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Monday, April 13, 2015
"72 Relationship Quotes"
3.Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.
4.Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around. Read The 5 Love Languages.
5.The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling. And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it.
6.Choose your relationships wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
7.Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.
8.Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
9.Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.
10.You know you’ve found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.
11.Don’t wait for the right person to come into your life. Rather, be the right person to come to someone’s life.
12.The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.
13.Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
14.Some relationships are like glass. It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.
15.Just because one person doesn’t seem to care for you, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who does.
16.Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
17.It is okay to be angry. It is never okay to be cruel.
18.Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.
19.Silence is often the loudest cry. Pay attention to those you care about.
20.We don’t always need advice. Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.
21.It’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel.
22.A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.
23.Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.
24.True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.
25.Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful.
26.If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down. Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
27.Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.
28.Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t expect others to read your mind, and don’t play games with their heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out. Half-truths are no better than lies. And don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.
29.Lies help no one in the long run. So… 1) Don’t say “I love you” if you don’t mean it. 2) Don’t say “I understand” if you have no clue. 3) Don’t say “I’m sorry” if you’re not. 4) Be honest with yourself and your loved ones.
30.Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you. Read The Four Agreements.
31.Good relationships don’t just happen; they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be together.
32.Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.
33.Love doesn’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
34.When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority. Loyalty is everything.
35.A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.
36.Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own. Don’t waste your time on jealousy. The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
37.Do not become possessive. The purpose of a relationship is to complement each other, grow together, and achieve your common goals as a couple. At the same time, you must each maintain your individual identity as a human being.
38.Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
39.Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.
40.Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
41.You don’t really need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.
42.Speak when you are very angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
43.Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Let it go.
44.As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
45.Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
46.Respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained, and loyalty is returned.
47.Never waste a moment, it may be the last with someone you love.
48.If you love someone, tell them. Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous. What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.
49.Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.
50.Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
51.The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
52.A real person is not perfect, and a perfect person is not real.
53.To the world, you might be just one person. But to one person, you might be the world.
54.Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.
55.No relationship is a waste of time. The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.
56.The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to move forward is the happiest.
57.If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
58.Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.
59.When the pain of holding on is worse than the pain of letting go, it is time to let go.
60.If a friend is in trouble, don’t bother them by asking if there is anything you can do. Think of something appropriate and do it.
61.Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right. We do not always need an intelligent mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.
62.Be the friend that you want to have.
63.There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family. Both sets of people are priceless.
64.In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
65.Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future.
66.Don’t try to be everything to everyone. Be everything to someone.
67.Let us remember that we can’t force anyone to love us. We can’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave and be with someone else. This is what love is all about. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of understanding that love leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.
68.When things fall apart, consider the possibility that life knocked it down on purpose. Not to bully you, or to punish you, but to prompt you to build something that better suits your personality and your purpose. Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall together. Read The Road Less Traveled.
69.Everyone wants a perfect ending. But over the years I’ve learned that some of the best poems don’t rhyme, and many great stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing, embracing change, and taking a moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next.
70.In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So stay in touch with those who truly matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.
71.Never neglect the people who are most important to you simply because you think they will always be there. Because one morning you might wake up and realize you lost the moon while counting the stars.
72.True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.
73.True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.
74.When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back. It’s one of the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.
75.Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.
4.Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around. Read The 5 Love Languages.
5.The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling. And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it.
6.Choose your relationships wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
7.Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.
8.Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
9.Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.
10.You know you’ve found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.
11.Don’t wait for the right person to come into your life. Rather, be the right person to come to someone’s life.
12.The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.
13.Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
14.Some relationships are like glass. It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.
15.Just because one person doesn’t seem to care for you, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who does.
16.Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
17.It is okay to be angry. It is never okay to be cruel.
18.Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.
19.Silence is often the loudest cry. Pay attention to those you care about.
20.We don’t always need advice. Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.
21.It’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel.
22.A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.
23.Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.
24.True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.
25.Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful.
26.If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down. Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
27.Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.
28.Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t expect others to read your mind, and don’t play games with their heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out. Half-truths are no better than lies. And don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.
29.Lies help no one in the long run. So… 1) Don’t say “I love you” if you don’t mean it. 2) Don’t say “I understand” if you have no clue. 3) Don’t say “I’m sorry” if you’re not. 4) Be honest with yourself and your loved ones.
30.Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you. Read The Four Agreements.
31.Good relationships don’t just happen; they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be together.
32.Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.
33.Love doesn’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
34.When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority. Loyalty is everything.
35.A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.
36.Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own. Don’t waste your time on jealousy. The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
37.Do not become possessive. The purpose of a relationship is to complement each other, grow together, and achieve your common goals as a couple. At the same time, you must each maintain your individual identity as a human being.
38.Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
39.Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.
40.Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
41.You don’t really need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.
42.Speak when you are very angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
43.Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Let it go.
44.As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
45.Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
46.Respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained, and loyalty is returned.
47.Never waste a moment, it may be the last with someone you love.
48.If you love someone, tell them. Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous. What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.
49.Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.
50.Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
51.The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
52.A real person is not perfect, and a perfect person is not real.
53.To the world, you might be just one person. But to one person, you might be the world.
54.Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.
55.No relationship is a waste of time. The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.
56.The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to move forward is the happiest.
57.If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
58.Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.
59.When the pain of holding on is worse than the pain of letting go, it is time to let go.
60.If a friend is in trouble, don’t bother them by asking if there is anything you can do. Think of something appropriate and do it.
61.Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right. We do not always need an intelligent mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.
62.Be the friend that you want to have.
63.There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family. Both sets of people are priceless.
64.In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
65.Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future.
66.Don’t try to be everything to everyone. Be everything to someone.
67.Let us remember that we can’t force anyone to love us. We can’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave and be with someone else. This is what love is all about. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of understanding that love leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.
68.When things fall apart, consider the possibility that life knocked it down on purpose. Not to bully you, or to punish you, but to prompt you to build something that better suits your personality and your purpose. Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall together. Read The Road Less Traveled.
69.Everyone wants a perfect ending. But over the years I’ve learned that some of the best poems don’t rhyme, and many great stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing, embracing change, and taking a moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next.
70.In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So stay in touch with those who truly matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.
71.Never neglect the people who are most important to you simply because you think they will always be there. Because one morning you might wake up and realize you lost the moon while counting the stars.
72.True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.
73.True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.
74.When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back. It’s one of the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.
75.Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.
Tuesday, April 7, 2015
"Don't Miss Out On Exectly What You Been Looking For"
"Sometimes People aren't ready to be in a relationship because they are not in a place in their life where they feel they are ready to give someone all of the time, attention, and love that the person needs or deserves.
It doesn't always have to be something wrong. Like there's gotta be something wrong because on paper everything seems too right. Or because there's someone else they are still stuck on...
Maybe up until now, maybe this person just wanted to be honest with themself, which is being honest to you as well. And when you get to that point where you know what you want. Fight for what you want. Stand up for what you want...
If not it will slip right through your hands and into someone else's... You just may miss out on exactly what you always wanted by letting it get away from you....
And if you let it go without ever giving it a chance then you gotta face living with regret..."
~ J Rag
It doesn't always have to be something wrong. Like there's gotta be something wrong because on paper everything seems too right. Or because there's someone else they are still stuck on...
Maybe up until now, maybe this person just wanted to be honest with themself, which is being honest to you as well. And when you get to that point where you know what you want. Fight for what you want. Stand up for what you want...
If not it will slip right through your hands and into someone else's... You just may miss out on exactly what you always wanted by letting it get away from you....
And if you let it go without ever giving it a chance then you gotta face living with regret..."
~ J Rag
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Dating An Emotional Bully?
Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship; however, if you use words like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile to describe your girlfriend and your relationship, odds are you’re dating an emotional bully. Life is too short to waste time in this kind of relationship, so you need to run for the hills if your woman holds more than one of these attributes at any given time on a continual basis:
1. She creates constant chaos
She’s addicted to conflict and seems to get a rush from the adrenaline and drama. She deliberately starts arguments and conflict to keep you engaged or as a way to get you to react to her with hostility so that she can accuse you of being abusive and she can play the victim.
2. She constantly puts you down
She uses verbal assaults and constantly employs tactics such as name calling, criticizing, threatening, screaming, sarcasm, and humiliation as well as exaggerating your flaws and making fun of you in front of your friends, family and even your children.
3. She has constant mood swings with unpredictable responses
One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. Then the cycle repeats itself, again and again.
4. She makes you feel like you can never do enough
She'll keep reminding you of the areas you're lacking and destroy your self-confidence by saying that you don't love her enough, you're not romantic enough, you're not smart enough to figure out her needs or that you don't make enough money to satisfy her. She puts you in no-win situations with her endless list of demands that no one mortal man could ever fulfill.
5. She constantly blackmails you
She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She threatens to deny you of physical and emotional nurturing, withhold affection and sex, abandon you, and even end the relationship if you don’t play by her rules. She plays on your fears, vulnerabilities, weaknesses, shame, compassion, and other “buttons” to control you and get what she wants.
1. She creates constant chaos
She’s addicted to conflict and seems to get a rush from the adrenaline and drama. She deliberately starts arguments and conflict to keep you engaged or as a way to get you to react to her with hostility so that she can accuse you of being abusive and she can play the victim.
2. She constantly puts you down
She uses verbal assaults and constantly employs tactics such as name calling, criticizing, threatening, screaming, sarcasm, and humiliation as well as exaggerating your flaws and making fun of you in front of your friends, family and even your children.
3. She has constant mood swings with unpredictable responses
One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. Then the cycle repeats itself, again and again.
4. She makes you feel like you can never do enough
She'll keep reminding you of the areas you're lacking and destroy your self-confidence by saying that you don't love her enough, you're not romantic enough, you're not smart enough to figure out her needs or that you don't make enough money to satisfy her. She puts you in no-win situations with her endless list of demands that no one mortal man could ever fulfill.
5. She constantly blackmails you
She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She threatens to deny you of physical and emotional nurturing, withhold affection and sex, abandon you, and even end the relationship if you don’t play by her rules. She plays on your fears, vulnerabilities, weaknesses, shame, compassion, and other “buttons” to control you and get what she wants.
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Single Fathers and Dating
Single fathers and dating. Now, I personally wasn't so much craving for the attention of a Woman or companionship. I specifically was craving the want, love, passion, desire, romance and companionship of one woman, and one woman in particular. The Woman, was the mother of my son. That is the only person that I wanted in my life and wanted to give all of my love to.......
Most single fathers crave for the companionship of female company even more than single guys and having someone to share with, to laugh with, and to trust again. Although there's a void in your heart now that aches to be filled, prepare yourself and your kids before you become a dating single parent with the following steps:
1. Make taking care of yourself a priority
Doing this shows self-respect and it's a reflection of your personal boundaries.
2. Widen Your Circle of Friends
Make an effort to establish deeper friendships. Deeper relationships can enrich your life, and new friends will also introduce you to their friends, who might become great companions.
3. Get out of the house regularly
When your children are accustomed to your going out occasionally, and being a dating single parent won't seem like such a shock to them.
4. Be observant of relationships around you
As a dating single parent, you must pay attention to the relationships around you. Doing so can help you identify not only the type of woman you are looking for-but also the type of woman you're not.
5. Talk with your kids about dating
Take time to talk with your kids about your desire to date. Be honest with their questions and clue them in to your intentions. Make sure they know that you are looking for the right woman for you, not a replacement mother for your children.
Most single fathers crave for the companionship of female company even more than single guys and having someone to share with, to laugh with, and to trust again. Although there's a void in your heart now that aches to be filled, prepare yourself and your kids before you become a dating single parent with the following steps:
1. Make taking care of yourself a priority
Doing this shows self-respect and it's a reflection of your personal boundaries.
2. Widen Your Circle of Friends
Make an effort to establish deeper friendships. Deeper relationships can enrich your life, and new friends will also introduce you to their friends, who might become great companions.
3. Get out of the house regularly
When your children are accustomed to your going out occasionally, and being a dating single parent won't seem like such a shock to them.
4. Be observant of relationships around you
As a dating single parent, you must pay attention to the relationships around you. Doing so can help you identify not only the type of woman you are looking for-but also the type of woman you're not.
5. Talk with your kids about dating
Take time to talk with your kids about your desire to date. Be honest with their questions and clue them in to your intentions. Make sure they know that you are looking for the right woman for you, not a replacement mother for your children.
Friday, January 20, 2012
Ask Her Out & Get A YES.....
How to Ask Your Crush Out on a Date and Get a Yes
More often than not, it's nerve-wracking to ask someone out on a date. You have one chance to make a good impression and if you suddenly become speechless as you eyes meet, you may loose it. Instead, be proactive, prepare, and think of your approach from the other person's perspective. In other words, what's in it for her (him)?
Keep your approach confident. We know, you have heard this one over and over again. But it's a keeper and if you don't feel the confidence, neither will your perspective date. If you're feeling a little unsure of yourself, practice in a mirror. Sounds corny? Yes, but it works. Everyone from rock stars to politicians practice in front of mirrors. If it works to build self-confidence for their performances and speeches, it will work for your mini-performance too.
Look your date target in the eye and smile, smile, smile. Looking the person in the eye works because it not only says you are confident, but it builds a personal connection and familiarity. (S)he will immediately feel a bond. Small as the bond is in the beginning, I know you want to do everything that helps your chance and this little tidbit helps. Keep smiling while you do it. Everyone looks better in a smile and yours is especially nice.
Motivate your perspective date to take action. That's business speak for make the offer so tempting (s)he cannot refuse. Besides time with cute, sexy you, what else can you offer on the date so it's too hard to resist?
Is she a lover of Chinese food? Offer to take her on a tour of little China in your city pointing out some great, uniquely Chinese shops. End up at a Chinese restaurant that has a great reputation. Does she love wine? Offer to take her to a local winery where you can learn about what wines go with certain foods. She'll love tasting the gourmet delicacies the winery will provide. Is he a fan of the local football team? Snag some great seats and promise him a hotdog and a beer to go with it. How could he resist?
If you practice these three principles the next time you want to ask someone out on a date, you'll really look good. You will appear (and be) confident and friendly, and, most of all, you will stand out from the crowd because your offer is tantalizingly out of the ordinary. Who wouldn't say, "Yes"?
More often than not, it's nerve-wracking to ask someone out on a date. You have one chance to make a good impression and if you suddenly become speechless as you eyes meet, you may loose it. Instead, be proactive, prepare, and think of your approach from the other person's perspective. In other words, what's in it for her (him)?
Keep your approach confident. We know, you have heard this one over and over again. But it's a keeper and if you don't feel the confidence, neither will your perspective date. If you're feeling a little unsure of yourself, practice in a mirror. Sounds corny? Yes, but it works. Everyone from rock stars to politicians practice in front of mirrors. If it works to build self-confidence for their performances and speeches, it will work for your mini-performance too.
Look your date target in the eye and smile, smile, smile. Looking the person in the eye works because it not only says you are confident, but it builds a personal connection and familiarity. (S)he will immediately feel a bond. Small as the bond is in the beginning, I know you want to do everything that helps your chance and this little tidbit helps. Keep smiling while you do it. Everyone looks better in a smile and yours is especially nice.
Motivate your perspective date to take action. That's business speak for make the offer so tempting (s)he cannot refuse. Besides time with cute, sexy you, what else can you offer on the date so it's too hard to resist?
Is she a lover of Chinese food? Offer to take her on a tour of little China in your city pointing out some great, uniquely Chinese shops. End up at a Chinese restaurant that has a great reputation. Does she love wine? Offer to take her to a local winery where you can learn about what wines go with certain foods. She'll love tasting the gourmet delicacies the winery will provide. Is he a fan of the local football team? Snag some great seats and promise him a hotdog and a beer to go with it. How could he resist?
If you practice these three principles the next time you want to ask someone out on a date, you'll really look good. You will appear (and be) confident and friendly, and, most of all, you will stand out from the crowd because your offer is tantalizingly out of the ordinary. Who wouldn't say, "Yes"?
What Not To Do When Dating A Woman
Many women are great at reading guys and knowing exactly who he is within the first few dates. These women seem to have a sixth sense and can decipher your future dating potential by what you say and what you do. Here's what to avoid if you want a woman to stick around. (N.B. These tips work equally well for women who are dating men as well.):
1. Bad mouthing others: If you are talking poorly about your co-worker, family, friends, or even the neighbour you just can't stand, she will think you have a negative outlook and love to gossip. She will also wonder if you will gossip about her in the same mean-spirited way behind her back. Keep things positive whenever you talk about the people in your life.
2. Living at your parents' home: We all love our parents and there is nothing wrong with showing that to others. In fact, there is everything right with it! Living with them at an age when you should be able to support yourself, however, could indicate to her that you still depend on them just a little more than you should as a grown man. If you depend on your parents now, she is thinking, will she be the one supporting you financially in the future? Maybe, she is thinking, you won't be able to reciprocate the favor for her if she needs it. Not ideal. She probably won't stick around as this is too heavy a financial burden for most people to bear. (Living with aging parents who need your help is one exception to this rule.)
3. Forgoing chivalry: In the dating world, chivalry is not dead, but it's often forgotten. Yet, being a gentleman is the surefire way into a woman's heart. Don't forgo opening the door for her or pulling her chair away from the table so she may sit first. It may seem old-fashioned in today's society of equality, but on a date a woman really wants to feel like a lady, not a buddy.
4. Appearing to have a negative outlook: Don't complain. Period. Complaining makes a man look weak and juvenile because he hasn't done anything about the things that bother him. It also drains her to listen to complaining and makes her feel unhappy too. That is the opposite of how you want her to feel while with you, right? As the saying goes, "Don't say anything at all, unless you have something positive to say." Leave her feeling great after every date she has with you.
1. Bad mouthing others: If you are talking poorly about your co-worker, family, friends, or even the neighbour you just can't stand, she will think you have a negative outlook and love to gossip. She will also wonder if you will gossip about her in the same mean-spirited way behind her back. Keep things positive whenever you talk about the people in your life.
2. Living at your parents' home: We all love our parents and there is nothing wrong with showing that to others. In fact, there is everything right with it! Living with them at an age when you should be able to support yourself, however, could indicate to her that you still depend on them just a little more than you should as a grown man. If you depend on your parents now, she is thinking, will she be the one supporting you financially in the future? Maybe, she is thinking, you won't be able to reciprocate the favor for her if she needs it. Not ideal. She probably won't stick around as this is too heavy a financial burden for most people to bear. (Living with aging parents who need your help is one exception to this rule.)
3. Forgoing chivalry: In the dating world, chivalry is not dead, but it's often forgotten. Yet, being a gentleman is the surefire way into a woman's heart. Don't forgo opening the door for her or pulling her chair away from the table so she may sit first. It may seem old-fashioned in today's society of equality, but on a date a woman really wants to feel like a lady, not a buddy.
4. Appearing to have a negative outlook: Don't complain. Period. Complaining makes a man look weak and juvenile because he hasn't done anything about the things that bother him. It also drains her to listen to complaining and makes her feel unhappy too. That is the opposite of how you want her to feel while with you, right? As the saying goes, "Don't say anything at all, unless you have something positive to say." Leave her feeling great after every date she has with you.
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