -- and that's one of the biggest mistakes to avoid in bed. Women love being kissed because it makes them feel soft, sexy, beautiful and adds the romance that they crave.
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