Get Back To The Sexiness

Couples in long-term relationships often take each other for granted. Although our partners mean the world to us, sometimes we can get bogged down in the everyday pressures of life and may ignore their sexy side. How and why this happens can be a mystery to us. How can someone we thought to be the sexiest person walking on the face of the earth slowly turn into more of a friend than a lover?


Actually, this stage of a relationship is normal. When two people are in a long-term relationship, living life side by side and facing the challenges it brings, they are bound to become comfortable with each other. This level of comfort is a good thing. The trick is to keep (or get) the sexy back. Here's how:

Take a few moments every day to admire his body. Today, and everyday, spend a few moments a day appreciating his physical attributes. Does he have nice buns? Admire them. Give them a rub as you walk by him in the kitchen. Give them a quick kiss as he comes out of the shower. Are his eyes to die for? Shower them with gentle kisses. Spend a few moments looking into them in the morning before you get out of bed.

Give him a massage. Go over every inch of his body. He won't refuse your touch. Drizzle a seductive, gorgeous massage oil on his beautiful back, chest, manly arms, and sexy legs. He's all yours. Admire him. Use soft pressure in slow circular movements and he'll melt to your every wish. Your heart will feel the ultimate, warm connection with him as you rediscover what you have been overlooking lately.

Spontaneously put on your favorite, sexy music in the livingroom and invite him to dance with you so you can watch his body move. You can be guaranteed he'll be watching you too.


Does he love a good movie? Invite him out to dinner and a show so you can snuggle with him in the dark. Then kiss and embrace him in the theatre -- over and over again. You'll love it. He'll love you.


Remind yourself about his sexy personality. Is he reliable? Is he thoughtful of you? Is he kind towards you? Those attributes are sexy. Lucky you to have sexy him.

It's easy to ignore your partner's sexy side once you become life-long friends. But it's oh-so-fun to rediscover and indulge in it.

Improving Your Sex Life

Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. Although every relationship goes through its sexual ups and downs along with work, bills and other daily stressors, it's easy to see how sex can slip off your relationship radar. Whatever your situation, you must remember that physical intimacy is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship because it unites partners physically, emotionally and spiritually. So if you feel like you and your partner may be in a sexual rut, here are some key components needed to spark that awesome sex life you have always desired.


1. Create Passion
Men and women alike need to feel the passion and raw emotion that comes with incredible sexual experiences. But to keep the passion, you must be willing to put out the effort. Sex isn't a race, so take time to explore your partner and make sure that you are connecting on a more intimate level. Use anticipation as an aphrodisiac. Tell her what you want to do with each section of her exposed skin. Instead of tearing her clothes off, take your time, explore her body and use different types of foreplay. Take the time to explore and play with her body to find out what kind of touch sends her down the road into incredible sex.





2. Be Spontaneous
There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so use your imagination and come up with as many new positions as you desire. Don't be afraid to mix things up in bed. Furthermore, there is no rule that says that you have to have sex at 8:00pm every Wednesday--so, change up your normal routine. There is nothing that can turn a woman on more than taking sex out of the bedroom and into other areas, and simply changing locations can dramatically improve your love life.

The same old place leads to the same old patterns, so explore some new erogenous areas like the kitchen, living room, etc... Also, don't be afraid of new positions or trying out a new toy. To spice things up further, stepping out of the role of being "yourself" and role playing can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently. This may be awkward at first, but give it an honest try. You might just like it.




3. Be Open About Your Needs
After being in a relationship for a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is rarely true. If you or your partner's needs aren't being met between the sheets, it's time to have a conversation about it. There is always something you haven't tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently. Being open and honest with each other about your fantasies and desires can bring the passion to a whole new level. If you don't communicate, you'll never know or be able to get her "there."


4. Be Responsible
Practicing safe and responsible sex is also a key to happy sex life. Letting your partner know that you are prepared for the occasion, wherever it should arise, can also create the element of excitement and evoke thoughts of desire. This also shows that you love and respect your partner enough to make sure she stays healthy.