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Monday, June 18, 2012
"Performing The Magic"
Every step you take on the journey gets you that much closer to your destination. Every purposeful effort you make brings you closer and closer to your goal.
When you are taking intentional, directed action, you are making progress. You are creating the very rewards you seek.
When you become weary, take a moment to remind yourself why you’ve chosen to go where you’ve chosen to go. When you feel a tinge of discouragement, overwhelm it with positive anticipation for the good and valuable place where you’re headed.
Not only can you do it, you are doing it. You are performing the magic of transforming dreams into reality.
What you’re doing is difficult and burdensome in some ways. And yet it is also truly amazing, because you’re creating value that never existed before.
Continue the effort, continue to persist, and continue performing the magic. And delight in the outstanding rewards it brings
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When you are taking intentional, directed action, you are making progress. You are creating the very rewards you seek.
When you become weary, take a moment to remind yourself why you’ve chosen to go where you’ve chosen to go. When you feel a tinge of discouragement, overwhelm it with positive anticipation for the good and valuable place where you’re headed.
Not only can you do it, you are doing it. You are performing the magic of transforming dreams into reality.
What you’re doing is difficult and burdensome in some ways. And yet it is also truly amazing, because you’re creating value that never existed before.
Continue the effort, continue to persist, and continue performing the magic. And delight in the outstanding rewards it brings
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Thursday, May 31, 2012
Monday, April 30, 2012
"Grab The Opportunity"
The problems will only get bigger if you run from them or hide from them. The way to truly make a problem go away is to work through it.
By acknowledging that there’s a problem, you express an initial degree of confidence in your ability to handle it. By digging in and going to work on the problem, you set success in motion.
You don’t want to obsess over the problems, but you don’t want to ignore them either. The best approach is a realistic, confident, active approach.
In each problem there is real opportunity for the creation of meaningful value. So it just makes sense to be eager and enthusiastic and positive about bringing that value to life.
When you deal with difficult problems you must make difficult and painful choices. Yet as painful as those choices may be, ignoring the problem will eventually lead to much, much more pain.
When you spot a problem, get quickly, confidently and effectively out in front of it, and do what you do best. Grab the opportunity that’s in the problem, and be the one who brings that opportunity to life
Read more: http://greatday.com/motivate/120307.html#ixzz1taAFgwLN
By acknowledging that there’s a problem, you express an initial degree of confidence in your ability to handle it. By digging in and going to work on the problem, you set success in motion.
You don’t want to obsess over the problems, but you don’t want to ignore them either. The best approach is a realistic, confident, active approach.
In each problem there is real opportunity for the creation of meaningful value. So it just makes sense to be eager and enthusiastic and positive about bringing that value to life.
When you deal with difficult problems you must make difficult and painful choices. Yet as painful as those choices may be, ignoring the problem will eventually lead to much, much more pain.
When you spot a problem, get quickly, confidently and effectively out in front of it, and do what you do best. Grab the opportunity that’s in the problem, and be the one who brings that opportunity to life
Read more: http://greatday.com/motivate/120307.html#ixzz1taAFgwLN
The Creative Approach
When you’re faced with a tough problem, get creative. When you’re confronted with a difficult challenge, that’s your chance to take a creative approach.
Don’t get your thoughts bogged down in the difficulty of the situation. Instead, get enthusiastic about the creative possibilities.
Don’t get trapped into overanalyzing what’s already been done. Take advantage of the opportunity you now have, and create a completely new approach.
You never have to be stopped by those who say it can’t be done. With a positive creative approach, it can indeed be done.
Step back, give yourself some perspective, and open your mind to all the possibilities, even the ones that seem outrageous. When you’re confident that you’ll come up with a creative solution, you will.
History is filled with examples of people who have used creativity to turn negative situations into positive value. Get creative, and you can do the same.
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Don’t get your thoughts bogged down in the difficulty of the situation. Instead, get enthusiastic about the creative possibilities.
Don’t get trapped into overanalyzing what’s already been done. Take advantage of the opportunity you now have, and create a completely new approach.
You never have to be stopped by those who say it can’t be done. With a positive creative approach, it can indeed be done.
Step back, give yourself some perspective, and open your mind to all the possibilities, even the ones that seem outrageous. When you’re confident that you’ll come up with a creative solution, you will.
History is filled with examples of people who have used creativity to turn negative situations into positive value. Get creative, and you can do the same.
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Open Ended Experience
What you’re able to do is not a function of what other people think of you or allow you to do. What you’re able to do depends on what you expect of yourself and on what you choose to do with your time.
If you allow others to define you, then you enable them to control you. Choose instead to take full responsibility for your own life, and to do whatever is necessary to bring real fulfillment.
The world will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what is possible and what is not possible. Look beyond the presumptions and limitations that others imagine, and connect with your own highest vision of how life can be.
The fact is, you can achieve what you set your mind and your efforts to achieve, with honor, integrity and joy. Life is an open-ended experience, and the results you achieve come from what you expect to achieve and what you work to achieve.
Certainly, you can be fruitfully guided by the past experiences in your own life and in the lives of others. Yet nothing about what has already been has to stand in the way of the best you can now be.
Focus less on what others think of you, and more on bringing your own unique beauty more fully to life. Make the commitment to live each moment with richness and authentic purpose, and show all of life how very much goodness you’re able to give.
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If you allow others to define you, then you enable them to control you. Choose instead to take full responsibility for your own life, and to do whatever is necessary to bring real fulfillment.
The world will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what is possible and what is not possible. Look beyond the presumptions and limitations that others imagine, and connect with your own highest vision of how life can be.
The fact is, you can achieve what you set your mind and your efforts to achieve, with honor, integrity and joy. Life is an open-ended experience, and the results you achieve come from what you expect to achieve and what you work to achieve.
Certainly, you can be fruitfully guided by the past experiences in your own life and in the lives of others. Yet nothing about what has already been has to stand in the way of the best you can now be.
Focus less on what others think of you, and more on bringing your own unique beauty more fully to life. Make the commitment to live each moment with richness and authentic purpose, and show all of life how very much goodness you’re able to give.
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Take A Step Back
Step back from the loud and pressing concerns of the moment. Step back, get some perspective, and remind yourself of how good life can be.
Many of the things you see as problems would have been considered to be blessings by people in an earlier era. Think of how good you have it, and of how you can make good and fulfilling use of what you do have.
You are able to make a difference, and that ability can literally take you anywhere you wish to go. Though your efforts may be difficult and challenging, those efforts give you some extremely valuable options.
Don’t take those options for granted by letting them sit idle and unused. Instead, take them to heart and consider how you can make life richer and more beautiful by making use of what you have.
Take a step back, and look objectively at where you are. What you will see is the great and wonderful opportunity that is your life.
Now, while you have it, seize that opportunity. Life is always good, because you can always make it better
Read more: http://greatday.com/motivate/120328.html#ixzz1tZyWY8kB
Many of the things you see as problems would have been considered to be blessings by people in an earlier era. Think of how good you have it, and of how you can make good and fulfilling use of what you do have.
You are able to make a difference, and that ability can literally take you anywhere you wish to go. Though your efforts may be difficult and challenging, those efforts give you some extremely valuable options.
Don’t take those options for granted by letting them sit idle and unused. Instead, take them to heart and consider how you can make life richer and more beautiful by making use of what you have.
Take a step back, and look objectively at where you are. What you will see is the great and wonderful opportunity that is your life.
Now, while you have it, seize that opportunity. Life is always good, because you can always make it better
Read more: http://greatday.com/motivate/120328.html#ixzz1tZyWY8kB
Saturday, April 28, 2012
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
"5 Habits That Let You Meet Women"
Women are more approachable and less suspicious when they meet guys through the course of a regular day and in an atmosphere when they feel comfortable and safe. So if you're currently frustrated by the lack of available women in your life, here are 5 positive habits you can learn that will allow you to naturally fit in and get noticed by women.
1. Go places where women hang out
One of the best ways to meet women is to position yourself to be noticed and let them come to you. You have to go to places where women hang out and return to on a regular basis, i.e., health clubs, libraries, yoga classes, cooking classes, special interest groups, etc.. These are places where conversations are easily started and you can casually interact with women and let them get to know you.
2. Maintain a good appearance
Sure, women like men to be men, but they don’t want you to be a caveman. Most good looking women take notice to and find themselves attracted to a man who takes pride in his appearance and takes care of his body. Proper grooming shouldn't be something you only bother with when you're going out; it should be an indispensable part of your routine.
3. Know how to introduce yourself
Here's an area where a lot of men blow it, that's why it's a habit you should start working on.The trick to making the first move and introducing yourself to women is to always exhibit confidence, a good sense of humor and show her that you are self-assured but not pushy. Keep the initial conversation light and breezy and establish a rapport with the woman you're talking to. Refrain from just talking about yourself and concentrate on being a good listener.
4. Offer help and be chivalrous
Chivalry is about respecting women. When you go out to various places, doing things like holding the door for a woman with an armload of groceries or giving up your seat on the bus to an lady shows women that you possess qualities such as courage, honor, and loyalty and that you are decent guy who is worthy of attention. We're not trying to suggest that respecting your elders or opening doors should be done just to meet women, but consider that a beautiful woman could be watching you every time you're rude or curse someone in public or lose your temper.
5. Smile
A man with a smile on his face is more approachable than a man with a frown. Your smile tells women that you're a friendly person who is open, friendly and relaxed on the inside. The act of smiling triggers good feelings in women and can be your best weapon to let them open up to you.
1. Go places where women hang out
One of the best ways to meet women is to position yourself to be noticed and let them come to you. You have to go to places where women hang out and return to on a regular basis, i.e., health clubs, libraries, yoga classes, cooking classes, special interest groups, etc.. These are places where conversations are easily started and you can casually interact with women and let them get to know you.
2. Maintain a good appearance
Sure, women like men to be men, but they don’t want you to be a caveman. Most good looking women take notice to and find themselves attracted to a man who takes pride in his appearance and takes care of his body. Proper grooming shouldn't be something you only bother with when you're going out; it should be an indispensable part of your routine.
3. Know how to introduce yourself
Here's an area where a lot of men blow it, that's why it's a habit you should start working on.The trick to making the first move and introducing yourself to women is to always exhibit confidence, a good sense of humor and show her that you are self-assured but not pushy. Keep the initial conversation light and breezy and establish a rapport with the woman you're talking to. Refrain from just talking about yourself and concentrate on being a good listener.
4. Offer help and be chivalrous
Chivalry is about respecting women. When you go out to various places, doing things like holding the door for a woman with an armload of groceries or giving up your seat on the bus to an lady shows women that you possess qualities such as courage, honor, and loyalty and that you are decent guy who is worthy of attention. We're not trying to suggest that respecting your elders or opening doors should be done just to meet women, but consider that a beautiful woman could be watching you every time you're rude or curse someone in public or lose your temper.
5. Smile
A man with a smile on his face is more approachable than a man with a frown. Your smile tells women that you're a friendly person who is open, friendly and relaxed on the inside. The act of smiling triggers good feelings in women and can be your best weapon to let them open up to you.
Monday, April 23, 2012
Keep it Grown & Sexy
There should never be a time, where its not ok to Keep It Sexy.... Keep that shit hot between you and your girl.... Always!! Tonight when you get home from work, steal a moment of sexiness with your Dude. Or Girl for that matter...... Throw him up against the wall and kiss him forcefully..... Let your lips explore do the Talkin' & Walkin'....... You decide where and for how long.........
Tomorrow morning, call him/her from the shower & ask him/her to grab you a towel. (S)he'll love what (s)he sees as you stand with beads of water streaming down your body. You may have to be late for work.......
Tonight, spontaneously invite him out for dinner. Wear your sexiest outfit with nothing underneath. During dinner, seductively smile, whispering your secret to him. He'll love being your guy....
Take excitement to the max. Strip the duvet off your bed, lay it on the living room floor or in front of the fireplace. When (s)he comes home, be ready wearing only your fragrance & a fluffy blanket.....
Tomorrow morning, call him/her from the shower & ask him/her to grab you a towel. (S)he'll love what (s)he sees as you stand with beads of water streaming down your body. You may have to be late for work.......
Tonight, spontaneously invite him out for dinner. Wear your sexiest outfit with nothing underneath. During dinner, seductively smile, whispering your secret to him. He'll love being your guy....
Take excitement to the max. Strip the duvet off your bed, lay it on the living room floor or in front of the fireplace. When (s)he comes home, be ready wearing only your fragrance & a fluffy blanket.....
Saturday, April 21, 2012
No Fear
Get rid of your fear of approaching that person you find attractive. Don’t wait for a magical way to reduce your fear. There isn’t one. Feel the fear & approach him or her anyways. What’s the worse that can happen? Rejection? We've all been there. You can handle it
To The Next Level
Take excitement to the max. Strip the duvet off your bed, lay it on the living room floor or in front of the fireplace. When (s)he comes home, be ready wearing only your fragrance & a fluffy blanket.......
Monday, April 16, 2012
Being The "Alpha Male"
Alpha Male" is a term used to describe to the guy who is confident, attractive, muscle-bound and wealthy with relatively high economic status who has a strong ability to get the most attractive women for mates. Alpha males are more about exhibiting traits that are essentially masculine and tends to "lead the pack".
The fact is that a lot of women are more attracted to alpha males than any other type of male. The alpha male in adult society is most likely to be most at ease with women. Being a bad boy playfully cocky with humor is a typical alpha male quality that can make women extremely attracted to you, and other men look up to and respect you more.
On the down side, questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates. Many of them tend to be prominent in society but have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.
At work, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence, but also may be demanding and difficult to work with. The alpha male is constantly attempting to retain his stature as alpha, or "number one." Being the top worker or the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.
Dating relationship statistics show that many alpha males seem to share many traits with Narcissists; however, a real alpha male doesn't have to be a jerk. True alpha males have no mystery method to attract women, exude male confidence and are simply men who have done the work to be good at interacting with women and expressing their romantic selves.
The fact is that a lot of women are more attracted to alpha males than any other type of male. The alpha male in adult society is most likely to be most at ease with women. Being a bad boy playfully cocky with humor is a typical alpha male quality that can make women extremely attracted to you, and other men look up to and respect you more.
On the down side, questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates. Many of them tend to be prominent in society but have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.
At work, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence, but also may be demanding and difficult to work with. The alpha male is constantly attempting to retain his stature as alpha, or "number one." Being the top worker or the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.
Dating relationship statistics show that many alpha males seem to share many traits with Narcissists; however, a real alpha male doesn't have to be a jerk. True alpha males have no mystery method to attract women, exude male confidence and are simply men who have done the work to be good at interacting with women and expressing their romantic selves.
4 Ways To Increase Your Value
In the dating game, a woman will always go crazy for that man for whom she had to work hard to get. However, for a woman to feel naturally attracted to you and perceive your value, you have to start working on ways to improve that rating of yours to a new level. In order to get your value higher, you have to focus on the following four points:
1. Make yourself scarce
If you're the type of guy who is an open book, hangs around all the time or doesn’t wait long enough to call a woman back, there’s no motivation to make her come after you. For a woman to value your presence, you have to make her put some work into hanging out with you. Decline or ignore any first advances or invitations you receive from a woman and make yourself appear busy and in demand. Tell her something like, “Oh, you want to hang out on Saturday night? Geez, I don't know. I have this other thing going on, and I don’t know if I can get out of it.” By being a challenge to women, you’ll leave them wanting more and you will be perceived as scarce and hence, more valuable.
2. Stand up for yourself
Men that do not stand up for themselves lower their value because women perceive them as desperate, needy and eager to please. To increase your value, let a woman know politely that you are upset if she does things that anger you. Furthermore, let her know that you have strong morals that you stand by and if they are not followed, you will not hesitate to end a relationship and kindly escort her out of your life without hesitation.
3. Be intriguing
Women want men who can offer them intellectual stimulation. Being intriguing is a key element in attracting women because it gets them thinking about you when you’re not there and gets them frustrated--in a good way! And as they try to figure you out, they’re investing more and more time thinking about who you are, what you do, what you're like, etc... The more and more intrigued a woman becomes, the more she'll feel like you are a riddle she HAS to solve.
4. Increase your social proof
Social proof plays a crucial role in getting women to look your way and is a strong force that can increase your value in just about any dating situation. When you go out to various places, engage in small conversations with friends and acquaintances and don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to people you don’t know. By conveying a message that you are a cool and interesting guy who has a lot going on in his life and is worthy of attention, a woman will begin to wonder “who is this guy and why does he seem so popular with people?” She will then become so curious she’ll think you could be someone really interesting, hence someone she should meet.
1. Make yourself scarce
If you're the type of guy who is an open book, hangs around all the time or doesn’t wait long enough to call a woman back, there’s no motivation to make her come after you. For a woman to value your presence, you have to make her put some work into hanging out with you. Decline or ignore any first advances or invitations you receive from a woman and make yourself appear busy and in demand. Tell her something like, “Oh, you want to hang out on Saturday night? Geez, I don't know. I have this other thing going on, and I don’t know if I can get out of it.” By being a challenge to women, you’ll leave them wanting more and you will be perceived as scarce and hence, more valuable.
2. Stand up for yourself
Men that do not stand up for themselves lower their value because women perceive them as desperate, needy and eager to please. To increase your value, let a woman know politely that you are upset if she does things that anger you. Furthermore, let her know that you have strong morals that you stand by and if they are not followed, you will not hesitate to end a relationship and kindly escort her out of your life without hesitation.
3. Be intriguing
Women want men who can offer them intellectual stimulation. Being intriguing is a key element in attracting women because it gets them thinking about you when you’re not there and gets them frustrated--in a good way! And as they try to figure you out, they’re investing more and more time thinking about who you are, what you do, what you're like, etc... The more and more intrigued a woman becomes, the more she'll feel like you are a riddle she HAS to solve.
4. Increase your social proof
Social proof plays a crucial role in getting women to look your way and is a strong force that can increase your value in just about any dating situation. When you go out to various places, engage in small conversations with friends and acquaintances and don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to people you don’t know. By conveying a message that you are a cool and interesting guy who has a lot going on in his life and is worthy of attention, a woman will begin to wonder “who is this guy and why does he seem so popular with people?” She will then become so curious she’ll think you could be someone really interesting, hence someone she should meet.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
"Create Your Own Experience"
You’ve made plenty of mistakes. Now is when you can positively apply the lessons you’ve learned from those mistakes.
You’ve made lots of excuses, and found that those excuses have not brought any value to your life. Now you’re in a position to leave the excuses behind and to take the actions that create real value.
You’ve fantasized about getting something for nothing. Yet now you realize that your own fulfillment must come from your own efforts.
It’s easy to see now that most of the limitations that have held you back have been self-imposed. And with that realization comes genuine freedom from those limitations.
When you understand how much you’ve held yourself back, you can also see how truly powerful you are. Now is your opportunity to direct that power toward a meaningful, positive purpose.
Each day, each moment, you create your own unique experience of life. Now, get busy and create something truly magnificent.....
"Be Creative, Be Unique, Be Dcesive, Be Evasive, Innovative, Be Stylish, Be Crafty, Be Focused, Do something Special, Different and Make a Difference. Make everyday Great!! Be every bit of the Swagger you carry with you everyday. Own it. Be You!!"
~~ Joe "J Rag" Rago
http://www.twitter.com/jragmusic
You’ve made lots of excuses, and found that those excuses have not brought any value to your life. Now you’re in a position to leave the excuses behind and to take the actions that create real value.
You’ve fantasized about getting something for nothing. Yet now you realize that your own fulfillment must come from your own efforts.
It’s easy to see now that most of the limitations that have held you back have been self-imposed. And with that realization comes genuine freedom from those limitations.
When you understand how much you’ve held yourself back, you can also see how truly powerful you are. Now is your opportunity to direct that power toward a meaningful, positive purpose.
Each day, each moment, you create your own unique experience of life. Now, get busy and create something truly magnificent.....
"Be Creative, Be Unique, Be Dcesive, Be Evasive, Innovative, Be Stylish, Be Crafty, Be Focused, Do something Special, Different and Make a Difference. Make everyday Great!! Be every bit of the Swagger you carry with you everyday. Own it. Be You!!"
~~ Joe "J Rag" Rago
http://www.twitter.com/jragmusic
"Be That Person"
There are certain things you seek to experience, and a certain life you desire to live. To experience that life, be that person who will live it.
Be that person on the inside, with your thoughts, values, priorities and commitments. Be that person on the outside, with your actions, your relationships and your gifts to life.
You have control over who you are and what you do, so make good and meaningful use of that control. Be that person who is qualified, prepared and inspired to live the life you wish to live.
Give achievement a prominent place within who you are. And you’ll experience that achievement as it becomes real in the world around you.
Give your dreams the love and attention they deserve. And you’ll see those dreams come to fruition in your life.
Within you is a vision that’s your very own, unique gift to all that is. Be that person who lives that vision, and from it you’ll create great and wonderful richness....
Be that person on the inside, with your thoughts, values, priorities and commitments. Be that person on the outside, with your actions, your relationships and your gifts to life.
You have control over who you are and what you do, so make good and meaningful use of that control. Be that person who is qualified, prepared and inspired to live the life you wish to live.
Give achievement a prominent place within who you are. And you’ll experience that achievement as it becomes real in the world around you.
Give your dreams the love and attention they deserve. And you’ll see those dreams come to fruition in your life.
Within you is a vision that’s your very own, unique gift to all that is. Be that person who lives that vision, and from it you’ll create great and wonderful richness....
Responsible & Confident
Responsibility and confidence go hand in hand. Only when you are willing to be fully responsible for your life can you be truly confident in your efforts.
Without responsibility, you might be able to project some degree of self assurance through arrogance. Yet it will lack the power of true confidence.
When you’re unwilling to take full responsibility for your own life, think of the message that sends. In effect, you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough, and that’s devastating for your confidence.
You are indeed good enough, and capable of rock solid confidence. The way to connect with and strengthen that confidence is through responsibility.
Don’t blame your bad fortune on others, or expect others to supply you with good fortune. Enthusiastically embrace complete responsibility for the quality of your life.
Embrace responsibility and your confidence will soar. Embrace responsibility and confidently live life on your own very best terms
Read more: http://greatday.com/motivate/120316.html#ixzz1rkLjBPRe
Without responsibility, you might be able to project some degree of self assurance through arrogance. Yet it will lack the power of true confidence.
When you’re unwilling to take full responsibility for your own life, think of the message that sends. In effect, you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough, and that’s devastating for your confidence.
You are indeed good enough, and capable of rock solid confidence. The way to connect with and strengthen that confidence is through responsibility.
Don’t blame your bad fortune on others, or expect others to supply you with good fortune. Enthusiastically embrace complete responsibility for the quality of your life.
Embrace responsibility and your confidence will soar. Embrace responsibility and confidently live life on your own very best terms
Read more: http://greatday.com/motivate/120316.html#ixzz1rkLjBPRe
Be Inspiring
Common sense would tell you that it’s difficult to be positive and inspired when the circumstances of your life are negative or painful or disheartening. Yet it is at precisely those times that inspiration can be the most beneficial.
Certainly there are many things in life that can lead you and prompt you to be inspired. However, even without any positive factors in the outside world, you can be positively inspired.
Inspiration is a powerful fire that burns on the inside. Sometimes there’s nothing else to ignite that fire, so you must do it yourself.
Sometimes life’s experience doesn’t validate or encourage your most deeply held values. But that’s not any reason to abandon those values.
Instead of always depending on the world to inspire you, choose to be a brilliant, positive source of inspiration yourself. The spark of inspiration must begin somewhere, so if life seems to lack inspiration, let that spark begin with you.
The most reliable way to be inspired is to be inspiring. Feel the simple, yet profound joy of being, and let your positive spirit shine a light that lifts up all those around you.
2012 MindScApe Entertainment(R). All Rights Reserved. (c)J Rag Publishing(ASCAP).
Certainly there are many things in life that can lead you and prompt you to be inspired. However, even without any positive factors in the outside world, you can be positively inspired.
Inspiration is a powerful fire that burns on the inside. Sometimes there’s nothing else to ignite that fire, so you must do it yourself.
Sometimes life’s experience doesn’t validate or encourage your most deeply held values. But that’s not any reason to abandon those values.
Instead of always depending on the world to inspire you, choose to be a brilliant, positive source of inspiration yourself. The spark of inspiration must begin somewhere, so if life seems to lack inspiration, let that spark begin with you.
The most reliable way to be inspired is to be inspiring. Feel the simple, yet profound joy of being, and let your positive spirit shine a light that lifts up all those around you.
2012 MindScApe Entertainment(R). All Rights Reserved. (c)J Rag Publishing(ASCAP).
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Why We Get On Each Others Nerves
Men love women. They do. But that doesn’t mean women don’t drive them crazy. Even after oceans of ink have been spilled about how the two sexes can better understand and accept each other, women still find ways to annoy men — and vice versa. Here are the top five ways she’s making you crazy right now. Ladies, are you guilty of any of these irritating behaviors?
1. Game-playing/manufacturing drama. There are lots of ways to create drama and excitement in a relationship, but men aren’t usually fans — unless said excitement involves clothing removal. “Asking too much too soon about his past relationships” is one way women drive men nuts and create drama, says Dr. Linda R. Young, Ph.D., a psychologist and relationship coach who blogs for Psychology Today. Making him late by taking too long to get ready is another. Getting irrationally jealous over platonic friends or running hot, then cold with no explanation are just a few more.
Whether the drama is minor or significant, men would rather skip it. “I think these [behaviors] exist because men and women don’t have the skills to live beyond the ‘game-playing’ they learned as adolescents, which is perpetuated by the media,” explains Marni Battista, expert dating coach and founder of DatingWithDignity.com. “It takes an entire toolkit of advanced skills to create truly win-win situations in relationships. A person who doesn’t have these skills will always go to those old ‘default’ tendencies to fill the void.” And thus, drama is Born......
Ask yourself: Have I recently thrown either an object or a tantrum? If the answer is “yes,” you might be a drama queen. Take it down a notch by talking to your partner about why you’re feeling so angry and exactly what you need to feel calmer in the relationship. If you’re the one dealing with a drama queen, tell her you’re happy to discuss problems like an adult but you’re not interested in entertaining a whole restaurant with her shenanigans. If she doesn’t calm down, tell her to audition for a reality show and leave you alone.
2. Expecting the man to pay for everything. Most men don’t mind picking up the check early on in a courtship, but after a few dates, it’s nice for a woman to offer to contribute financially — especially if exclusivity has been established. Men like to be generous, but they don’t like to be taken for suckers, especially if the woman they’re seeing has a good job. As a corollary to this one, “Men are often put off by women trying to get a sense early on about what he does for a living and how much he earns,” says Dr. Seth Meyers, a Los Angeles-based psychologist and author of Dr. Seth’s Love Prescription. Men are people, too. If they feel they’re being sized up for more shallow, resume-type qualities, they’ll be annoyed.
3. “Wanting to know ‘where the relationship is going’ before he’s ready to say, or before he knows himself,” is a big one, according to Dr. Young. Dating is supposed to be a chance to get to know another person. It’s not a guarantee of finding a certain kind of relationship, and women who treat it this way drive men nuts. It’s almost as if the woman is selling herself short — after all, you can’t help but ask why a lady would want some kind of commitment from someone she doesn’t really know yet. Why is her “audition process” so short? Likewise, “Men often get bothered with women asking or talking about their beliefs about marriage and children early in the dating process,” observes Meyers. It puts too much pressure on what should be the fun part of getting to know someone when the end goal is the only thing a woman wants to focus on.
If the relationship isn’t likely to blossom into something steady and he’s upfront about that, a man wants the woman to hear what he’s saying and take him at face value. “Men are frustrated by women who don’t really believe them when they say, ‘I’m not in a place to have a relationship, but I really like hanging out with you,’” says Battista. “A man will give this ‘disclaimer’ and then be irritated when the woman finds she can’t change him, then begins to get angry that he hasn’t met her expectations.” If a woman wants to know how a man really feels and then gets hysterical after an honest response, it’s enough to — you guessed it — drive him crazy.
4. Being controlling. “Correcting him on little details when he’s got the big picture right,” adds Dr. Young, is another thing that drives men bonkers. It’s often true that women are better at multitasking, but that doesn’t mean they have to run every detail of the show. A man will get frustrated if a woman asks him to do something then won’t give him a chance to do it his way. The real show-stopper is when she then claims she “has to do everything around here!” If this situation sounds familiar, how can you improve it?
“If you want to put a stop to people’s annoying behavior, you first have to make them aware of it,” says Marc Muchnick, Ph.D., author of No More Regrets! 30 Ways to Greater Happiness and Meaning in Your Life. “Often, people don’t realize that what they are doing is bugging you, so when you tell them, it may come as a surprise.” So tell your significant other that she has to trust you if she doesn’t want to plan every meal, vacation and weekend you spend together, guys. Then do a good job with the task — in your own way, of course — and she just might back off.
5. Not getting enough “guy time.” In ancient cultures, men often spent most of their time with other men while the women socialized with each other. That, as we all know, has changed. And it’s hard for some men to accept. They want their guy time, and it’s rough when women don’t respect that. As long as “guys’ night out” isn’t a code for regularly losing thousands of dollars gambling or paying for strippers, men deserve to have time with their male friends. Deciding exactly how much time is appropriate should be left up to each couple. Remind her that time spent away from each other means the time you do have together will be that much richer — especially with funny stories about the ridiculous thing your buddy Paulie did last weekend. The key is, be reasonable. If you want more guy time than gal time, maybe having a wife or a girlfriend isn’t in the cards for you.
1. Game-playing/manufacturing drama. There are lots of ways to create drama and excitement in a relationship, but men aren’t usually fans — unless said excitement involves clothing removal. “Asking too much too soon about his past relationships” is one way women drive men nuts and create drama, says Dr. Linda R. Young, Ph.D., a psychologist and relationship coach who blogs for Psychology Today. Making him late by taking too long to get ready is another. Getting irrationally jealous over platonic friends or running hot, then cold with no explanation are just a few more.
Whether the drama is minor or significant, men would rather skip it. “I think these [behaviors] exist because men and women don’t have the skills to live beyond the ‘game-playing’ they learned as adolescents, which is perpetuated by the media,” explains Marni Battista, expert dating coach and founder of DatingWithDignity.com. “It takes an entire toolkit of advanced skills to create truly win-win situations in relationships. A person who doesn’t have these skills will always go to those old ‘default’ tendencies to fill the void.” And thus, drama is Born......
Ask yourself: Have I recently thrown either an object or a tantrum? If the answer is “yes,” you might be a drama queen. Take it down a notch by talking to your partner about why you’re feeling so angry and exactly what you need to feel calmer in the relationship. If you’re the one dealing with a drama queen, tell her you’re happy to discuss problems like an adult but you’re not interested in entertaining a whole restaurant with her shenanigans. If she doesn’t calm down, tell her to audition for a reality show and leave you alone.
2. Expecting the man to pay for everything. Most men don’t mind picking up the check early on in a courtship, but after a few dates, it’s nice for a woman to offer to contribute financially — especially if exclusivity has been established. Men like to be generous, but they don’t like to be taken for suckers, especially if the woman they’re seeing has a good job. As a corollary to this one, “Men are often put off by women trying to get a sense early on about what he does for a living and how much he earns,” says Dr. Seth Meyers, a Los Angeles-based psychologist and author of Dr. Seth’s Love Prescription. Men are people, too. If they feel they’re being sized up for more shallow, resume-type qualities, they’ll be annoyed.
3. “Wanting to know ‘where the relationship is going’ before he’s ready to say, or before he knows himself,” is a big one, according to Dr. Young. Dating is supposed to be a chance to get to know another person. It’s not a guarantee of finding a certain kind of relationship, and women who treat it this way drive men nuts. It’s almost as if the woman is selling herself short — after all, you can’t help but ask why a lady would want some kind of commitment from someone she doesn’t really know yet. Why is her “audition process” so short? Likewise, “Men often get bothered with women asking or talking about their beliefs about marriage and children early in the dating process,” observes Meyers. It puts too much pressure on what should be the fun part of getting to know someone when the end goal is the only thing a woman wants to focus on.
If the relationship isn’t likely to blossom into something steady and he’s upfront about that, a man wants the woman to hear what he’s saying and take him at face value. “Men are frustrated by women who don’t really believe them when they say, ‘I’m not in a place to have a relationship, but I really like hanging out with you,’” says Battista. “A man will give this ‘disclaimer’ and then be irritated when the woman finds she can’t change him, then begins to get angry that he hasn’t met her expectations.” If a woman wants to know how a man really feels and then gets hysterical after an honest response, it’s enough to — you guessed it — drive him crazy.
4. Being controlling. “Correcting him on little details when he’s got the big picture right,” adds Dr. Young, is another thing that drives men bonkers. It’s often true that women are better at multitasking, but that doesn’t mean they have to run every detail of the show. A man will get frustrated if a woman asks him to do something then won’t give him a chance to do it his way. The real show-stopper is when she then claims she “has to do everything around here!” If this situation sounds familiar, how can you improve it?
“If you want to put a stop to people’s annoying behavior, you first have to make them aware of it,” says Marc Muchnick, Ph.D., author of No More Regrets! 30 Ways to Greater Happiness and Meaning in Your Life. “Often, people don’t realize that what they are doing is bugging you, so when you tell them, it may come as a surprise.” So tell your significant other that she has to trust you if she doesn’t want to plan every meal, vacation and weekend you spend together, guys. Then do a good job with the task — in your own way, of course — and she just might back off.
5. Not getting enough “guy time.” In ancient cultures, men often spent most of their time with other men while the women socialized with each other. That, as we all know, has changed. And it’s hard for some men to accept. They want their guy time, and it’s rough when women don’t respect that. As long as “guys’ night out” isn’t a code for regularly losing thousands of dollars gambling or paying for strippers, men deserve to have time with their male friends. Deciding exactly how much time is appropriate should be left up to each couple. Remind her that time spent away from each other means the time you do have together will be that much richer — especially with funny stories about the ridiculous thing your buddy Paulie did last weekend. The key is, be reasonable. If you want more guy time than gal time, maybe having a wife or a girlfriend isn’t in the cards for you.
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